Beachgirl

I know your guys will question it. It happened to a girl, without meeting in person, but come to usa by K1 visa.

It does not matter how many times you met, even you never met her/him, as long as you can provide some documents, she/he still can get K1 visa. I think right now you should worry more about how the life is going to be later on as you only met 2 weeks in person? emailing, talking on the phone are different than living together, but anyway, marriage always needs to be developped. Good luck!

Good action, that is LOVE!!!

I helped people with the same sitatuation as I did, but I only help them because they are worth my help and at the same time, I have to be sure that my help is right and good for them. I donate 20 bucks every week in church, monthly amount is more than everybody donates the $$$ to that girl . I do not think that is good for helping her in her cecumstance.

I have to agree with you Carl. She needs to find the wizard and ask for a heart. Be sure my gender first, than say something.

ask the HR staff, they will give you an professional one. That is what I have done when my H1 granted. The letter will state: when did you start working there how much were you paid what is your position

VO: how did you come to USA Widow : I came here for marrying my fiancé because I love him VO so you came here for love Widow: yes VO: where is your love now? Widow: my husband is dead, VO: IC, so why you are still remaining here if your love is gone? As you said you came here for love, if love is gone, should not you go back? Widow: well, I love usa, I think I can get a better life here. (can VO accept this answer? ) VO: if you came here for love, and the love is gone, why you are still staying here? Widow: I love usa! VO: how long have you been in usa? Widow: 6 months VO: 6 months? So in this 6 months, you become loving usa this much? What does use give to you? Widow: well, usa does not give me anything, I am jobless as I have no EAD, I am asking help from church and friends as my husband did not leave anything for me and my daughter VO: even though, you still love usa and going to stay here no matter how hard it is for you? Widow: Yes, because I love usa, I think I will get a better life here. VO: do you have hardship to be back to China? Widow: yes, first, I love usa, second: I cant bear the public voice VO: what public voice? Chinese husband live forever and never died? China has no widow? Widow: ---------------- (keep silence, cant explain) VO: I think you came here for loving usa, I have no doubt for your marriage, I just could not understand why you are still remaining here if your love is gone as you said you came here for love, and you do not have any hardship to be back, I need a better explaintion. Widow: keep the head down, tears come out VO: sorry, USA does not believe tears, so does VO Widow: My husband dead, it is not my fault!!!!! VO: I did not say it is your fault that your husband's death Widow: then, why do not you give me green card: VO: Dear xxxx, My job is giving the green card to the person who came to usa did not get married to evade the immigration laws of the United States. As the explaination you gave to me are not convinced, I think you love usa more than your husband! Plus what contrabution you can give to usa and you and your daughter will not being a burden for usa?

She may end up having to do just that if she can't get her status adjusted. As for why she doesn't go back to China? I don't really know for sure. Many Chinese people come here and want to stay. She came here legally with good intentions. It is not her fault her husband died and left her in such a difficult position. If she wants to stay here and make a better life for herself and her daughter that is good enough for me. At least she didn't sneak across the border and ask for amnesty. Nobody cares her intention to be in USA, her action will prove it automatically. I do not find any difficulties for her to be back to China due to her hubby’s death, not abused or ended by divorce. It is only going to be good for her as that is her country and she can make living legally there. Reverse it will be hard for her to struggle and working under table and suffering here. As her situation, I strongly suggest her to be back to China better than suffering here. The longer she stays here, the harder for her to be back. I could not donate any single penny to her as I do not know if this action will help her or ruin her. I do not agree that USA is the ONLY place for Chinese to make a better life. Yeah, she did not across the border and asks for amnesty, but those people at least legally ask for something? But what is she doing? Working under table is illegally, is not it? I have one curiosity, if somebody’s spouse died, one part will stragulling at least 1 or 2 years, how can she has power to worry about her status here in usa now? If it is happened to me, I would find somewhere else to heal my heart, not staying at the place where the dead spouse is, do not you agree? I find your attitude callous and unfeeling. It is not your place to decide whether or not it is best for her to stay or go. I don't recall anyone saying Jany should go back to China. The woman is struggling to do the best she can. She did not ask for a handout. I asked for one for her. She is one of us. A Chinese woman who married an American man who only wanted a nice husband to settle down with. Instead she has had sorrow and hardship yet she still doesn't give up. She is still fighting. Shame on you Beach Girl. I only hope you never have to face any of problems Jimei has. I doubt you would have the character to survive it. why shame on me? what did I do wrong? Because I am the only one against you or what? Any of my replies are only based on the case, I never point out any names here, but you are pointing me personaly, you are so rude. I am not asking her to do what I said, I am just suggesting. If she can have a better life in her own country, why struggling here in USA? I do not care if she is a chinese, indian, black or american, I am only standing on the right. Not because she is chinese, I have to help her, If she is doing everything right or good for her, I will help no matter what. I just could not fina anything hard for her to be back, reverse, I feel so sorry for her to suffer here in usa. For her case, definatly good for her to be back to china. She wants to stay in usa? better legally, not work under table, My tax only pays for legally, not illegal one. If you want debate about the case, I am ready, but if you attact me personally or saying soemthing so low-leval, I look down you (period)

