Cathy

So, you do have a petition for your ex.

I agree that the Commander (CO) is a title or a job position. The Vice Commander in Chinese military equals to the XO, the Executive Officer, in American military, no matter it is for a battery, or a battalion.

Sorry to hear of your denial. Since your fiance is a medical student, you need to make sure that your co-sponsor's support is strong enough to cover the student loan (or whatever the expenses there is). Otherwise, before he/she can have income to support the life of you two, your life in America is not independent, maybe another version of 'public burden'? Just my opinion.

I want to thank you very much for the link. I watced it and enjoyed my New Year's Eve. If the Chinese New Year is a holiday here, then I will enjoy it off todday as well.

You are so welcome Drew. I made a mistake in my earlier post, saying you learned from your ex Chinese wife, which should be ex Chinese fiance. Since my post was cited already, I will make the correction here. Sorry about it. Separation and non face-to-face communication is hard. Wish you two will be together soon.

Thank you very much for your compliment, Mike. I just comment subjectively with my understanding. This time I had a chance to put it into practice and it seemed working. Understanding and being understood is fun and comfort in life. Happy Chinese New Year!

I see your issue resulting from the generation difference. It can be worked out depending on whether you are committed to this marriage and how much effort you want to put into it. Thinking about her generation. She is 24 and has no job living with her mother. This generation mostly is spoiled and takes things for granted. It is a generation centered by parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles. Even kids from some difficulty families learn to be self-centered because other kids around them living like that, so they think that is how life is supposed to be. At the age of 24, she should have finished her college education and find a job and work. If a person doesnt work and make money to take care of herself, she would just dream about her life and would not appreciate anything provided for her because she doesnt know how much effort needed to be put in to bring the money home. There is a Chinese saying "ren bi ren qi si ren", which means you could pass out if you compare yourself to others. Your wife needs to know she is living in her life and her friend is having hers too. They two are having their own husband and of course life should be different. Let her know what you post here about the life difference between the two families. About the $200 is enough or not. You lived in China before. And from your planning of your finance and the future life, I should congratulate you that you learned well from your ex Chinese wife. With your income and work capability and wisdom in finance, your wife should reach her dream when she comes to the States. But you need let her know that she needs listen to you because she has no idea of the American life and what needs to be taken care of here. With current currency exchange rate, I would say $200 can cover monthly basic needs. From your description, she doesnt or doesnt know to bargain (which is unusual for a working class girl). She might be tight in getting some clothes. You know, girl's wardrobe is never enough. I always think sending money is not so necessary when apart (we went with the K1) because the USC needs money to prepare things on this end. I talked with my hubby once about this issue. He said that was because not everyone could have a comfortable life and did not need go to an English class. The USC wanted their fiancee or wife living better. So I guess the amount of money would be decided on what kind of life you want her to have over there. 200 for a basic one and 350 for a comfortable one. China is like America, the life style depends on the income. You also could communicate her that since you two are married now, she need think more of 'we', not 'I'. Every Yuan she saves over there would benefit her life here because you are saving to make it better for her. And now you need her to get involved and her effort. Even now she doesnt talk on the phone, keep trying reaching out to her. Keep emailing her or sending messages. She can read and she will read. Then she will think. Give her some time and space to think and figure things out. She is not playing a game. She just doesnt understand the life, the hardship, and how to reach the dream. You need work for the dream. The dream will not just simply falls on your head. She marries you. She is not playing. As for the future, if you are committed into this marriage, you need to be patient and help her grow. She is too young to know what life is about. As to the wedding photo shooting, you should not be upset. That is a common trick the studio plays everywhere, esp. the good ones. When you go there to make an appointment and pick out the program. you think you understand all the details. When you see the pictures and talk about what to put into the album, the problem surfaces. Some studio doesnt give you the negatives, which you always want to own them yourself and think you would need them when making more printouts. Here comes the price for the negatives. When you want to put more pictures in the album, here comes extra cost. When you want to use a better print paper for your big picture, here comes extra cost. There are many ways to take money out of your pocket. Usually when you see the beautiful pictures, you forget about the cost issue. I guess she paid for the 400 basic program price and you paid the 800 for the extra part. Shooting the wedding pictures is a very important part for a Chinese girl. She will show the album to any one who asks about her husband. It is just like having the wedding ceremony is for the bride in the States. How many groom are happy about the process? They just understand that is done for the bride because it is her big day. Hope this helps.

