Jeff n Jianli

That's why several times after work, I told my husband "Your US has no hope". Working at Wal-Mart as a casher, in one year, I obviously feel more and more people are using food stamp & WIC. Do they really need food stamp, I'd say no. I saw a white woman paid with food stamp for purified water and pops only, in total 55.55 dollars. A woman with 5 kids picked up 6 pops from fridge, each 1.48 dollar, while on the shelf, 2 little bottle only cost 1 dollar. A mexian couple paid 311 dollars for food, wine, just a swing cost 109 dollars, and then a wic about 68 dollars for baby fomular. Do they need WIC, I believe NO!I even see both mother and daughter use food stamp. For several times I complainted to my husband the thing people buy with food stamp while we both work and can not offer, people with food stamp buy really nice toys for their kids while I can't buy for my daughter. One day my husband said "my biggest wish is that we can shop like people with food stamp". He is half joking though, it's also half true. Being a Chinese, I know some chinese are cheating the program. It's not a problem with Chinese, it's with every race, black, white or Mexican. I am glad that both my husband and I agreed that no matter how hard our life is, we'll work hard by ourselves to raise our kids. To us, it's a shame to live on government. I don't know when people here can learn it's a shame to take advantage of it. Jenny

Hey guys that is a wonderful suggestion, Because my finance and her family is very old fashioned or traditional, It allmost seems to be a black eye for me to visit and stay with her when we are not married, I think a formal announcement and some type of ceremony is in order, We will do everything except register it with local officials, Thanks That is what we done, also

Sounds good to me. I will ask Jianli if she is interested.

Don't worry about rushing your AOS before 90 days. We waited much longer and did not have a problem. Look at our timeline.

I think we was at the same zoo. You could pay exta to go through a special caged walk to see the tigers better and to feed them. The tiger show was sad to see. The tigers clearly had their teeth pulled and I am sure they were declawed also. I felt sorry for once such majestic animals being defenseless. They seemed to be very skinny to me. All of the Chinese people was enjoying the show including my wife until I pointed out to her that they had no teeth.

We have not had a problem yet but this article may help someone http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/...the-race-factor

The best advice I can give you is for you to tell your husband to be to get off his lazy ass and research this stuff for you. It will be easer for him to do it. What did he do while waiting for the k1 visa? He should know all this stuff already. You have too much on your plate to deal with. It is time for him to man up and take care of you.

I think your chances for your husband to get a tourist visa is higher than you think. If he fails to get the visa it will not hurt his chances for getting other types of visas in the future. My wife tried to get a tourist visa and failed but had no problem with the K1. It is my understanding that it is much harder for a chinese woman to get a work or tourist visa than a chinese man.

Well, I hope things worked out for them

We had the same issue. We just waited for the green card.

Congratulations! She will be coming through Terminal 5.

Why not fly into Hong Kong if you are going to Shenzhen? It is only a short bus ride to Shenzhen.

My wife is Han, a fact she seems proud of. She seemed upset when she had to choose Asian instead of Han for race when she filled out a form. I am not sure what I am. I was told we have some German blood and even some native American.

We are both Human beings

My wife did not change her name....she just added my last name to her's.

I feel for you and your stepdaughter. I wish we lived closer so that maybe my wife and her could give each other some comfort. There are many members here who have step children like yours. Maybe we should encourage them to become chat friends so that they can share experiences and find ways to help each other cope. Adjusting to change is not easy for children, especially at her age. When your wife feels homesick she has you to give her comfort and to hold at night, your daughter has no one.

I just got done using skype to talk to Jianli who is in Xi'an and had no problems hearing or seeing each other

It is best to allow 1 month for the visa.

Interesting link for those who are concerned about the debt http://www.usdebtclock.org/

It is hard to find gifts to bring to China because it does not seem right to give "made in China" items. Cigarettes are traditional and common to give. If they do not smoke or are trying to quit they still can pass them on to their friends. Any major US brand will do. Vitamins are good for the old. Calcium supplaments because milk is very expensive in China. I had a request for omega 3 fish oil, I bought Spring Vally brand from walmart. Interestingly all these items are much cheaper in the US. Chocolate is good for the younger people. Plain M&M's, Snicker Bars and Hershey's Kisses are the favorites. If you know someone who likes spicy food then I would recommend "Cow Girl Spicy Chocolates" http://www.scottrobertsweb.com/Review-Cow-...picy-Chocolates or Chuao Chocolatier bars http://www.scottrobertsweb.com/Review-Chua...-Chocolate-Bars these can be bought at Walmart. Have a great trip! I just got back from China myself

I would tell him that you will start dating or chatting with other men unless he commits to a date to visit you. If he truley loves you he will. Life is just too short to wait like this.

"Did you go to the Consulate yourself or have some travel agency apply on your behalf?" We used a travel agency. It cost $310 for both of us. "it only cost about 20 dollors more than the 1 year visa. " The travel agency should not charge you more for a 2 year visa. If they do, then use a different agency.

My daughter and I just got our passports back yesterday from Chicago with 2 year, 90 day visas. I had Jianli write a letter asking for it and why we needed it. We sent a cover letter and a listing of our supporting documents. Everything was hand written in Chinese. Jeff & Jianli

We filed way after the 90 day period and did not have any problem

My wife has her green card now and we are planning a trip back to China next month. We plan on flying into Hong Kong and then taking a bus to Shenzhen. The question is, Does she need a Visa to enter HK? Thanks, Jeff & Jianli