Standing in front of the mirror and ask the one in the mirror: 1. is there anything more important than having happiness? 2. can the guy you are with will give you a better life? if no, is there any Particular reason you have to be with him? 3. leaving him is better or staying with him and suffer better? 4. is the guy reliable for having his baby? Answer those questions to yourself, it will come to a conclusion. Here are something I would like to share with you, wish you can understand life more. *Do not spend time with someone who does not care spending it with you. *No person deserves your tears, and who deserves them wont make you cry. *Never stop smiling, not even when you are sad, someone might fall in love with your smile. *Maybe god wants you to meet many wrong people before you meet the right one, so when this happens, you will be thankfull. *Do not cry because it come to an end, smile because it happened. *There will always be people who will hurt you, so you need to continue trusting, just be careful. *Become a better person and be sure to know who you are before meeting someone new and hoping that person knows who you are. Love is from both sides, find somebody else who appreciated you. that is only my opion, you do not have to do what I said. Someone mentioned if divorce happened, your hubby might kick you back to china. do not worry about it. Divorce is one thing (if you have to meet it), green card is another thing, donot mess up them together, as long as your marriage is bona fide, nobody can kick you back. Make the desion base on your future happiness, do not let other things bother you. If you need somebody to talk with, my syphathy ears are always here for you. that will be good if you guys can work things out, if not, I can provide any help you need either financially or emotionally. Good luck!

Another Lawyer or law school student here?

She may end up having to do just that if she can't get her status adjusted. As for why she doesn't go back to China? I don't really know for sure. Many Chinese people come here and want to stay. She came here legally with good intentions. It is not her fault her husband died and left her in such a difficult position. If she wants to stay here and make a better life for herself and her daughter that is good enough for me. At least she didn't sneak across the border and ask for amnesty. Nobody cares her intention to be in USA, her action will prove it automatically. I do not find any difficulties for her to be back to China due to her hubby’s death, not abused or ended by divorce. It is only going to be good for her as that is her country and she can make living legally there. Reverse it will be hard for her to struggle and working under table and suffering here. As her situation, I strongly suggest her to be back to China better than suffering here. The longer she stays here, the harder for her to be back. I could not donate any single penny to her as I do not know if this action will help her or ruin her. I do not agree that USA is the ONLY place for Chinese to make a better life. Yeah, she did not across the border and asks for amnesty, but those people at least legally ask for something? But what is she doing? Working under table is illegally, is not it? I have one curiosity, if somebody’s spouse died, one part will stragulling at least 1 or 2 years, how can she has power to worry about her status here in usa now? If it is happened to me, I would find somewhere else to heal my heart, not staying at the place where the dead spouse is, do not you agree? "Nobody cares her intention to be in US." I do. If she wants to stay here. If she thinks she can make a better life here for her family then I say great and I sent in my money to help. I know Chinese people in China in very good positions who would prefer being in the US. Considering the circumstances I think she deserves our help. It's her life and her call. Let's help her if she wants to try to stay. Go ahead helping her, I only spoke out my opion, my post has no intention to stop your guys helping her. Do you want to go to law school with me? then you wont understand my post literally? I am replying for the case, not point to that girl! If her hubby has died over 2 years, she and her daughter need help, I will, but not at this moment. She did not ask for money for bury her hubby, but ajusting her status in usa? unbelievable. If I had misunderstanding here, please correct me or thrown bad eggs to me. Where is his hubby's 401k, ADD and SSN? Is not she the Beneficiary?

