LaurenAmber

I gotta learn this mopslap technique That way i can set my husband straight and he'll feel right at home LOL

I was watching this while in China with my husband. It is an AMAZING show. Jiexi and I are both big Bruce Lee fans and this show really does him justice. Not to mention the guy playing him is just perfect (He was also in Kung Fu Hustle) The only thing that drove me crazy watching it in China was when Bruce was in America they were obviously speaking English but it was dubbed in Mandarin. I was thinking Yay! I can watch something in English... oh wait... nope... lol

Earlier in our relationship, Xiahong would thank me when I did things for her. I'd tell her, "don't thank me - I'm your husband" meaning it was my duty as a good husband. She turned the tables on me when would thank her for something she did for me. Basically we do for each other because we are one. Yeh i didn't mean that you should always say thank you, but you should always at least SHOW that you are grateful. You don't wha your spouse to fel unappreciated. It's all about give and recieve, and to not EXPECT either of those.

you went to China and you cant eat chinese food? wow!! Well i can eat Chinese food in America just fine. When i ate authentic Chinese food it was like getting food poisoning everytime. Someone on here mentioned MSG allergy and i spoke to my doctor. Turns out that's about right. I'm allergic to MSG. Sucks that i've found out all my allergies the hard way

and where I was saying "Xiao mei" to the waitress was quite popular. Which was ironic because my ABC friends call me "Xiao mei" and also i am a waitress on the side in the US lol Tho actually i met a group of 'ladies of expensive sensibilities' and they were some of the most hilarious people. They looked at me like a rockstar and whatnot and were really sweet. I guess 'they're people too' should've occured in my mind. I was jsut also suprised how open it was to see them.

Hmm here's my 10 that i love 1) The family unit. I have never seen a family as close as my Chinese family. It really amazes me. 2) The scenery. I spent half my time in the countryside and every morning the view was just breathtaking. 3) The 'waste not' mentality. Granted i'm not gonna eat chicken feet anytime soon lol, but the food really shows that they don't waste anything, really awesome. 4) Cussing out the racist landlady. She was so abusive to me, but also knew NO English. She was so abd so it was really fun to just say my peace without worrying about her knowing haha 5) The fashion. Chinese girls seemed to have the best fashion sense i've seen. 6) Prices! It rocks to get clothes that in the US would cost me abot $40-$50 for only $7 lol 7) The flavor of Coke. Y'all might think i'm weird but Coke tastes different in China. (Japan and Korea too)But i love the taste, i tried to drink a Coke here in America and it just tasted bad. 8) Private rooms at the restaurants. The reaturants where instead of sitting in some booth in a large room willed with tons of other people, you're in a private room, sitting at a round table. I loved it because it felt so much more personal. 9) Carrefour! haha For a little white girl like me that can't eat Chinese food, this place was a lifesaver lol 10) The villages. Hard to describe but the villages were amazing. The people had simple lives, but were so happy because they had each other. They found joy in the simple things, had a great sense of humor, and were some of the most genuine people i came across in my whole trip

THe mother, sister, daughter comment was actually the next point i was going to make. And yeh, i've known plenty of abusive American men (and dated them too). Any generalization like that we can always flip around. I mean, I could say my husband "saved" me from the 'watching-football-get-me-a-beer-etc-etc' American men. Yes it's a stereotype that American men watch a ton of football, drink beer, and are disrespectful to thier wives. But do i assume that all of you guys are? No. Is that why i married my husband? No. Did my husband marry me because there was something terrible about Chinese women? No. One bad apple doesn't have to spoil the whole bunch, just use your head. Exactly Jin, that was the point i was also making. All the men in my Chinese family are great people and even are romantic individuals.

Thank you. I've just been getting so sick of it. Thank you for understanding. It just really bothers me because i don't think any ill thoughts against Chinese women just because my husband chose to marry an American woman. Maybe guys just have a "Knight In Shining Armor" complex lol <3 And i'll definitely offer what i know about the Chinese men as long as it's asked in a polite way and not accusing them

I just noticed that. Wtf?? Can't handle some debate?

My husband and I are going to do a ceremony in America once he gets his visa, then we're going to go back to China when we can to have a Chinese ceremony. I'm wanting to put some traditional things into our American wedding, but i have no idea how to combine them.

Welcome to CFL! You should post more so that we can get to know you

Also i want to add that i'm so sick of the notion that all asian men are incapable of affection/lovey dovey-ness. My husband is actually a very romantic person. He maybe not be the "I'm here my fair princess to whisk you away to a castle" but i would never consider him not ot show his love. He does on quite a lot of occasions nad tlaks romantically. So do his friends. I know some people that marry asian women feel that they're "saving" them from the drone asian men. That really is just not true. But in the same respect, you could think we American women feel that we're "saving" the Chinese men. This isn't to insult either gender, but remember who you are insulting when you make a generalization. You could say something to the effect of "I havn't seen many asian men be affectionate, does anyone have another view on this?" There's generalizations of every gender and nationality. I think we all safely want to avoid those and the hurt they cause. However i've seen a couple places on here were asian men are accused of not being lovey dovey. There are exceptions of EVERY rule, and this is a forum where you should not make such comments. Back on the topic of sweet love lol Sorry but i just had to offer my two cents because it's been bothering me

For me love is to give all and expect nothing in return, and to never expect to recieve but to prove your gratefulness when you do. Like my husband took amazing care of me when I was sick, and never expected me to thank him or anything. He happily took care of me because he's my husband. But then when I felt better, i spent some time doing my best to tell my husband romantic thank yous in Chinese to show him I had been studying. And various little things like that. I'm going to send that to my husband, that is wonderful