That's a really good news. Happy for you both.

Isn't I-751 supposed to be a work primarily completed by the beneficiary, the Chinese spouse? So, the cover letter should address as 'my I-751 petition', not 'my wife's petition'?

First, tell the company that the Chinese Department of Education doesn't store students transcripts. The DOE issues the Diploma and Certificate of Graduation and has records of those. I guess what the company means by that is asking for both the Diploma and the Certificate of Graduation issued by the DOE. As to the transcript, your wife will need her college to prepare for it and translated. Your wife can find someone locally to help her with this and mail her when ready. All documents need to be stamped by the College. Some situation even requires the transcript sealed in the college envelop and the envelop should have the college seals on it and not be opened when submitted.

Could she fly in Jacksonville and you drive there the night before the interview so that at least she could have a good night sleep?

Thanks. Most songs in that machine are Chinese songs. It has some old/classical English songs, as well as songs in other Languages and dialects.

IF she is still in China, you could suggest her bring a karaoke machine to the States. The brand is Wanlida ÍòÀû´ï. The new version should have 20000 songs. You can get a mixer, amp and microphones here.

Theoretically, Hongkong follows its regional law as long as it is not contrary to the Constitution of China. I have no idea of the age requirement of marriage in HK.

My guess of this situation is that the VO doubts the relationship based on the age of the husband. In China, the legal age for marriage requires the girl of 20 and the boy of 22. If he went to GUZ for k1 interview, I doubted he could get the visa there. The VO might think what motivated the husband to get married at such an early age, esp. he is from China. Marriage in China firstly means responsibility. Even age 22 may not be old enough to be independent and self-supportive. At that age, you could be just graduated from college. Just little of my guess.

My mom used Nice 'n Easy and she liked it. When choosing hair dye, be careful to read about the allergy part. When using it, follow the steps too. One of my friend used one hair dye (dont remember the brand) and her face was swollen for one week. Her husband touched her head skin when brushing the dye, and I thought she was allergic to that product as well. Just be cautious.

You were guessing, and it came up very close. No big deal.

June 19, according to the Chinese calendar.

Congradulations!!! This is even a hearty relief from me. Your case was filed on 02/24/06, and mine was on 02/27/06. I paid tight attention to your timeline. I even remembered how stressful you were when you were asked for additional evidence. Now all those are behind. What a day! Best wishes to your life together!

China does has the permanent residency system now. It was issued in 2005 or 2006 for the first time, and CCTV reported it. They were issued to the foreigners living in China for years. Similar to the States, you need to be in China to apply for it, not through a Chinese embassy in the States.

Lake Tahoo or Yosemite if she likes Nature. Congradulations!!!

Congradulations!!!

I am in this process too, still waiting for a further response. Patient, patient and patient. My solution is relocation.

Believe what you find out and what your mind/heart tells you. There is an old Chinese saying and it is still practised nowadays that, we would prefer to tear down 10 temples rather than breaking up a marriage. It shows marriage is very important in Chinese life. People would try to counsel the problems subjectively and bring the two parties together. And China is progressing too. People do can accept the idea of divorce when it is decided. What other people say about your wife is not important. It is crucial that how you see her. Even people have the past, they still deserve a chance to start it again. I don't think anyone could be smart enough to grab a red flag in time and make a final decision when it happens for the first time. So in life, we are also giving ourselves another chance to learn. What brings our attention is not what is happening, but its frequency or a pattern of the happening. You can't control what other people could do for you or for your wife, but you do can control how to responde it.

I agree with Stone. I haven't heard of any sublease so difficulty. Those words like he is doing a sublease and can take back the apartment any time is unreasonable. It shows that he can/will break the contract any time. Why make a deal with him? Don't be afraid by his saying that he showed the sublease to his professor. He didn't tell you what the professor said. Having professional advice is helpful, but in our daily life the commen sense works well.