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I believe the story you told. In china, people think family issue is only related to family members. It is a shame to let others know or involved. No such thing like if you hear a couple, who live next to your door, fight and then you call the police. If it was reported to police, it would be treated just as an normal argument. It encourages evil family abuse. China has carried out a lot of laws and regulations to get rid of family abuses. But more important, people should change their thoughts on this. Zero tolerance to abuse. Then more women and children will be saved.

There are many Chinese standing up for this. Laowai was reported in the news probably because he is Laowai. I was to that lady. But no result! Anyway there are many things we need to work on.

It seems the system still is unstable. Many replies to this thread including mine were eliminated. Anyway post mine again. Hopefully it would not disapppear again Glad to hear you all are safe. There are many reports in China about tornados disaster in US. This morning when I turn on the computer, the first news comes to me is that at least 280 people died by tornado. http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/us_severe_weather Stay safe and target a safe place ahead! Hope no more casualties.

My wife says this when she gets very very angry at me.She talkin my momma and gettin me pissed off. She also throws in the word ³ô for good measures. It is a very bad dirty word in China. Please do not say it to a Chinese in China unless this person knows you well and she/he knows it is your common words. The rule in my family is no any dirty word at any circumstances. "³ô" Chou, has both positive and negative meaning, depends on how it is used.

I saw it at Yahoo China as well. Respect him very much. The traffic in China is horrible mainly because people do not follow driving rules. Monthes ago in Beijing, I saw a lady drove a big SUV, tried to enter a parking lot of a bank through the exit. The guard stopped her. She was mad, left her car there at the exit and went into the bank for her business. She blocked the traffic. I drove in US but I am afraid to drive in Beijing. Crazy! By the way it should be "Laowai" not "Laowei".

Why you do not want women read your post saying you love your wife, and want a men only section? I do not get it! Sorry for reading your post with a lovely story and I will pass your posts with your name in the future.

Gentlemen, appreciate your devotion to Chinese study. Same thing for Chinese people learn English. Simple English for you, but difficult English for us. Sometimes afraid to talk over the phone. I remember years ago when I was in US, I wanted to order a product over the phone. The salesman lost patience with my English and required me to pronounce words correctly before he accepted my order.

Yes. That is why she has a visa of multiple entries for a year. She can use the visa to enter US again before it expires. For example, if her visa is valid from January 2, 2011 to January 1, 2012, then she can enter US any time again before January 1,2012. And she can stay in US for another 6 months if she wants. (Usually B2 is allowed to stay in US for 6 months for each entry).

An official letter stating that she is no longer a member IS NOT required by Guangzhou. It was just my thought since you said her offical told her that she is not in the system. So I thought that an offical letter may be helpful but I do not know it would work or not for Guangzhou. What Guangzhou wants from your wife really depends on their view on her situation. If she is asked "were you a ccp?", then she tells them she quits, I thought Guangzhou may want to have an official letter. Also Guangzhou may still want her statement. http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=42215 Anyway take a breath on this issue since it really depends on how VO makes the question in your case. But still hope they never make the question to your wife.

It is a good catch of DS230's question. At the interview, VO did ask "Are you CCP?" not "Were/are you CCP?". Just wish your wife would not face the question anyway.

I am not sure whether a formal letter from local office stating she is not ccp would be helpful at her interview if she is asked by VO. If it is hard to get the letter, just pass it. Hope she would not be asked at interview.

I think such statements can be notarized in either China or USA at your most conveniences. Actually in my opinion it is necessary to get them translated but not necessary to be notarized. I do not think Guangzhou would question where these documents are translated and notarized (except her birth certificate, police certificate and marriage certificate if you married in China).

There is no solid answer for your question. China has general national guidelines about real estates and housing purchases. However, the specific rules and policies vary across provinces and cities. Does your wife still have her own household account (Hukou) alive? It is the certificate and identity of her status in China. My recommendation is to contact her relatives who live in the city where her properties locate. Let them go to local housing administrations to inquire how the process is and whether it can be done through appointing a person to handle her affairs by power of attorney. I think if the case is complicated, it is better to do it by her/your own.