Write into company's logo paper is good enough.

She may end up having to do just that if she can't get her status adjusted. As for why she doesn't go back to China? I don't really know for sure. Many Chinese people come here and want to stay. She came here legally with good intentions. It is not her fault her husband died and left her in such a difficult position. If she wants to stay here and make a better life for herself and her daughter that is good enough for me. At least she didn't sneak across the border and ask for amnesty. Nobody cares her intention to be in USA, her action will prove it automatically. I do not find any difficulties for her to be back to China due to her hubby’s death, not abused or ended by divorce. It is only going to be good for her as that is her country and she can make living legally there. Reverse it will be hard for her to struggle and working under table and suffering here. As her situation, I strongly suggest her to be back to China better than suffering here. The longer she stays here, the harder for her to be back. I could not donate any single penny to her as I do not know if this action will help her or ruin her. I do not agree that USA is the ONLY place for Chinese to make a better life. Yeah, she did not across the border and asks for amnesty, but those people at least legally ask for something? But what is she doing? Working under table is illegally, is not it? I have one curiosity, if somebody’s spouse died, one part will stragulling at least 1 or 2 years, how can she has power to worry about her status here in usa now? If it is happened to me, I would find somewhere else to heal my heart, not staying at the place where the dead spouse is, do not you agree?

What is PM?

As long as the love is real, nobody cares what pictures were made of.

It is obviously that you will be a good lawyer as my observation; each of your replies indicated your intelligence and logical analysis. Life is being too easy for me; I want to find something hard to challenge myself. I absolutely want to debate more about the topic, but I doubt my language ability to win.

why does not she go back to China? Is not it better to be with the family, friends and speak her own language and get a decent job than working in usa under table and suffering?

Monye is not an issue for me to go to law school. no pain, no gain. I would not be threatened by the financial commitment and block my interest by worrying about those green papers. Speaking of the income of being a lawyer, as much as I heard, the lowest is 35k, the highest is 500k, they are all my friends. the 500k one works at wall street NYC and paid quarterly, a business lawyer, not an one goes to the court at all. I am considering for law school not for the income, and as I said, I do it for interests, I am not planning to be a lawyer, but there is always a perspective, you will never know till you tried. WE ONLY LIVE ONCE!

No, I'm at the University of Minnesota. Are you serious? Do I sound kidding? As my question, you should have a little bit idea where my location is. what is wrong with Yale law school?

