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Seems to me that she made an observation based on her own thoughts and opinions and not backed up by credible evidence that the husband was indeed ashamed to be seen with his wife. Making assumptions without facts is just as damaging as gossip.

Sounds like an American wife. But women are women no matter where they come from and trying to apply logic to what a woman does or does not do will drive you crazy. Women don't think or act the way we men do. You shouldn't have to apologize for being yourself. And where does it say that men should give up being men to please their wives? We're different for a reason and changing yourself will only make you into something closer to being a woman... dude, you're a guy, act like one and let your wife make some adjustments too. Why does every guy here always post that we men have to be more this or that, that we have to give up what and who we are... Our wives, be they Chinese or not, can make changes too. We don't have to give up who we are to enjoy our marriages. I haven't and my wife and I have an enjoyable and happy marriage.

Thank you very, very much.

I'm sending in paperwork today for the I-485. I'm also sending in I-131 for Advance Parole. The fee for the I-485, including biometrics is $1010. When sending in the AP paperwork at the same time, is there an additional fee for the AP or is it covered under the $1010 fee? thanks everyone.

Congrats!! May I ask what is the age difference between you and your fiancee?

Shortly after my SO arrived in America she begun her period. She refused to drink or eat anything cold until her period was over. I had never heard of such a thing and thought she was a bit nutty. I went online and typed in a search on Yahoo asking if there was anything to this. There must have been 8-9 articles about this. Apparently there's some truth to it... that women on their period do not need to be eating and drinking COLD drinks. It didn't say anything about touching cool or cold water.. just drinking it. And these were webpages from American doctors, not Chinese doctors.

I agree with IZUS and I'll go one step further. America has many faults and definitely needs some changes. BUT.. having been to many different countries over the years and having enjoyed each visit to those different countries, I wouldn't swap any of them for my little piece of America. Dullsville? Uncle Samville? Hmmm.. I think that maybe it's not America that's dull and boring but maybe the way you live your lives. You can be bored to death and be living in Paradise, but isn't life what we make it? I'm not one that needs to hit the party scene nor is my SO. We both love to read, go for walks, do simple things and just enjoy being together. When we want to be active and go and do things, then we do... and when we want to be lazy, then we do that too. My city is small (100,000) compared to my SO's hometown of 10 million. She has always wanted to have a quieter life with not so many people crowding around. America is still a great place despite it's many faults and I kind of like it where I'm at.

You are good to go my friend. You will get no hassles. I arrived in china with only one day before mine expired and no trouble whatsoever. I guess China is different than Russia. I was in Moscow about 6 years ago and my tourist visa expired due to some unforeseen events that kept me there 5 days longer than my visa was good for. As I was departing Moscow at the airport, I was pulled aside, taken to an interview room, asked many questions about why I hadn't departed prior to my visa expiring. Bottom line was that after a 30 minute lecture about what they could do to me in such events, I had to pay $100 on the spot and they extended my visa by one day and then after getting that stamp in my passport the immigration folks finally let me through and I was able to catch my flight (barely). Since that eposide, I've always kept my visas current and travel within the set timeframes.

she already said she wants to be friends and split, you think she might come back to me after giving her some space? what is SO? and did you run into problems with her Dennis? so significant other, by bhe by I have a wife not a so Seems to me that she's already made up her mind. You can give her all the space you want, but based on any relationship with any woman, when they say they want to be only "friends", they generally mean exactly that. As a man you're expecting her to act like we would act in a similar situation, but women don't think that way.... No matter how hard it'll be for you, it's time to move on. Going back to China won't make it better and you'll just be wasting your time and money. In the end, you'll be much better off finding someone who's completely committed to you and moving to the U.S. to be with you will be at the top of their list of thing they want to do. An old saying holds true... "If in doubt, don't."

