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My stepdaughter come here at age 14 during March of '04. she spoke a little English as taught by Chinese teachers. we enrolled her immediately so she could transition into American schools. It was a good move as not only did she assimilate well but she rapidly learned English. In retrospect I'm glad she came mid-term as it gave her a huge leg up socially as well as academically. 194745[/snapback] Very good to know. I have no idea of a time frame yet. Too early to know. Still, i would think if he came in the summer, the summer month, ESL would be a problem maybe because of summer vacation. Still, 2007 is too far off to even think about yet.... Nevertheless, still good food for thought.

This was just too much, both yours and Dennis'... I couldn't stop laughing out loud. quite eloquent in the delivery

Oh yes!!! they do

Dell is selling computers $299 I beleive. Just a thought.

I didn't know this. But I guess considering the high population of spanish speaking people in the Atlanta area, this would make sense. Once I go there and he knows of his mother's and my intentions, we will explain to him the importance of learning it quickly. She teaches her 3 year old nephew, but teenagers in China are just like teenagers in the USA, Mom or Dad isn't the one you normally like to learn from.

My budding friendship is going along quite nicely. She has become the sunshine of my days. I'm feeling we were meant to be from the beginning, but I detoured down the wrong road in meeting the "current". My question is concerning her son, he is 14 tommorow. He seems like quite a good young boy. He doesn't know any English, except for a few phrases. His mother has taught herself english quite well, I'm proud of her. Back to the question, How does one help him get into the mainstream of American life. If he doesn't know english, how can he go to an american school? Now he is not interested in learning english really, for all real purposes he has no reason to. His mother will not tell him of our intentions until I get there for a visit and we decide our direction together. I don't blame her, becuase I did detour before. I didn't know then how special a lady she was then. She told me recently, don't have hate and bad feelings for my "current", because she felt good that she gave me back to her.... I must say I got goose pimples and a rush when she said that. Back to her son, we will plan to get english classes for him, once I go there and we talk to him about our plans. I don't think it would be fair to him or her for any plans to be made prior to me going there and we conclude our wishes and plans for a future life together. As many have said here, I shouldn't start anything until I have finished my current situation. Well, in regards to him, I feel strongly and she does also feel this is a very important point. I'm really interested in anyone here who has had to deal with children who come with thier mother and how they adapt and what to do to help them in thier new country. I know it is hard enough for teenagers as it is that are from this country. We are not making plans, but I want to think about everything before I get to a point where definite decisions have to be made and thier lifes affected.

After asking more questions, I understand she is feeling she would be able to get a letter from her Ex. stating thier son can exit the country. Evidently, he doesn't have any contact with the boy. I don't understand that, but I guess it is not my business.

An update the child is 14. I don't think he has a passport yet.

When you file K1/K2. Is a passport needed for the child when the petition is initially filed? Also, will the child's father need to submit permission for the child to leave the country? In this case, The father has not had contact or been a part of the child's life since divorce over 11 years ago.

If you have an A number... ie. A-#########. you should be able to call the USCIS and ask them for a status. you can also check the status with that A# online at www.uscis.gov 1 year without anything is not good news. It might have just gotten loss. 3 months is the longest you should have had to wait to receive your approval or denial of the K1. Good Luck.

looks like your visa went through in quick time. Good deal. Congratulations.

1. CR1 or K3? If it's CR1, you wait longer in China but when you arrive in USA, it's faster to get a permanent Green Card. If it's K3, you wait shorter time in China but longer time in US for Green Card. 2. Has your case been forwarded to Guangzhou? If yes, you have a case number which begins with GUZ200......., you write to Guangzhou Consulate requesting for visa interview - provide your case no, name and date of birth, visa category. If you buy a prepay card at Zhong Xin Yin Hang (Citic Bank) to call their call center, they'll tell you whether name check clearance is completed or not. 3. When you chose K1 or CR1 or K3, you should know CR1 takes longer time. Do you complain "Why the screen of my computer is smaller than the screen of the TV set"? 4. Stop self-pitying. Before you complain, think "what I get by complaining". If you know you'll get nothing by complaining. Don't complain. When your husband is not with you, you want someone to hand you a cup of water? Hire a domestic helper a yi. She will give you a cup of water, and a nice gentle smile if you treat her nice. 5. Buy a book about nutrition and take good care of your body. If you are in excellent health condition, you are not likely to be tired or moody. I've been a single mother since 1993. My daughter and I sometimes fight each other and sometimes love each other. We "shi tou jian dao bu" to decide who does the laundry and washes dishes Be happy, life is beautiful. 193929[/snapback] I agree, Complaining will get you "zero". Still I can understand your frustration. I would caution you to not complain to your SO too much. It might affect him one day, then what happens if he wants to give up? Hang in there, It will be ok. you could be in my situation. I have not met my friend yet and probably won't for at least 4 months and then we would have to decide to start the process, which I think I would. But her coming here is probably at least a year away. By then you should be comfortably in the US with your SO. So be calm. Another suggestion, this time of the month, many men like as little details as possible. we know it is there, but it is a personal situation. I understand how it affects a woman, but a man probably doesn't undrstand as much as another woman would understand. That's why we keep quiet on the subject sometimes. Good luck!!

