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I don't think it was a big feal I mean deal. Showers together in China. Getting it on in the back of the van during the day was a real turn on. Now the first wife had all kinds of curiosities.

Guys I gotcha, but this Momma won't monitor. I very seldom have known a kid that does not need it routinely. I always had to see the homework first. I check it. I seldom had to sit with them. I did other things. But I had to check, then the child is off to the next assignment before bed. It seems so simple rather than all the hell raising when a teacher sends and email or report. She expects the kid to be an adult, and sometimes one kid or the other is not. I at least got her to be more calm and love the girl a bit more. A lot of managers in aerospace I know prefer the B average students rather than the A guys. Their Human Resources dept wants the strait A guys. They have trouble with the strait A grads - generally I am told. They don't work quite as hard and sometimes their creativity is lacking. I know this is not going to make any difference to anyone here, just sayin... .........It ain't the end of the world to make a B.

So my ex will not help her own daughter either. And she will not follow up and check homework, that it is done and accurate like I do with kids. And I make sure the finished corrected homework is in the backpack by seeing it with my eyes there, so it gets to school. This kid sometimes does it but never turns it in. Other times she just figures she knows the material and does not care about the little stuff or the grade. She will even tell the teachers that her mother cares about the grades, but she does not.Over the years I learned that Momma did not turn in homework either as a child, and had the exact same attitude as her daughter, she does well on tests. But this is not even relevant to Momma. Oh really I think to myself. Gosh how I HATE the stupidity of Asians living only in the present, never considering that anything in the past is something to learn from, and maybe their kids are just like them, and not thinking much about the future. It just must be strait As and even though Lil One got a 94 on her math exam and will get an A that is not good enough for Momma. 94 is bad in Mommas eyes. Momma wants me to bring Lil One to my house until June 18 or so, whenever this exam to see if she can move up one more year ind take algebra 2 in the 8th grade next year, since I have the ability to motivate the child to study and in a calm way, and we have fun and a peaceful life together too. Momma makes war and turmoil and the kid rebels. I really don't want to do it this time for other reasons I may post about later somewhere else, having to do with a cousin showing up from China and living with them now. The thing is, this child has interests in plants, bugs, sea creatures, and etc, and she studies about this stuff on her own, when she can get away with it. Personally I would get her a microscope and still may for her birthday, and let her learn about things she is interested in and has a talent for. Her Mom NEVER sees it, never even observes, just follows the Chinese strict ass dogma slave driving nose in books crap all day every day. And there is no leeway, no listening to any other idea. Closed minded brick. Then there was the politics this kid was excellent at when down here in my school district, getting elected to student council. Leadership training. So many other fun things to learn other than extra math shoved down her throat 24-7. Is this enough rant?

Lil One got an 80 on her English final in 7th grade. Momma is madder than hell. I didn't think too much of it = a "B". Momma leaves for the store and Lil One says "Asian Failure". I was puzzled so she explains 80 is barely passing. If you get a 79 in China you FAIL. Ahh I finally understand now. I later tell Momma a "B" is passing and she is surprised. Momma is now mad at me and Lil One. You know, a "B" is just fine with me. I wish the heck this woman was not so strict in such a mean way about ACHIEVEMENT. She will never be happy or satisfied. I hope Lil One's spirit isn't broken.

This is Doug, for any new comers. In case anyone wants to look at history. I changed my name here to Doug after the divorce.

Tsip, stap, pist, past...it's all the same to me Douggie. The last time I was serious was back in 19 and 62...that experience showed me that the main thing is that we all have a good time and laugh a lot as we make our way through this wacky life. I found the name tsap seui inside the decoder ring I got out of a box of Extra Chocolate Kap'n Krunch cereal. After I woke up on the floor from the sugar buzz the cereal gave me, I looked inside my new decoder ring and saw the name. Didn't know what it meant, actually thought it was a coded message from David Bowie's Spyder Men on Mars, but figured it would be a good stage name on Candle. tsap seui So there really is a tsap seui. Oh, the T-sip thing is just how we're able to tell that Doug went to Texas A&M. Well I MIGHT have gone to A&M but at the time it was an all male school. In fact I wanted to but never even applied. Same with AF Academy. All that has changed these days. I did date a gal who was in the first class to go to West Point once. She left after a year of that. Don't know what that accounts for. Besides I hate burnt orange. Looks like something I can manufacture myself, you know, an earth tone. PS: I suppose I ahould add why I didn't go to UT. It was my Sr year of HS and we went down for a HS drafting competition (mechanical drawing, and the others archetecture). We had a good teacher. I hung out this wondow and saw the most beautiful girl I may have ever seen walking to class... tall, lean, built right, long beautiful legs, long blonde or light brown hair to her waste, wearing hot pance (pants), halter top, and flip flops - period. Now that hippie chic doesn't know it but that wiped UT off my list. Beside I don't think I would have got lucky with her, so what was the point???

