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Wait, you mean you actually thought that?

AFAIK the VO will speak Chinese. IF she can show that she speaks some english it will help. If she has trouble with her english you may be asked to provide a video of you two communicating... which is why it's best to do the video beforehand and have her bring it with her (we found this out the hard way). Remember, VHS tape, NTSC format, which will be tricky because the standard in China is PAL

Dark brown retenas + blue/ green/ hazel contact lenses looks like... ass. I see plenty of hispanic women trying to pretend they have green eyes (and naturally blonde hair). It always looks like someone with brown eyes is wearing colored contact lenses, made in the same factory that produces horse-hair toupees.

Word. The first time I sat on a Chinese mattress I thought the same thing. "Oh my gosh! Somebody has stolen the mattress and replaced it with a mattress-shaped wooden box!"

Hereby nominated for post of the year.

http://www.warrenkramer.com/design/7/images/5a-willrobinson.jpg http://www.just4yucks.com/images/5x/51009.gif On Edit: (Non-judgemental opinion follows) It sounds like you two need to have a bit of a chat to clear things up. Her definition of a responsible husband may be totally orthogonal to your definition of a responsible husband. It reads to me like you two may not know each other as well as you think you do. Freshly married couples who fight, when all was milk & honey before the nuptuial event, looks like a red flag to me.

DANGER WILL ROBINSON! DANGER WILL ROBINSON! Why would you assume that money is a huge factor for your SO, or even SO's in general? Why move to a strange land, with a much higher cost of living, where you don't know the language or customs, just for money? Ask yourself these two related questions: 1) Would you be willing to immigrate to China for your SO? That's what you are asking your SO to do for you. 2) Would your SO stay with you even if you would rather stay in China in stead of having your SO move to the USA? I see what might be a red flag. I can't say for certain which of you may be waving it.

No good can come of these discussions. It's like 16-year old boys discussing the number of women they have slept with. Numbers are going to get inflated. Each woman will want to impress the others with how much she is sent, and you can bet that the first one to say "I get $200/month" will be one-upped by the next who say "I get $250/month". This isn't just cultural. It's human nature.

Ask her how do you say "gold digger" in mandarin.

"A funny thing happened on the way to the forum..." we came across a coin operated scale. The missus wished to see how much she weighed. 120 pounds. She's not a happy camper. I get on the scale-- 230 pounds. I tell her the scale is incorrect (I haven't been at 230 for YEARS) but she isn't having any of it. Her: I'm getting fatter. Me: You eat more ice cream now than you used to. Her: No I don't. Me: You don't get as much excercise as you used to. Her: Not true. Here we drive everywhere, before I would take the bus everywhere. Me: Well, you're getting older. Her: Eh? Me: As people get older people slowly put on weight. Her: Yes. You weigh so much you must be ancient!

My wife wanted a Ferrari. Why a Ferrari? It turns out that was the only name of a "high-end" car she could pronounce. After explaining to her how much even a cheap Ferrari would cost she realized that without help from the lottery, It Ain't Happening. No pouting, no counterarguments of "But if you love me...". For me that was a big green flag with a "Kermit the Frog" face on it. If she says "I want a Porsche", that's a yellow flag at best. If she says "You miake lots of money, right? Can you afford to buy me a new Porsche?", then that's a bright red "DANGER WILL ROBINSON" flag.

Even a stopped clock gives the right time twice a day. Think of what you step in during the day. Then think of tracking it across the carpet inside your house. Just because a person with OCD washes their hands before eating does not make good hygiene a by-product of a sick mind.

Illegal (mostly Mexican) immigrants can: -Be licensed to drive -Go to college, and get financial aid to go to college -Open bank accounts (Banks in California accept a Matricula Consular as valid ID) -Sue for damages -Get home loans/ buy houses -Open businesses -Not supposed to vote, but you know how much ID is asked for at the polling places Please Mr. USCIS man, remind us why we have to jump through all these hoops so our spouses can be here legally?

Check your PM.

Not work out? Au contraire, things are going quite well for my wife and I! I'm happily married, free from any drama at all on the home front.

Iv'e said it before. I'll say it again. Anyone who heads to China with the idea of meeting a traditional lady who subscribes to the Donna Reed school of marriage practices is going to get exactly what he deserves.

Be sure he/she understands that TV programs from the USA do NOT accurately portray life in America any more than Chinese dramas accurately portray everyday life in China.

Time to do the happy dance!

No, I'm certain that BuffaloPaul has had some rather unsavory experiences. I have been lucky(?) enough to not have shared them in modern China or in western Russia.

My travels in Russia and China indicate otherwise...

The question to ask is... why don't you give up everything for HIM? Look, if he is doing just fine in China, why don't you go ahead and move to China? You can marry him, settle down, become a happily married couple, perhaps even start a family. Or you can take option B: Long distance relationship for at least a year, lots of money spent flying back and forth, tearful goodbyes at the airport, hassles of dealing with the consulate in GuangZhou, worries about the interview. And all for the same outcome that you can have RIGHT NOW, but in China instead of the USA. On edit: How to tell is she/he is the one-- Would you be willing to leave everything in the USA behind and start a new life in China with your fiancee? A lifetime of unfamiliar customs, rude people trying to remind you that you are an outsider, living under a different legal code and system of government, etc.? Because that is what you are asking of your fiancee. I would have been willing to stay in China with my wife, came close to packing it up in the USA to permanently relocate when she started to have trouble getting the visa. And if I thought the USA did not agree with her I'd be the first to suggest we return to China. Are you willing to do this for him?

You know al lthat stuff I wanted to do before she got here? Well, we have been busy doign it Just living a normal married life.

Perhaps... On your knees, forehead touching the ground, dressed in robes of pure white cotton, anointed with fragrant oils and whispering obsequiously "If it may please you sir, I humbly request the blessing of your favor..." ? I bought a see-thru accordian-style binder and a bunch of manilla tabbed folders. Everything into the folders, organized by topic and date, with Chinese/English labels on the tabs for quick and easy reference. The pictures were mounted on sheets of paper so they would not just spill out when the folder was opened.

The problem is that they are nasty. Already in your tummy? Not much need to worry, the worst part is over once they are past your tastebuds. Look guys (and gals) I'll consume as much Chinese cusine as any colored chap, but some things I have to draw the line at. Moon cakes are on the far side of that line.

I know little about immigration law. What is the difference between I-130 and I-129f? I am a citizen. What is the proper term for "Visa Category"? Thanks 154583[/snapback] One application is for a fiancee, to bring her here to marry. The other is an application for your wife, whom you have married abroad. FWIW the fiancee visa usually took less time than the spousal visa, but luckily you are allowed to take the fiancee route even if you are already married. IIRC you being a citizen has no bearing on the type of application you file.