Adjusting status after death of spouse

[Robert S.]

The waitresses at Chinese restaurants are nearly all working under the table and taking home tips worth a heck of a lot more than minimum wage, I wish she could get one of those jobs.

[warpedbored]

Dunno Robert. She lives in Crystal Lake Il. about 50 miles from Chicago. I am sure if offered she would jump at the chance. Her English is some what limited. Maybe not adequate for high levels of customer service. If anyone in the area knows of any better jobs I am very sure she would be grateful.

[ptcrusier333rph]

Just a question is his family, ie brothers and sisters helping any, you think if he had any they would help.

 

Then not many people have family to rely on.

 

this is sad, being a poor student 15 all I can send at moment.

 

Robert

[DaveR]

Carl:

 

I will get a check mailed out on Monday.

 

Dave

[warpedbored]

No his family isn't helping at all. He has one no count brother and his parents are dead. He had custody of two boys from a previous marriage and Jimei was caring for them for a few months until his ex finally came and got them.

[Robert S.]

Dunno Robert.  She lives in  Crystal Lake Il. about 50 miles from Chicago.  I am sure if offered she would jump at the chance. Her English is some what limited.  Maybe not adequate for high levels of customer service. If anyone in the area knows of any better jobs I am very sure she would be grateful.

No matter how small it is there have got to be Chinese restaurants there. She could go to them all one by one and talk to the people. They have a lot of personnel turnover. Very little English is required and what little she needs they would teach her. If they don't need a waitress maybe she can put out food on the buffet, or box up food for the drive-thru. It is great the way Chinese people stick together and I believe they would want to help her.

[warpedbored]

Im not so sure about that Robert. Here in Portland they tend to want to take advantage of newcomers even if they have legal status and work authorization. One friend of mines wife who has a green card was offered a job under the table for 4 dollars an hour at one restaurant washing dishes. At another they offered her 1100 a month flat rate but wanted her to work 10 hours a day six days a week. The waitress positions are coveted by the senior employees because of the tips which they often have to share with the boss.

[Beachgirl]

why does not she go back to China? Is not it better to be with the family, friends and speak her own language and get a decent job than working in usa under table and suffering?

[hongrose1230]

I agree with Beachgirl, if you had a not nice life in USA,why not come back to China?? Life in China is not bad, at least if you are in China , you have family , friends can help....

[Feathers268]

Carl,

I'm in between paychecks so I can send you something this comming weekend. Maybe going back to China will be a good option for her, but too many details are missing. Perhaps that is where she will wind up, but for now my hopes are that she can over come this burden and land on her feet.

[NY-Viking]

A couple of people have mentioned returning to China, but there's obviously a lot of information we don't know about her case. Carl, do you know if she's considered this option?

[Jason+Joanna]

I just bought a new home, so I am going its going to be very tight for me until I can adjust my fianances properly to adjust to the new responsiblity. If she still needs help in 3 or 4 months -- let me know.

[warpedbored]

A couple of people have mentioned returning to China, but there's obviously a lot of information we don't know about her case.  Carl, do you know if she's considered this option?

She may end up having to do just that if she can't get her status adjusted. As for why she doesn't go back to China? I don't really know for sure. Many Chinese people come here and want to stay. She came here legally with good intentions. It is not her fault her husband died and left her in such a difficult position. If she wants to stay here and make a better life for herself and her daughter that is good enough for me. At least she didn't sneak across the border and ask for amnesty.

[Robert S.]

I have read somewhere that the death of the husband will not prevent her adjustment of status, must have been on the alt.visa.us.marriage-based board on Google. I wish she could get a lot of serious help. Maybe she and Jany could help each other.

[NY-Viking]

A couple of people have mentioned returning to China, but there's obviously a lot of information we don't know about her case.  Carl, do you know if she's considered this option?

She may end up having to do just that if she can't get her status adjusted. As for why she doesn't go back to China? I don't really know for sure. Many Chinese people come here and want to stay. She came here legally with good intentions. It is not her fault her husband died and left her in such a difficult position. If she wants to stay here and make a better life for herself and her daughter that is good enough for me. At least she didn't sneak across the border and ask for amnesty.

I agree 100% - didn't meant to imply she should leave. She's obviously in a very difficult position and was just curious if she felt somehow that she HAD to stay in the U.S. (rather than having the option do do so).