Thank you And i'll introduce it to him soon

its ok i already understood that it takes 2 people

You're welcome I'm working on posting more Thank you so much. I love to see everyone's pictures too. I have way too many pictures lol Hubby and I are both shutterbugs. I have almost 5 gigs of photos from those 2 months Thanks! I'm working on posting more in the gallery, but it keeps giving me errors Thanks so much, this site has already helped me so much

1- there's a lot of those in my area actually, so it's not a problem 2- the site actually have a pack of every form, each instruction as well as address etc etc. It's not a bad deal to get everything i need to handle stuff

That night i had no choice on the alcohol because it was our "congrats" party. Liquor was just about poured into my mouth for me. Part of me almost feels like we were being 'punished' or severely tested. Because that night was just beyond ridiculous with how much we were forced into crap that was so unhealthy. I ended up spending the whole night taking care of my husband even tho i was totally blitzed. Yes the situation did bring us closer, and got me very accepted by them, however we should've never had that happen to us. I also don't like my husband having to smoke when he's offered cigs. I personally do not like smoking and he doesn't like it either. But he feels like he's "supposed to" It's not just the food in china that could kill you, it seems. It's sometimes social traditions. I love those commercials LOL

Yes i do, we already discussed it privately in a PM. Everything is cool, no need to worry If you want to PM me about it you can Muaha, Soon we'll take over! Thanks so much!

Lol glad you enjoy. and haha why will Dennis envy me?? lol i was never this emotional before i began this process Thanks And yeh my husband hated the color when it happened, but i actually really like it. I think it'll be weird to see him with black hair again lol

Ok, i'll check with one of my friends to get it translated. and haha, it's ok. The guy side of it is diff lol. There's lots of websites that sell packettes for name changes. It's all the forms you need as well as ful instructions and fees. Thankfully isn't only like $30 to get EVERYTHING. Which when you fully change your name in the US there's a loooot of paperwork. There's like Social Security, IRS, Passport, Postal Service, Driver's License, Voter Registration, then banks, cards, any bill at all. I had to change my name once before (stepfather) so i'm used ot the process. It's just still a hassle

And well you should Lauren...If there is something more imortant than one's health could someone please tell me what it would be??? And as for someone who would feed eggs they knew to be unsafe to their child to make some wierd political point... Well what can one say??? Preciesly. I get so freaked out about health related things. That's why when my husband and I were forced to drink beyond our limit at our "wedding congratuations party" i was pissed. I know Chinese drink alot, and it's hard to fully describe how bad things got. But when I finally stopped because i just could NOT drink anymore, i refused the alcohol. My husband was noticeably terribly ill and almost unable to get up, they forced him to drink two shots to make up for my slack. He ended up also busting his head wide open on a table. That's when i called night over, i was sick of us being pushed towards alcohol poisoning for the sake of "celebration" and i don't get the purposely feeding eggs to make a point either. I don't toy with any kind of health to make any kind of point. Not mine and especially not my children. Hell i usually don't even eat a food that once gave me food poisoning. Then again i think i've alreaedy established that i'm OCD about some things lol. Health, baby names, and manners/moral behavior lol

Thank you. And yeh he's got some hair lol He tried to dye it blonde and that color happened lol. And obviously i'm not really blonde lol (You can see i'm really brunette). I bleached my hair out on a whim, then when i went to dye it back i found out the hard way i'm allergic to hair dye Isn't that the whole point of this site? LOL Hello! Knowing that place is wholesale now makes me wish we would've had time to check it out! grr. Well he technically is living in Xiamen. He still has his apartment there but the house owner is such a bitch. She's terrible to him all the time, but when I got there it got worse. She mistreated me so bad that we moved in with his parents outside of Shao Wu (I call it Shao Wu because i can't remember the village name for the life of me.). My husband also put his room up for rent online. So technically he still has his home in Xiamen, but that woman is so terrible he'd rather stay with his parents while he sorts everything out. My husband went to school in Shao Wu, but thier home is about an hour into the mountains. That's so cool you have family near there! Congrats on your approval. It would definitely ne ncie to get advice from any and all heh I have tons more pictures from the trip. I'm trying to get them uploaded to the gallery. Hopefully it will stop making errors and upload

Thank you so much that means alot to me welcome home little sister That actually made me tear up a bit <3

Actually with a site like what I found they send you all the papers to fill out and where to send them. It's easier than doing it one by one and going to each place. Yeh that website has a package you order for everything. I was just needing to know what to do about a lisence that's in chinese. My husband actually understands the changing name thing in America and he and his family love the idea. Our family and friends in China get a kick out of calling me "Mrs. Ding". Also as i said in my other post out of a mix of not being all that fond of my father, and having a very famous character sharing my last name is causing me quite a bit of greif. Once i explained the name change, my chinese family really embraced it. PS- We both were given marriage books. Can't I just get mine translated? The only difference in our books is just who's name is on the top of "page 1" and "page 2" contains the same info. We both have a marriage book. So couldn't i just get mine translated and notarized? Getting it translated and sworn wouldn't be hard since there are a LOT of chinese in my city and there's a lot of language teachers. The website i found is a packet that a lot of my friends have used. It's got all the forms and instructions on what to send, when etc etc. and yeh I mean when i called the courthouse the woman was actually really sweet and said "Honey just go with a service website, it'll save you money"