Cerberus Posted December 24, 2007 Report Share Posted December 24, 2007 (edited) Gerald, This will be the hardest post that I have ever made in this forum. Most people know me and keenly aware that I¡¯m ¡°fast-on-the-draw!¡± However, this posting has taken some deep thought and consideration, prior to its posting. Gerald, I do NOT know how to express my sympathy not only to you, but Yirong and your entire family. I¡¯m sure that they are a great comfort to you in this time. However, I¡¯m sure that I can speak frankly for your entire CFL ¡°extended¡± family. All of our deepest sympathies are extended to you and your family at this time. I have spent many years in the military. I have seen many men pass and it was always very, very hard for me every time. The memories they invoke are as sharp and hurtful day to day. There are no words that can completely comfort. Probably, the most comforting words that I have ever heard were that as long as your memory lives, you will also live and be with us! I went back over some of your posts. I was excited and at the same time saddened by your posts. I saw the true development of the relationship between Yirong and yourself. I hope that you didn¡¯t mind, but a compiled a brief compilation of those posts for members to read, remember you by and etch you persona into their memories. Perhaps they will remember and have their own individual relationships develop in the same manner. Therefore you will never be forgotten. I personally know that I will always remember you. To CFL members, a brief and lasting memory for SkiBum and Yirong: From better times, for new and old CFL member¡¯s to enjoy. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=1825&hl= Yirong arriving in the US http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=1850&hl= Yirong and her first EAD http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=2412&hl= Yirong and her first car race with skibum http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=3987&hl= Yirong receiving her first AOS appointment http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=4796&hl= Yirong and Skibum¡¯s first anniversary. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=4926&hl= Skibum¡¯s dating Rules. Strange, that they are still applicable. Hope that newer members still read them. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=5102&hl= Yirong¡¯s continued happiness with skibum. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=5777&hl= Yirong and skibum afternoon tea. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=10399&hl= Skibum bragging on Yirong¡¯s grades. Wish I could have the same problem as Yirong. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=12093&hl= Yirong¡¯s first car¡"1976 Austin Mini Cooper, red with white strips and each stripe has John Cooper's signature.¡± My father gave me underwear for my birthday. Sighhhhh! http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=13453&hl= Yirong became a permanent resident http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=14805&hl= Christmas 2005 message Gerald has truly shown the evolution of a happy intercultural marriage. I only pray that other members can be so fortunate. Thanks Gerald for the memories that you have given me. I still remember advice that you gave me when I first joined CFL. You will always be alive and now a part of me. Gerald, my wife when she heard the news began quietly crying. There is no doubt in my mind, that your news has hit home extremely hard for all members of the CFL family. There are a few words of comfort that I willing extend to you in this time, which came from a Chinese woman, whom I later married. These words now seem even more poignant than ever. Her words were read at my father¡¯s eulogy. Somehow they seem very fitting at this time¡. ¡°I knew your father only by telephone. I sorry I have never met him and now I will never meet him. He sounded so kind when he spoke to me. I can hear the wisdom in his words Darling David, please remember that a person, like your father, who leaves this world, is a child playing with God! The child plays with all the toys that God gives to them. The children play in the morning. They play in the afternoon. They keep play harder in the afternoon. Soon it will be suppertime. But the child is always disappointed! Soon, it is bedtime! God gathers all the toys up and puts them away. It is now the child¡¯s bedtime and the child must sleep, so that it can play again tomorrow! God places the child in bed and allows it to sleep. Tomorrow, the child will play again, but the child never plays in the same place. But God will place the same toys to the child. But the toys will be in a different place. Darling David, the child will be happy no matter where it plays. It will always have it toys! I pray for your father and family. Jiang, Yin¡± From one soldier to another, I wish the very best to yourself, Yirong and your entire family. I hope to hear from you some more before it is time. I¡¯m sure many CFL members also have the same sentiment. You are now a part of myself. Sincerely All CFL members and David Edited December 24, 2007 by Cerberus (see edit history) Link to comment
Randy W Posted December 24, 2007 Report Share Posted December 24, 2007 Those links didn't work for me. Hopefully, these do and are the right ones http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=88182 Yirong arriving in the US http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=20034 Yirong and her first EAD http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=24722 Yirong and her first car race with skibum http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=39257 Yirong receiving her first AOS appointment http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=51420 Yirong and Skibum¡¯s first anniversary. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=52844 Skibum¡¯s dating Rules. Strange, that they are still applicable. Hope that newer members still read them. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=88182 Yirong¡¯s continued happiness with skibum. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=63843 Yirong and skibum afternoon tea. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=67519 Skibum bragging on Yirong¡¯s grades. Wish I could have the same problem as Yirong. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=24722 Yirong¡¯s first car¡"1976 Austin Mini Cooper, red with white strips and each stripe has John Cooper's signature.¡± My father gave me underwear for my birthday. Sighhhhh! http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=40227 Yirong became a permanent resident http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...st&p=177790 Christmas 2005 Link to comment
