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I think you worry too much. Yes, she will be naive when she goes to school, but she can call home if need be. MANY chinese students come here for their masters, and granted they are another 4 years older, but they survive the culture shock. Often they come over alone, and deal with everything by themselves. I don't blame you for being concerned, I will be exactly the same way (my daughter from China is 15). However, I hope I can give my daughter the room to make mistakes, and be there for her when she needs me. I hope you will give your daughter the same chance. Really what difference does it make if you move now, or wait and move if/when you actually are needed?

To make her computer just like it would be in China, you need to purchase the Chinese version of microsoft windows. The difference between what you did, and the chinese version is this: You have everything on the desktop etc. in english, and she can type in chinese. With a chinese version of the operating system, the desktop, files, etc. are all in chinese, and she can optionally type in english. I presume she can browse the web and find you a mail-order place to buy the chinese version of windows. She will have to help you install it though because even the install is in chinese. This is just a slightly wordier version of QuietMe's answer. I hope it helps.

Oh Jim, get me one, I'll be there in December and I'll be happy to buy it As for your write up, your right. It made me feel MORE comfortable. I disagree with your analysis of the result though. You have good income, you have a good relationship, and you are a US citizen. YOUR visa app actually went as it should. Everyone who meets the criteria should be as easy as yours. I am tempted to do the same thing you did in terms of paper work, because I am in a similar position. I don't have millions of dollars, but I could, and may well move to China if this drags out. I could make plenty of money there, and I honestly enjoy living there. I have no doubts about our relationship, and I honestly don't feel I need to PROVE anything to the government. She is my wife, I made that choice. If they don't want to let my wife move here, perhaps China would like me there better. They certainly seem to when I visit. I have no doubts about our relationship, and anyone who sees us together would have no doubt either. Not because we are lovey-dovey in public (we are not, my wife is a traditional Chinese woman) but because even being different races, we fit together like puzzle pieces. Best of luck in China, I'd enjoy looking you up and meeting you next time I am there. Oh, and I am serious about the macbook, pm me and we can work out the details if your willing.

What kind of teacher are you? Tell her she can breath through her nose while kissing !! I would offer to help you teach her, but I feel that mop slap coming already

No problem sending everything to my wife. I know her though, she is a minimalist. I can send her everything, but she will just consider it a headache ... until its needed, then she will praise her smart husband The fact is, I try to make sense of the things that are required, and in some cases I just don't think there is any sense to be had. [rant] It seems to me that if the abjugation (however it is spelled) is done here in the USA, and they approve me, then GUZ should not LOOK for reasons to reject my petition. If the USA WANTS to find my x-wife, I am quite certain they can, and they have the rfe process available to get anything they want. I am going through the I-130 process, so nearly everything is done here in the US. The ONLY reason (it seems to me) that GUZ should intervene is if there was clear evidence my marriage was a fraud. I don't mean go out and dig through the trash, but if my wife came in and didn't know my childrens names or anything about me, THEN I think GUZ would have reason to issue a blue slip. I just think it is insulting to the US agents for GUZ to second guess them, and in fact is written explicitly in their procedures that the foreign office should NOT re-abjugate the petition. If the US office thought they needed my x-s information, or phone logs, or whatever, then it should be requested in an rfe. Everything should be up front and official, not wait until the interview and ask for more documents! [/rant] So, calm now, I will give them anything they ask for, and I will do my best to prepare all the documents in China with my wife.

It is easy to get the ss#. It should be in your divorce decree that you had to file with your petition. Also as someone else stated find an old tax return. If you don't have the returns, request a transcript from IRS for a year you were married. It will have your and your x's ss# on it. If you have no idea where she lives, then that is the answer you must give. In my case, I know her address because I pay support payments.

Then I don't understand. Why send in the kitchen sink if they wont accept it anyway? Why not just leave the kitchen sink at home, and mail it in after its ask for? I am sorry I am so slow folks. I always feel like it takes me forever to understand what ya'll tell me. I think the answer is "No don't send the extra info to USCIS" and make sure my wife has it in China in case she needs it. Is that right?

I read all these posts, and noticed that they were all K1 visas. Also, I don't see how providing the information at interview will help. If they want to check out the were-abouts of your x then having the information at interview is not going to help. My petition is an I-130. Do these have the same issues with divorce?

Fixed timeline.. I couldn't figure how to do colors so I used font size. Petition is at USCIS, and I expect it will be there until late September, or possibly late October. I doubt it has even been looked at.