Welcome on board. As for CCP, you may visit the following links. http://candleforlove...showtopic=42851 http://candleforlove...showtopic=43015 http://www.state.gov/documents/organization/86972.pdf Other documents you have look good to me. Hope everything goes well with your wife's visa.

I very respect your open-mind. I have no experience of interaction with a kid who is older than 18 months. So hope everything works out well.

It is sad to hear your story. I do not have a good suggestion for you. However, I am surprised/shocked by that you expect him call you "Fat boy". It is not acceptable in Chinese culture. I would be surprised if your wife did not correct him when he calls you worse than that, whatever the situation is. Be respectful to people who is older than you is the bottom line of education in China, at least in appellation/title¡£ I know in US, people usually call people's first name. But it is not allowed in China especially to parents. For stepparents, before children feel comfortable to call them Mama and Baba, children usually call stepfather "Shu Shu" (it means you are at the position as my father at least from an age factor) and "A Yi" for stepmother.

I feel that you are not ready for marriage yet. However, on the other hand, you are not willing to do something making her mad (or break up) with you because you are afraid not able to find a better one than her in the future. This girl has everything decent, single, good age, god job, good English. I can understand your feeling and I also can understand this girl's push. Usually when a girl reaches a certain age, she is pushier than the man when she thinks she finds the one (now just assume she thinks you are the one). I was in that position, I was more pushy than my husband, we were married after three years since we met (actually I am happy with it now). The difference with your case is that I was in US that time. Whatever K-1 or CR-1, do not risk your marriage, your life. No matter what happened before, it was the past. What we can take care is now and future. All of us here wish to reunion with our other half as soon as possible. But a life is a life. Short-time of long distance is better than long-time regret. Staying single is better than marrying a wrong one. I think you need to talk with your girlfriend and discuss your two life plan with her. Tell her the tradeoff of different options here people advised. I think you two will reach an agreement and make a decision because it is your two future. By this you two aslo can get to know each other more especially when handle disagreements.

For a B2 visa, they can go to the Embassy in Beijing or the Consulate of their choice elsewhere. The apply in the zone of jurisdiction was removed not too long ago. Yes, you are right. Thanks for correcting me. I just check US Beijing Embassy website. The new policy starts since Feb 17, 2011. http://chinese.usembassy-china.org.cn/niv_info2.html The link is in Chinese. I did not find an English link for it.

Congratulations!! How great the news is!! After reading your so many posts, I get to know how long you two have to wait and how many tough time you two have to go through. So happy for you two!! Sincerely wish the rest of the journey will be successful and smooth! I believe you two will!! Then on this Thanksgiving Day and Christmas you will have a family around with you in US!! I am drawing a lovely picture of your family in my mind!!

The department, where you need to call to reserve an interview for them, locates in Shanghai. Take a look at the link below regarding how to purchase a phone card and how to make a call. http://beijing.usembassy-china.org.cn/niv_appointment.html Shandong province belongs to Beijing Embassy zone. Thus they need to go to Beijing. Either you and your wife, or both could be inviter. It depends on you and your wife. The inviter needs to provide I-134 form. If your wife and you are inviters, then include the invitation, 1-134 form, a copy of your two's passports and her green card, photos of you two with in_laws. Your in_laws also need to provide proof of ties to China, usually their properties, retirement income, other children in China etc.

Yes, online is the only way. Yes, B2 is the visa for your in-laws. Take a look at http://beijing.usembassy-china.org.cn/niv_business.html They will go to Beijing for visa interview.

No more petitioner hour for U.S. citizens after November 15, 2010. If it was, presenting would be much helpful since you could attend the hour and deliver a "impression" to VO. But now I think less or no impact of petitioner’s present on VO's visa decision. Something like ineligibility can not be overcome by petitioner’s show-up.

File the petition when you feel you are ready. At interview the VO will ask her how many you visit her and she can provide more evidences which are new.

I support you go with K-1. Let visa application go and serve your life plan, instead of the opposition! Follow your heart! In the process you will get know more about each other, which will be a very good time to overcome your concern about the short time since you know your fianc¨¦e. Your previous K-1 would not be an issue, I think. It was many years ago. Your fianc¨¦e¡¯s background definitely will be a big plus for visa especially at interview. I feel that the VO officer has a real release and happiness when the applicant can speak good English.