No, that's not weird. I think it's great you want to challenge your intelligence. But, let me put it this way. You can study the law by reading books, by taking a few law related classes (not necessarily at law school), by going to court rooms, reading laws, etc., etc., etc. Pursuing a JD, on the other hand, really should be in order to pursue some career in which you intend to use the degree. I say this because, while I think it's great you see the USA as the land of opportunity, finances are most definitely an issue here. I'm in my second year of law school and have already taken out more than $35,000 in loans. I'll graduate with probably around $60,000 in debt. I worked for several years and need the loans basically to cover tuition. My savings are currently rapidly disappering as I pay for housing, food, etc. Many of my classmates have taken out even larger loans. And, yes, as you indicated we are doing this because we hope to get a return on our investment through a fiancially rewarding career. Like medschool, pusuing a JD promises to bring a higher salary. But you should know that the average JD is making something like $35-$40,000 a year. Not chump change, no, but the majority of lawyers aren't scoring that $125,000 a year job the year they graduate law school. So, unless you're very wealthy to begin with, a JD really is a BIG financial commitment. But most would say a rewarding one. As for your concerns over moral norms, I can't say I agree with everything spify79 put in his post, but it's hard to tell since a person's complete meaning is often a bit ambiguous on Internet posts. But some things you should consider: 1. There are MANY things you can do with a J.D. and NOT be a lawyer. You can use a law degree in many other professions - business, politics, education, etc. 2. There are MANY KINDS of lawyers - not just criminal defense attorneys. There are immigration lawyers, tax lawyers, corporate lawyers, divorce lawyers, prosecutors, and really too many different things to list. A J.D. is kind of the entry you need to be any kind of lawyer, but it's still very general. Many attorneys spend their entire careers without ever entering a courtroom. 3. No matter what kind of law you decide to pursue, you are your client's advocate. That means you have to represent their interests, in court, in drafting a contract, in providing tax advice, etc., and that you should do so zealously, even if they are "guilty" or you disagree with their position. 4. You are not legally bound to represent everyone. In most cases, you can turn down or even withdraw from representing a client if you have moral qualms with the representation, provided it does not adversely affect the client. That is, even if you are a criminal defense attorney you can decide to not represent Michael Jackson, unless you have been representing him for several months and the trial is well underway. 5. Once you do decide to represent someone, however, you should do so zealously. See point 3. 6. You have responsibilities to your client and to society that need to be balanced. That is, if you are representing a client that you know to be guilty, you need to provide zealous representation, but you are forbidden form taking actions that are unethical. You can't, for example, submit evidence that you know to be false. My points above are very general and do not represent my entire views about the responsibilites of a lawyer, but they might give you some things to think about. Also, please note that by stating that a JD is expensive, I do not intend to suggest that you should not pursue a JD. But, do consider why you want to study it. OK, that's about enough of this discussion for a US visa information board, so I won't be making any additional postings here on this topic. If anyone would like to discuss the study of law or lawyers again, feel free to private message me or send me an e-mail. Do you study in New England States?

Is law school in Yale good enough?

1, yes 2, USA born, N/A, N/A

I'm studying for my JD right now. People want to study law for different reasons. Some want to make money. Some want to seek justice for people. Some want to go into politics. Some people may go because they don't know what else they want to do after they graduate from college. But I think most people who go plan to use their JD towards some future career, whether it be in a law firm, business, politics, education, etc. In a way, law school is like a trade school. It's not like a BA where you can study art history, and then go on to become a doctor. Of course, like I mentioned in my previous posting, a JD can be applied to other careers, so you're not locked into being a lawyer in a law firm. I may have made my comment too quickly, but when you said you did not want to be a lawyer for your future career, but just study it as an interest, I just wanted to make sure you knew the interest could put you several tens of thousands of dollars in debt. So, it's a good idea to know why you want to spend that kind of money and invest the time in a JD if that's what you choose to do. I want to do it because I want challenge my intelligence, sounds weird huh? I cant be a laywer because of my moral norm, I would not fight for somebody who I know that guilty just because I am doing my job responsibility as a laywer. Financial is not an issue, here is USA. hehe Which Law school are you in?

Unless you guys are really rich, I can't recommend this. Law school isn't cheap. Of course, there's a lot you can do with a law degree -- you're not locked into becoming a lawyer. Just make sure you know of the financial commitment. Forget about money, Money is just some green papers, you could not bring them into this world when you were born and you wont take them with you when you dead. We only live once, there has nothing more important than doing something you really like in your limited lifetime, plus the purpose to earn money is to find a way to spend them and spend them valuable, otherwise you would not have stimulation to earn more and more money. I assume that the law school is as expensive as Medical school, how much you paid, how much you will get pay back, no pain, no gain. Well, yes, but that's my point .. it's an investment. A J.D. isn't really something you'd study just because it's an "interest". so, for your understanding, what does laywer study the law for? are you a lawyer?

Unless you guys are really rich, I can't recommend this. Law school isn't cheap. Of course, there's a lot you can do with a law degree -- you're not locked into becoming a lawyer. Just make sure you know of the financial commitment. Forget about money, Money is just some green papers, you could not bring them into this world when you were born and you wont take them with you when you dead. We only live once, there has nothing more important than doing something you really like in your limited lifetime, plus the purpose to earn money is to find a way to spend them and spend them valuable, otherwise you would not have stimulation to earn more and more money. I assume that the law school is as expensive as Medical school, how much you paid, how much you will get pay back, no pain, no gain.