In view of all the garbage posts lately, how about a real question? I read here and on vj that if your divorced these days, you will be asked for x-spouse address, ss# and phone #. Both me and my wife were previously married, and my divorce was within 2 months of my marriage to my current wife. So, it seems I should prepare for this question. Should I send the information to USCIS (I have already filed so it would be add-on) or just get it available for the kitchen sink at the interview. If they want to check out our x-spouses, it seems that providing it at the interview would still result in a delay while they checked the information. If I provide it to USCIS, then it seems Guz would not have grounds to re-investigate? What is your opinion and if I should mail it in, what should it contain?

I agree with what you say, but having raised 3 children now college age, I am a bit more realistic about what goes on. A few thoughts I hope will help you: Quality Teachers: I know we should expect a higher level of proficiency in our teachers, but keep in mind that 30,000 a year is an average salary for our teachers. We get what we pay for! Perhaps we should get rid of public schools, and make everyone pay for what they get. Capitalism has a good way of weeding out the poor students and teachers Discipline: I agree with you whole heartedly. In fact I think that a few swats on the butte with a paddle wouldn't hurt anyone. At very least there should be two schools available to students. One where students who WANT to learn can go, and another for students who just want to goof off in class. If they don't want to learn, stop them from disrupting the students who DO want to learn. Curriculum: I don't know on this one. China schools teach information and do a great job, perhaps we could model after them. On this one I don't know enough to offer comments. Language: I am not an English major, and I often make mistakes in English. In fact I just finished telling my wife her English was good, and that no one in America would care if she made mistakes. Teachers should be held to a higher standard, but again.. for what we offer as pay, do you really expect the most proficient teacher? Movie in class: It is a break for student and teacher. It is very wrong to tell the children it accurately depicts anything except a break from studying, but then how many letters from parents would the teacher get if he said "History is SO boring, I fall asleep while teaching it. Please understand I am going to show some movies that are loosely related during the semester just to give my students a break." I already told my wife that I plan to spend every evening with our daughter (age 15 we should get them together) re-teaching what was presented in class. I say this for 3 reasons, 1) I know it will be difficult for her to listen to English all day in the classroom and will need the extra help to absorb the information. 2) Because I know after my other 3 children that the teaching is very limited, and sometimes wrong in class. 3) I see it as a great opportunity for me to spend time with my teenager. I sympathize with you 100%, but you can't change the teachers, and they will only respond by treating your child poorly. Make your own plan to supplement the education. I hope this helps you. It is an alternative view of the problem from a Dad who is worn down from fighting the schools. You just would not believe the stories I could tell about school and our children. I really feel bad moving my daughter from her excellent education in China to America, but I am selfish. I can't live without her and her mother.

I agree with others who have said to go to the interview. The #1 reason you should go to the interview is because that is what your SO wants and feels comfortable with. You asked her what she wanted you to do, she told you what she wanted, then you ask us ?!? She is or soon will be your wife, believe in her, trust her. #2 reason is more factual. You imply you have only visited her once, she is right. The number of visits seem to be equated to commitment, and while you may think different your not the VO. #3 you can ensure she has the kitchen sink with her, and understands where everything is so she can give it to the vo. #4 you can ask her practice interview questions, and make sure she knows the answer to every question easily. You know how easy it is to get confused during a test, think about how important this test is. Go to the interview.

I read the title of this thread, and thought it MUST be a joke. How could any person NOT like their SO's lips? I guess each person finds different things attractive about their chosen partner, but for me kissing is one of my favorite things, thus, her lips are wonderful to me. My wife does not have those pouting lips that some men like, she has lips that match her face, and that speak to me in words that touch my heart. My wife has lips that kiss me (always in private of course) and make my heart stop, and beat wildly all at the same time. My wife has lips that tenderly support me when I am down, or tired, or in any way need my loves support. Before we married, before we met in person, I told my (now) wife I liked to kiss. She said she was not a good kisser. I believe this is the only time my wife was wrong. Yes, I like my SO's lips. I am 8,000 miles from her, and there are many things I miss being away from her, but at the top of the list are her lips.. for all these reasons I listed, and more.

I would like to know this as well. We have apartments rented out in China. We own another we live in and are having another built. I am willing to pay a tax specialist to get this answer if anyone can refer me. I would LOVE to write off my china trip expenses since I check on our apartments when I visit, and do repairs as needed. Anyone know the answer, or know a tax specialist ?

gratz!!! I am glad it was an easy interview for your fiancee, and I wish you the happiest life possible.