DMikeS4321 Posted December 24, 2007 Report Share Posted December 24, 2007 Gerald, This will be the hardest post that I have ever made in this forum. Most people know me and keenly aware that I’m “fast-on-the-draw!” However, this posting has taken some deep thought and consideration, prior to its posting. Gerald, I do NOT know how to express my sympathy not only to you, but Yirong and your entire family. I’m sure that they are a great comfort to you in this time. However, I’m sure that I can speak frankly for your entire CFL “extended” family. All of our deepest sympathies are extended to you and your family at this time. I have spent many years in the military. I have seen many men pass and it was always very, very hard for me every time. The memories they invoke are as sharp and hurtful day to day. There are no words that can completely comfort. Probably, the most comforting words that I have ever heard were that as long as your memory lives, you will also live and be with us! I went back over some of your posts. I was excited and at the same time saddened by your posts. I saw the true development of the relationship between Yirong and yourself. I hope that you didn’t mind, but a compiled a brief compilation of those posts for members to read, remember you by and etch you persona into their memories. Perhaps they will remember and have their own individual relationships develop in the same manner. Therefore you will never be forgotten. I personally know that I will always remember you. To CFL members, a brief and lasting memory for SkiBum and Yirong: From better times, for new and old CFL member’s to enjoy. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=1825&hl= Yirong arriving in the US http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=1850&hl= Yirong and her first EAD http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=2412&hl= Yirong and her first car race with skibum http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=3888&hl= Yirong receiving her first AOS appointment http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=4796&hl= Yirong and Skibum’s first anniversary. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=4926&hl= Skibum’s dating Rules. Strange, that they are still applicable. Hope that newer members still read them. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=5102&hl= Yirong’s continued happiness with skibum. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ic=5777&hl= Yirong and skibum afternoon tea. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=10399&hl= Skibum bragging on Yirong’s grades. Wish I could have the same problem as Yirong. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=12093&hl= Yirong’s first car…"1976 Austin Mini Cooper, red with white strips and each stripe has John Cooper's signature.” My father gave me underwear for my birthday. Sighhhhh! http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=13453&hl= Yirong became a permanent resident http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...c=14805&hl= Christmas 2005 Gerald has truly shown the evolution of a happy intercultural marriage. I only pray that other members can be so fortunate. Thanks Gerald for the memories that you have given me. I still remember advice that you gave me when I first joined CFL. You will always be alive and now a part of me. Gerald, my wife when she heard the news began quietly crying. There is no doubt in my mind, that your news has hit home extremely hard for all members of the CFL family. There are a few words of comfort that I willing extend to you in this time, which came from a Chinese woman, whom I later married. These words now seem even more poignant than ever. Her words were read at my father’s eulogy. Somehow they seem very fitting at this time…. “I knew your father only by telephone. I sorry I have never met him and now I will never meet him. He sounded so kind when he spoke to me. I can hear the wisdom in his words Darling David, please remember that a person, like your father, who leaves this world, is a child playing with God! The child plays with all the toys that God gives to them. The children play in the morning. They play in the afternoon. They keep play harder in the afternoon. Soon it will be suppertime. But the child is always disappointed! Soon, it is bedtime! God gathers all the toys up and puts them away. It is now the child’s bedtime and the child must sleep, so that it can play again tomorrow! God places the child in bed and allows it to sleep. Tomorrow, the child will play again, but the child never plays in the same place. But God will place the same toys to the child. But the toys will be in a different place. Darling David, the child will be happy no matter where it plays. It will always have it toys! I pray for your father and family. Jiang, Yin” From one soldier to another, I wish the very best to yourself, Yirong and your entire family. I hope to hear from you some more before it is time. I’m sure many CFL members also have the same sentiment. You are now a part of myself. Sincerely All CFL members and David A wonderful and fitting tribute to a man I've really appreciated during my time here. Godspeed, Gerald. May He bless you, your lovely wife and the rest of your family. Mike Link to comment
SheLikesME? Posted December 24, 2007 Report Share Posted December 24, 2007 Had no idea about the car racing. One can read the love in those stories.Good man, and good woman. Integrity & Character come to mind. Link to comment