Good one Tsip, oops excuse me Tsap. You don't want to be a tsip.

good one D My mother called about it. Now being the wise ass I am sometimes, I said something to the effect of why couldn't it have taken out D.C. so we can start over... its a joke!

Your right on Andrew. Why build a new house without a pool? Looks like the lil feller knows how to enjoy life. In fact I just got invited to my Cuz pool up the street and some steaks. See Ya boo

No we don't just let them starve. Heck 20 million fed during the depression. We have some fundamental problems where folks expect too much now days. We have cards in TX now too. I see people getting things that used to be excluded. Of course right behind the food stamps is the beer and cigaretts that is paid for with CASH. Sorry Carl and others but it makes my blood boil if I think about it too much. I have posted this before but will repeat. Teddy & Bobby Kennedy made a little film in the Mississippi Delta back in the 60s talking to the poor and how little food they had & etc. They said they are going to do something about it. I went to Mississippi every summer as a kid to stay with relatives. My cousin and I had fun as good as anyting striat out of a Mark Twain book. No one was rich, but I saw how the poor lived. One house had a bunch of kids of various ages running around bald naked. We put pennies on the RR track next to their house. Now you see all the poor in town had jobs. They had money. It was all paid in cash and unreported to the Govt. No one starved. Then food stamps hit. Accelerate years later. My cousin and I are married with one child in diapers each. I go to MS with wife to visit. We take our wives around to show them all the places where our summer adventures took us as kids. If I had not seen it with my own eyes I would not have believed it. I was beyond words when I saw all of this. Some have called me a liar about it. All the poor homes had large antenas on the roof and you could see the colored TV in the house. (We had a very small B&W at that early marriage time and an old Ford) All the little houses had a Buick or Cadillac in the drive way and usually an older one all wore out from the last time they bought a new car. And the house where we put pennies on the track, there was a Buick Electra on blocks off to the side and a new Cadillac in the driveway with colored TV in the house, and a new set of kids running around bald ass naked, I KID YOU NOT! Our ladies were astonished about this house. SO, perhaps we need more Govt red tape to investigate how they spend the money they have? Maybe parents allow their kids to go hungry while they spend it on other things? Churches are no longer the social center of many communities anymore, so where are morals and responsibility taught? Any ideas guys? I bet our Chinese counterparts get a bit appauled at how lazy and spoiled some folks really are and dislike their tax follars going to these folks after they work so hard, no???

I thought I remember years ago that a couple of guys here tried to start importing products to sell. Maybe others have experience. A friend of mine needed some industrial things he can't get in America easily. I contacted a friend who got me in the right direction and now her company wants her to try to sell things here as well, which is very heavy industrial stuff. This may happen and I seem to be right in the middle of it. I notice some want make-up and things from China and Japan. I also like some things from there just not available here. Anyway just lookiing for any advice or interest. If I do this I know I will somehow get a boxfull of back scrubber/wahers for taking a shower, and toilet seat covers so the old ladies bottom doesn't get cold in the night during winter. & etc.

We (actually more me) was comfortable with keeping an original and givng them an original, as I recall. It seems some of this was needed for Lil-One to go to school or something along the way. I know we dug them out a time or two to take with us to do something legal. So we made 2-3 original translation of each document.

Thats so funny. Being the pervert I am I probably would have suggested she now needs a snake hosing herself... Well I would have thought it anyway . . Probably why I am in a dovorce.

Bank of America and China Construction Bank have an agreement where the BofA ATM card can be used at a CCB ATM with no charge, and a competitive conversion rate. This is good to know. Thanks Randy. I have a friend trying to set up a business where he will buy batteries from China. I am trying to help with this through a friend of mine over there. We may pay this person and it sounds like a good method. Also wife wants to show some expenses in overseas activity on taxes.

I suppose I could have married about 31 years younger, if I had taken more time, and since I am still friends with that lady, maybe I should have. Over the years I am finding she is purely honest and just a good friend. As it is there is only a 15 year difference with my wife. We married and never had trouble in CR1. I had income better than most, which may have some bearing, and I front loaded the application with pictures that had captions. I showed as much family and famous places as possible in the pics. Not hard since she was in Beijing. We kept records of all chats and phone conversations, which I frontloaded. She took those kinds of records to the interview as well as pics. In her interview the pics is what were looked at. All her pic books. I think they made up their minds it was OK then just flipped through all the pics at interview to make sure. Maybe having gone over on business a few years before meeting her helped too. Wish you the best. Make your luck happen.