Last year, I met a wonderful lady Sept. 1. We chatted, we enjoyed our talks and time together. By the time Moon festival came around (10/6/2006) I was begging the moon lady that this was the person I was tied to at birth with my red thread. Pictures of the wonderful lady in china sat next to my own with red thread connecting them. This year, I planned to spend Moon Festival with my wife (still that wonderful woman) but it seems I wont have the time off from work. Still, I will buy my moon cake, and thank the Moon Lady, the old man, and the rabbit on the moon. Any of you others planning a trip to be with the love of your life for Moon Festival? I notice toplaw is going over Sept. 21, so he will be there. I am jealous !

That seems so unreasonably cruel. SURELY there is some way to reunite a baby and her mother!

I am so jealous of you K1 filers. In 3 months your application is in Guz. In 3 months my I-130 will only just get to VSC, then more wait. Best wishes for you all though. While I am jealous, I still want you all to be successful.

Very good. My Chinese is poor, but I think I understand most of story. I could not make out if the supervisor changed the CR/1 to IR/1 or not, and if he did, will that affect the green card. Maybe it did not matter, because the immigration service will issues the correct green card no matter what is on the visa? Glad your here, glad school will work out. Your success gives me hope that my wife and child will make it here one day too.

A question. I filed I-130 for my wife and our step daughter. The divorce decree gives my wife sole custody of our step daughter. Will I still need this letter from my wifes ex to get the visa for our step daughter? If I need this, is there an example form I should try to get from him.

I have often wondered, perhaps if I accidentally left $100 bill in the envelope, would my case proceed faster? I think not in America, but you never know.

I love living in China, even though I only get to be there for short periods of time. What I think you are asking, I think comes down to personal preference. 1) Most important, I am with my lao po. 2) I like walking to the markets, and buying things my kids tease me are pets, that we then eat 3) I like riding the buses, my mind set is different than when I drive in america. And no, I'd never consider using the buses in america because the service is abysmal in america. 4) I like the crowds of people, when I return to america, I feel like the place is empty. 5) I enjoy riding my bike everywhere we go. I am healthier, and avoiding the cars, taxis, and buses makes me laugh every day. 6) I love the language. When I hear Mandarin, or better Suzhouese my ears feel good. I could be hearing a symphony and not be as happy. 7) I enjoy seeing the Chinese people, of course my eyes only see my lao po for women, but all the rest of the people are nice too. 8) I enjoy being a foreigner in China. I like doing something most other people won't or don't. 9) I enjoy learning a new way of life, and watching all the people around me, how they act, and inter-act. 10) I love being with my lao po. (Yes this is here twice, because I'd live on the moon if it meant being with her) Thats my short list. I could probably keep going. oh, did I mention the fire works, pretty much all year round? oh, and the fact that NO ONE wears shoes in my house. and food is good and cheap. I best stop, I am going to check when my flight is

I filed a petition using the form I-130 with uscis on 6/15. It has had nothing done on it so far. On my cover letter I said I would be processing the k3 visa path (before I learned that meant they would hold my I-130). Now I have decided no, I will just stick with the I-130 route. Do I need to do anything to correct the statement on my cover page, or since it isn't a real document it doesn't matter? If it needs changing, how do I go about telling them I changed my mind? I tried calling to talk to a human, but I couldn't find any path that led to a human.

It is my understanding that Chinese culture very much believes in doing, instead of saying. Say "Wo ai ni" till you are out of breath and it means nothing. Act, showing her you care for and respect her, then you are saying "Wo ai ni" the proper way. Same other way, do not expect her to say "I love you", but watch what she does for you, and realize every act of love she performs is saying "I love you" to you. Don't forget to appreciate her acts of love as much or more than the words. Otherwise you will frustrate her by making her feel you dont appreciate her love. When I first met my wife online, she almost left me, I didn't know it at the time. She had made up her mind to dump me though. I had told her my heart wanted to love her, but my brain told me I could not be in love with someone I had never met. She was deeply troubled one day, I didn't know why (in her mind she was telling me goodbye but had not brought herself to say it). I was so upset, because she was hurt about something that I wired flowers to her work, saying "I hope your day is better. I am sad because you are sad". She changed her mind and kept me. Only 6 months later, did she explain all this too me. I never knew that one ACT of love on my part made the difference between a good bye and a good life. Needless to say I appreciate, respect, and yes love her every day. I have to actively think about the culture difference though. I have to remember to act, not say.

Congratulations !!! You provide hope for all of us in the process. We will all eagerly listen for your guidence. You are now an expert Get your baby home with you!