I went to china 2 times before and was successful. I know many might say the more visits the better. Now considering a 2nd try at the process, a person in my situation, might actually need the 2 or more I might think this time around? who might know from personal experience?

Good Luck!!

Ditto !!

Most people don't know about this, except Black people or someone from the West Indies, the name kind of scares people. Oxtails... Cooked properly, it is the most tastiest beef there is. I would perfer Oxtails(actually a cow's tail) more than a very good steak, I like it that much. It is made by other ethnic groups, such as people of spanish background. My mom cooked it the best, but over about 15 years, I finally got the method right and anyone who eats it once is hooked. My 10 year old son is very pick eater, doesn't like many foods, but this is one he is crazy about. The meat is very tender and flavorful. Actually thier growing popularity has made them more expensive than most steaks per pound of actual meat.

I have heard about Guilin. We plan to visit when I go to Nanning. I understand Bill Clinton visited there when he was in China. I will look forward to this part of China. Nothing is settled in regards to plans, but this was definetly a place Xuemei insisted on taking me for a few days.

I had the pleasure to meet Frank in Atlanta, he is indeed a true gentleman. It was a pleasure to spend time with him. He does offer responsible and true advice. I agree, he is indeed a gem here for us and for his family i'm sure.

Finally, I called DHS and filed a report of marriage fraud. She maybe reading this, I don't know.. but at this point, I guess it doesnt matter anymore. Deep inside, foolishly, I wish it still could be worked out, but I know that will not happen. I just can't beleive something that took so long to happen(over 1 year), blew up so quickly. But I will have lick my wounds and move on. This has been a very difficult situation for me. I have faith it will all work out in the future. They probably will not be able to locate her, as she didn't give any information of her whereabouts. I mainly, don't want her to take advantage of the system using my name.

she did send the checks , however she told me she didn't send the check for fingerprints. IT is since then, she told me on friday that she cancelled the checks. She informed me and my daughter she is working temp now. but her work permit, expires this week.

I don't think I can get an annulment, since the only condition that would apply to this situation is a pre-existing situation, which I could not prove. So it appears a divorce is my only option.

never received anything..maybe she changed the address

Interesting ending to your posting. You just filed your AOS, why do you ask about "out of status?" Go together to counseling, work it out and live happily ever after. or not. 180718[/snapback] It is my understanding that if she passes the 90 period for filing the AOS, She is out of status. She did file the AOS, as stated in my timeline, but she didn't schedule the fingerprint appointment. She told me she cancelled the checks, which I would think would cancel the process. I wanted to go to counseling, but she refused to return. As I said, I humbled myself and took all the blame atthough, I don't truly beleive I'm 100% to blame. I understand as the man, I needed to be more patient, but who can be perfect in just 6 weeks? I was trying to adjust... but I thought somethings were strange.

I did. Basically, there is nothing she can do to me. She might be able to make false claims against me, but I understand that is it. Georgia's law are that she is only entitiled to what was obtained why we were married, that would be nothing.

It really breaks my heart. This isn't what I wanted. I beleive she has some emotional problems. I actually talked with her yesterday for the 1st time in maybe 3 weeks. She didn't sound good. She is in San Fran. she didn't tell me, I found out from my daughter. The phone call was the best of the 3 calls in over a month. no yelling by her. She tries to rationalize how she just left and went to the airport by blaming me. I can't say she was ever commited. I basically humbled myself and pleaded with her to return, and I would forgive everything and we would fix it. I figured if she returned we cold figure things out... our disagreements were mostly silly. Difinetly not worth running away and thrashing the marriage. She said she would see a lawyer... When I mentioned the only thing she can do is claim I abused her, she became very angry. I don't know what she is doing, but she sounded very tired and has a very strained voice. I never her sound like that before. I assured her I loved her. I still do, but she said that she later said on the chatroom she didn't want the AOS, because I used it to bully her, which is totally not true, why would I do something so stupid? I only said we needed stopp the silly fights or we wouldn't work, It seems I was right regretfully. Maybe this was a huge mistunderstanding between us, but she never mentioned this until she was gone. she told me she was seeing a counselor now, for what I don't know, she is very privsate with me now. It is amazing how things changed so quickly after she came here. I thought it was good, even with the constant arguments, but she became a complete stranger once she left me and saidf I was a very bad person, just the thought she would say this is so painful. I'm not too much of a man to say I have cried a few cryies over this situation. I think of all the emails, trips and constant phone calls daily and now we are here. I feel sorry for her and I feel sorry for myself, but I understand I must move on now. I really wanted this to work and even thought that this really bad time would allow us to see the abyss and turn away and come back to make this marriage better, but that was my dream.... not hers. I don't think we can continue, if she is out of status, she can't change it now can she?