Many years ago I dated a Korean woman from Seoul. She napped EVERY day. She had live in U.S. for about 2 years, attended graduate classes at an American University.. but she still napped for about 2 hours EVERY day. My Chinese fiancee takes naps also. I know that many times when we've talked on the phone, she's told me that she's going to take a nap.. normally around noon.. but sometimes later. The company where I work only allows 30 minutes for lunch. An hour would be much better. I may want to take a nap after lunch but I know that if I was given a one or two hour nap time, then I wouldn't want to go back to work.. my momentum would have been broken and my desire to work would be gone. I live in the deep south and our summers are HOT and very HUMID. If anyone should need a siesta, then it's us. But alas, work is called that for a reason.. you work and naps are taboo. When my SO comes to live with me in America I'm sure her nap routine will continue and if/when she goes to work, then it'll be hard for her to adapt to not being able to take a nap when she wants to.

American Citizen's Hour (ACH) For K-1 Fiancee Visas it's on Fridays at 2:20 p.m. You don't need an appointment. Just go to the American Consulate around 1 or 1:30 p.m. and go up to the 5th floor and get in line. They take you through a metal detector and you stand in line for a number. You sit down and wait for your number to be called. You then can go to the window and ask a VO anything you like about your petition. They do give you a form to fill out prior to you talking to a VO. You're supposed to give it to the VO at the window. On the form they ask for your SO's GUZ number and name. You're also supposed to write down on the form what questions you might have. Some question whether going to ACH is worth it or not... but for me it wasn't such a big deal. I went to the Consulate at 1:45 p.m. went in and stood in line for about 10 minutes... waited for about 30 minutes to talk to the VO. Spent about 5 minutes with the VO and left. The VO was very nice and made some good comments on my file. I think going to ACH is simple and painless. Does it help? Hmmm.. can't say for sure, but it doesn't hurt either.

America has many issues and problems... the main one is obesity. Americans are too damn fat and lazy. We are fast going the way of ancient Rome wherein we think we are the best... and we've become too relaxed in our way of life, too sensitive about everyone's "rights" and not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings. Hogwash!! Everyone needs to get a good spanking if they do something wrong. Kids playing inside on computers instead of outside is the parent's fault. Kick their fat butts outside and make them play outside and actually interact with the other kids in the neighborhood. As for Chinese technology.. do you mean all the things they copied from us, stole from us...?? American medicene isn't perfect but neither are herbal remedies. China is fast becoming the number one polluter on the entire planet. Do they care? Nope. They want what they want and they want it now and aren't willing to pay for immission control, at least not until the government can make a dollar from it. Right now funneling American and European money into their confers is much more important than human rights or pollution control. Given all the facts, right or wrong in how Americans perceive Chinese people, do you want to live in China or America?

Where in Alabama do you live? I live in Anniston which is about 50 miles east of Birmingham. My last wife was an immigrant... she was from Uzbekistan. When we had our Adjustment of Status interview it was in Atlanta and they did the fingerprinting there in Atlanta. But when she needed biometrics done (fingerprinting) for something to do with her 10 year green card, she went to Birmingham to do it.

My SO speaks almost perfect English (is there such a thing), so we don't have many issues with misunderstanding most things. No Chinglish words. The only time she uses chinese is when she talks to her parents on the phone. With me everything is always in English. She was using English curse words long before we met and she knows what they mean and when you're supposed to use them and when you're not. As for "sleep" in your eyes, she calls it "stuff", the same as boogers in your nose. I can see where it would be difficult explaining to someone how you can have "sleep" in your eye and "boogers" in your nose. But... if you live in some regions of America.. the thing you use to put your groceries in at the store is a cart.. other regions it's called a buggy. And if you're going to take someone somewhere in your car.. some people in the U.S. would say... "I'm going to take your Mother to the store." Other people would say.. "I'm going to carry your Mother to the store." Seems okay to most of us.. but some might think to themselves, "carry" them to the store, they're going to "carry" them? We have alot of strange idoims in the American language that will forever be hard for us to understand, so how much more so for our chinese wives?