SmilingAsia

Zhaoqing is a beautiful city in Guangdong province. You may like to see 7 Crags (qi xian yan), Ding Hu Mountain.

You forget how we survived the Rear Palace where each Chinese emperor kept 3,000 wives (ºó¹¬¼ÑÀöÈýǧ)! We survived Cultural Revolution. We've just survived the concubine culture in south China. To the women who have survived all this: Gals, I'm very proud of you! To the ones who died: You didn't die in vain.

When two Chinese women are hand in hand or arm in arm, it only means they were born and raised in mainland China. When two Chinese men put their arms across each other's shoulders, it also means they were born and raised in mainland China. A Chinese man will never kiss another man like they did in Backbroke Mountain unless you pay him good money cuz he needs the money to purchase another woman of his grand children's age.

I hope Tim can interprete this for us: ¼Þºº¼Þºº, ´©Ò³Է¹. People from northeast China like to say that.

Capitalism has been devloped for hundreds of years and it's matured. China was in poverty bofore 1980 and this is where we are from. A couple work in different cities for financial reasons. Let their parents raise their children in China: for their own convenience and financial reasons. For emotional reasons, old generation are very disappointed with ABC that they don't have a sense of Chinese belongings and they don't speak Chinese at all. Cantonese call ABC zhu xing (little bamboo) - bamboo is hollow inside, they have no Chinese heart. Maybe we should call white people "European zhu xing", black people "African zhu xing". I would not let my parents raise my daughter. If I did, they would have raised a freak like me . I'm very proud I've raised a little ingrate through 19 years .

It doesn't seem too good that your communications are On and Off. Maybe the makeup is so beautiful. I heard a 22-year-old girl tell me "It doesn't matter whether a man is wealthy or not. If he doesn't spend money on me, it's useless. A waste. " (No, this is not your wife said. ) Does your wife really want a future with you? Does she really understand commitment which marriage is supposed to be? It reminds me of Gary and Merry: On and Off, swing from one side to the other. The chemistry was so well. The makeup was so beautiful. But this relationship makes a human's life less productive.

It's the problem of women, not only Chinese women. If you worked in China, Russia or Thailand and you married a 23-year-old girl, jobless, with poor family, with a nice car. She married you cuz she thought you were rich. Now you send her only $200 per month so she is not in the mood to talk to you and no mood to love you.

She is trying to be cute, sha jiao. In south China, we think if a man has money he'd purchase a concubine or gamble. When he wasted all his money, he is like a dead mouse. So we think if you listen to your wife you'll have a happy family and a productive life.

Many years ago I did the same even in my own language. Then I was told only old people (as old as Jiang Ze Ming or Deng Xiao Ping ) did such things repeating the same thing over and over again B) . I quit the habit.

If your wife's given name is only one Chinese character, it's likely someone else has the same name. If the passport has been sent out, you can contact EMS and give them the tracking code (it begins with two captalized letters then 9 digit and ends with "CN", that's the tracking code) to find out where it is. Your wife got the tracking code on the receipt of EMS after she got pink slip.

Some Asian Americans travelled around Asian countries for business purpose instead of for a genuine relationship.

People have different background. When the figures on the Income Tax Return are very beautiful, VO tends to think you have no motive to scam a visa to get paid by a Chinese citizen. No money no honey -- visa philosophy.

when someone dies and the body is still in the house, we put cooked rice in a bowl, put a boiled egg on the rice, stand two chopsticks there for the dead.

Some people may have athlete feet. Fugi get spread.

Feet is the far-est place from your heart. Washing your feet with hot water will increase the circulation of blood in your body. When you have foot massage, they also use hot water.

Personally I don't feel secure if I have to rely my financial freedom on a man's generosity. I'm fully aware there is no guarantee during visa journey, no guarantee through life journey. However, I saw many women struggle with a job and I was the same in my early years. Since you can afford, let your wife quit her job and attend English training school, computer training, driving license, anything to prepare for a new life, so she doesn't have to be stressed.

I'm goal oriented. After reading Stephen Covey's "Begin with the end in mind", I become goal driven .

Ok, you cannot say a kid is stupid or lazy. The adults who have raised her to this way and have influenced her are fucking stupid and lazy!!! You Americans cannot imagine in what hell some kids were raised. I saw in Guangzhou a kid sleep on a mattress without bed sheets and the mattress has not been cleaned for 14 years! The fucking stupid mother is busy playing ma jiang all the time. I had great pain pushing one of my colleagues to school for learning English and computer skills cuz her husband is a green card holder in Los Angeles. She is in 20s. Her parents, her brother, uncles and aunties, cousins barely write Chinese at all. I had bitter struggle to work with her.

After eating banana skin, you'll have yellow complexion

I'm thinking of making a special dish for Charles next time he comes to China: fried banana skin , with red peppers.

It still depends on in what kind of community kids grow up. I know quite a few Chinese Americans in 20s who don't write either English or Chinese. They only speak some words of both languages. This gives me the impression Chinatown or Chinese restaurant don't need written language at all, which saved tons of paper and thousands of trees.This prejudice is only based on the people I know in person.

My daughter found the movies online for me and she has downloaded some. I'm only good at waving a mop . We are still in China.

Most of the Chinese parents force their children to learn and the children may think learnig is a terrible burden and are scared of it. Maybe you find something fun for her to learn and try to raise her interest in learning. My daughter enjoys Hollywood movies and she can watch movies 16 hours a day. She has learnt the roughest words from Hollywood movies. I have to watch her mouth all the time when she uses English.

SuZhou, YangShuo, GuiLin.....I like the whole China, except Guangzhou. Still thinking how to get out of here

Still need to handle everything with reason and logic. Her husband has been to China for a dozen of times, GUZ may have been concerned "who paid for his trips" (dozen of trips flying half the world cost huge amount of money) and whether the purpose of his trips is for this lady or he is doing some business in China. Her husband can file K3 petition again. Provided she is financially independent, whatever her mother-in-law said doesn't matter. Taking a job in another city may be a choice. My folks back in my province care the same for face thingie and the face things they talk about seems nonsense to me. I never care. I only visit them once every 5 years.