How would I go about finding local Chinese women

[m-coon]

Hi All,

 

Wife will be here on the 30th!!! Yea Yea Yea...

 

It is now time to begin doing things differently, and start doing things that will make my wife happy and content. My concern is that she may become lonely here. I work very long hours and at this time am working 7 days a week. I need to help her find friends in the area to do things with. We live in a small city and the house is a bit "rural". There is a large military base 30 or so miles away - so I am sure there are other Chinese ladies in this area.

 

My question is HOW do I go about locating some Chinese women in my area for her to have as friends? My wife speaks little english, so especially at first - I think it will help if I can find some mandarin speaking ladies. Any suggestions on how we can seek out these ladies to have as friends?

 

Thanks,

Scott

[tywy_99]

Look for any Chinese Associations in your area. You can search on the internet for them or ask around.

Does she frequent 001? If she does, she might find a friend or two that way also.

[pkfops]

Go to the Chinese resturants.

 

She will become a big hit with the owners and

you will soon find you can order things you don't

see on the menu.

 

That's one way to get "connected".

[david_dawei]

Agree with Pete... that's how we got our ESL connection as well.

 

If there's any chinese markets.. visit.

 

If there's a chinese school for learning chinese (or a church), visit.

 

When out and about, don't be shy to walk up and talk to an asian woman to see if she is chinese.

 

We also have had friends say, "we know a chinese couple, we'll have you all over together for dinner"... Accept the invitations..

[tonado]

Chinese church and Chinese markets. You can even try the White Page phone book looking for Chinese last names and addresses.

Edited November 21, 2005 by tonado (see edit history)

[RJZ+JCW]

If there is a strong Chinese population in your area, you might try and see if there are any Chinese taking ESL courses at the local Community College. However, from my experience, Chinese people are generally indifferent and cool to others, even other Chinese, and I doubt that any of the above mentioned ideas will yield much success in establishing a helpful friendship.

 

My suggestion is to just put her into ESL, let her find whatever friends she can, and let her be as "American" as possible. I know her English needs to improve, but she'll improve faster if she is not "given" to a Chinese community (if you even have one) and she'll probably integrate into your lifestyle faster if she doesn't gang up with other Chinese.

[david_dawei]

She needs to feel comfortable, confident and secure.

 

I see balance as the key.. she probably needs both connections and involvements (chinese and american).. I wouldn't look at it as either or... Let her also define her path a little too. You can help her along the way to get there...

[jim_julian]

If there is a strong Chinese population in your area, you might try and see if there are any Chinese taking ESL courses at the local Community College. However, from my experience, Chinese people are generally indifferent and cool to others, even other Chinese, and I doubt that any of the above mentioned ideas will yield much success in establishing a helpful friendship.

 

My suggestion is to just put her into ESL, let her find whatever friends she can, and let her be as "American" as possible. I know her English needs to improve, but she'll improve faster if she is not "given" to a Chinese community (if you even have one) and she'll probably integrate into your lifestyle faster if she doesn't gang up with other Chinese.

170764[/snapback]

I agree 100%

[Randy W]

Here in Houston I think I'll she'll need to do is speak Chinese (Mandarin or Cantonese)! Seems like there's usually someone within hearing range who would understand it.

Edited November 22, 2005 by Randy W (see edit history)

[tywy_99]

If there is a strong Chinese population in your area, you might try and see if there are any Chinese taking ESL courses at the local Community College. However, from my experience, Chinese people are generally indifferent and cool to others, even other Chinese, and I doubt that any of the above mentioned ideas will yield much success in establishing a helpful friendship.

 

My suggestion is to just put her into ESL, let her find whatever friends she can, and let her be as "American" as possible. I know her English needs to improve, but she'll improve faster if she is not "given" to a Chinese community (if you even have one) and she'll probably integrate into your lifestyle faster if she doesn't gang up with other Chinese.

170764[/snapback]

I agree 100%

170878[/snapback]

I was thinking the same when I first read Scott's post but didn't want to post anything about it for concerns of it being misconstrued.

 

An accurate assertion, RJZ+JCW.