Cerberus Posted December 24, 2007 Author Report Share Posted December 24, 2007 Those links didn't work for me. Hopefully, these do and are the right ones http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=88182 Yirong arriving in the US http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=20034 Yirong and her first EAD http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=24722 Yirong and her first car race with skibum http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=39257 Yirong receiving her first AOS appointment http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=51420 Yirong and Skibum¡¯s first anniversary. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=52844 Skibum¡¯s dating Rules. Strange, that they are still applicable. Hope that newer members still read them. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=88182 Yirong¡¯s continued happiness with skibum. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=63843 Yirong and skibum afternoon tea. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=67519 Skibum bragging on Yirong¡¯s grades. Wish I could have the same problem as Yirong. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=24722 Yirong¡¯s first car¡"1976 Austin Mini Cooper, red with white strips and each stripe has John Cooper's signature.¡± My father gave me underwear for my birthday. Sighhhhh! http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...ost&p=40227 Yirong became a permanent resident http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?...st&p=177790 Christmas 2005 Thanks Randy! I was working from MSWord. To all members the links are now repaired. Dave Link to comment
rogerluli Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 I'm sorry for being dense but from everything here I still do not know exactly what happened, is happening, or will happen to whom??? B) Link to comment
Shenzhen K-1 Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 Dave that is one great post and some of them are hard but wonderful to read. A man is remembered by his friends not by his deeds or money, in that case after seeing this he must be even more then you have talked about. Thanks and God Bless you skibum!!!!! Dave nice post!! B) Mark and feng!! Link to comment
Randy W Posted January 2, 2008 Report Share Posted January 2, 2008 I'm sorry for being dense but from everything here I still do not know exactly what happened, is happening, or will happen to whom??? B) "All good things have to end" Link to comment
skibum Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 Thanks all members of CFL. Gerald really enjoyed the time that he spent on the forum. The members of the forum gave him a lot of support. Thank you so much. When he was unable to pursue outdoor activities, he spent hour after hour in front on the computer. Even though he later became unable to reply to posts, he still read all of your posts. Those posts give him happiness and good memories. Hope everyone has as wonderful marriage as we had. Gerald passed away last Friday. He gave me a big smile when I embraced him that night. He then closed his eyes for the final time. I am so lucky to married him, and to have enjoyed such great memories. Thank you David making all links for us. Yirong and family Greetings, I was unaware of this website until a few weeks ago. I had no idea that my Dad had so many people who he shared his thoughts and memories with. Thank all of you for being a part of my Dad¡¯s life. I look forward to reading your supportive postings. Thank you again for being there throughout one of his happiest times, namely the last five years with Yirong. She definitely made his last years the happiest. Good luck to all of you, Ken Link to comment
ameriken Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 Thank you Yirong and Ken. I am very sad to hear this, we are truly sorry for this news and your loss, and we will miss Gerald greatly. Link to comment
chilton747 Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 Yirong, Ken, and family, Thank you for letting us know. I will never forget Gerald as long as I live as he brought a big smile to my face when I really needed it. My prayers are with you and your family. God bless,Charles Link to comment
IllinoisDave Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 Thanks all members of CFL. Gerald really enjoyed the time that he spent on the forum. The members of the forum gave him a lot of support. Thank you so much. When he was unable to pursue outdoor activities, he spent hour after hour in front on the computer. Even though he later became unable to reply to posts, he still read all of your posts. Those posts give him happiness and good memories. Hope everyone has as wonderful marriage as we had. Gerald passed away last Friday. He gave me a big smile when I embraced him that night. He then closed his eyes for the final time. I am so lucky to married him, and to have enjoyed such great memories. Thank you David making all links for us. Yirong and family Greetings, I was unaware of this website until a few weeks ago. I had no idea that my Dad had so many people who he shared his thoughts and memories with. Thank all of you for being a part of my Dad’s life. I look forward to reading your supportive postings. Thank you again for being there throughout one of his happiest times, namely the last five years with Yirong. She definitely made his last years the happiest. Good luck to all of you, KenKen and Yirong and family.I'm so sorry to hear of Gerald's passing. You have our deepest sympathy. I wasn't involved in CFL for most of his Ski's time here but felt I knew him based on the admiration shown to him by the long-time members here. He obviously had a great impact on his both families, yours and ours. He will be greatly missed. Our thoughts are with your family.Dave and Christine Link to comment
Cerberus Posted March 17, 2008 Author Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 Ken, Yirong and family, My prayers to all of you for the loss of Gerald. I am happy that he could still see our posts to the end. He will be missed. Dave Link to comment
Dennis143 Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 Yirong, Ken and family, it's a sad day here, as one of our family is gone. Peace be with all of you. Dennis Link to comment
Yuanyang Posted March 17, 2008 Report Share Posted March 17, 2008 Yirong, Ken and Family, our condolences on your great loss. Gerald will be missed by many and embraced in Heaven. May the grace and blessing of God be with you during this time and forever forward. Sincerely, Bob & Xiaomei Link to comment
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