lori&dave

yeah, i heard that u can't get expedited if u e-file

We're planning to go back China this X'mas, however, my temperarory green card still pending due to delays in name check. I found AP can be e-filled, is it easier? how long does it take? Any experience would be appreciated.

Really? My husband wrote to her in 2002 inquiring my K1 case and they checked for him and replied to him

Luke, I don;t think u should waste money on attorneys since FBI is in charge of the clearance. (Unless u wanna sue INS for delaying ur case)Even INS can't intervene the FBI business, according to our interview officer. Anyway, I'm going to write to Senate Feistan next month if I still haven't got my approval next month.

Thank u, Don. I feel relieved now sinec my file wasnt lost. I also heard some gals on 001 forum complaining that they have been waiting longer than I do. I just hope in future this process will be simplified and other gals won't have to experience this any more. BTW, if anyone is planning for a trip to walk-in SF INS, I suggest them to go as early as possible in the morning. When we arrived there on6:35, line was already very long and the the waiting room inside was packed already. Tickets are limited for talking to a sluggish and sleep officer. The lady who served us wanted to get rid of us without even checking computer for us!

I went to SF INS this morning and found that my A file arrived last month while security check still pending.

Wow, so many guys are condeming me. I thought I posted something in the right place here-immigration challenges. I'm very sympathetic towards those who are still waiting for the visa since I have been there. I just don;t understanding why they thought I did something wrong in putting my compains (ok, I admit I was mad at INS) here (is this a place talking abt challenges after moving to US?) Well, everyone has different definition of the word nightmare. I am amused some angry guy would be aroused by my English. I apologize for my language and please understand I'm only seeking help fm people who are in similar situation like me- people who are experiencing the problems after entering US.

We were interviewed by SF INS on May 19th, 04. We have been waiting for almost 3 months now without any information fm them. We were told on the date of interview that my A file (K1 visa package) hadnt arrived at INS and security clearance not completed yet. I called in yesterday and was told that they will send a case inquiry for me and I can;t call again until 30 days after. My school is starting and my tight school schedule makes it very hard to find time go to SF downtown. This morning I heard from 001 forum that a K3 gal in a similar situation just found out by visiting local INS and they lost her K3 visa package during the transfering process fm airport to INS! I am shocked! Maybe same thing has happened to me! My husband thinks that it's not that important since we are together already. He doesnt understand that I just try to get rid of this waiting INS nitemare as soon as possible! Any one can shed some lights here?

Congratulations! Ur good news enhances my confidence of the endless waiting!

Dave and I just passed our green card interview in SF; however, we were told that since they haven;t finish my name check and they are still waiting for my original K1 visa package from SF customs, we have to wait several months before they mail me the approval letter. Then we have to drive one and half hour again up to downtown to get my temporary green card stamp. That's ridiculous. I entered this country by SF airport, which is not far away form SF INS office and they need almost one year to get a file fm airport to their office? The guy who interviewed us was very ironic about their relationship with FBI and the efficiency of FBI's work. How long do u guys usually wait after ur interview in CA?

I used the EAD (working permit)

well, she should be proactive in making friends here, especially K1/K3 girls around ur area. I even have several K1/k3 gal friends who are in the same college even same class. My husband loves Najing Rd so much because he can see lots of pretty chics there, hehehe. I worked in Westgate mall (mei long zhen guang chang)'s office building and there are just too many seductions there. I couldn't make any savings during the period I worked there.

thank u very much! I had been living in yangpu too, but my hometown in Jiading-a suburb. I'd been working in downtown Nanjing rd.

My husband's passport has expired and no enough time to renew it before the interview, will it matter? Except for employment letter, do we need to bring pay slips too? I'm a student, shall I get a verification fm my college? help help help!

Maybe I'm not right, but I heard that if u applied AOS or visa for ur ex within 5 years, u are not legitimate to apply for another spouse or fiance visa

I believe blue gal didnt want to use her fiance as a bridge to US, and now the problem here is that it would be also very difficult for her to go home. She would be buried with gossipings and misunderstanding. "losing face" in China is a very serious thing. Also Chinese guys have prejudice against gals who ever dated foreigners. She would have to face lots of difficulties no matter she chooses to stay to leave. Dave G. I'm not encouraging her to violate the law. I'm just telling a truth about illegal immigration situation in US society and I think I know a little more about what the situations gonna be back in Shanghai for her. It would be ur best choice if u decide not to marry him, even if he asks. I don;t think he's committed and fully responsible for u.

thanks buddy, that's very helpful!

I feel so sad for u, really I do. It's the first time I felt so sad for a gilr in such a K1 plight. I think I have a lot of thoughts similar with urs, for example, the reason for falling in love with white guys. Just I got a much better luck. I also underwent bad lucks before, many bad lucks until I met my husband. There is nothing wrong falling love with white guys. Pls have faith in urself and in love, whatever choices u make, I will pray for u. Staying in US illegally is nothing scarry( I have relatives and lots of people I know are here without legal status, they are doing just fine. They can even enjoy residential tuition at school if they stayed here for over 1 year), but to achieve certain level of life here without the help from someone will be extremely hard. Wish u good luck! I'm from Shanghai too.

Hi, I just got my greencard interview appointment letter which includes a vaccination form and saying that we should bring the form with us to interview. We submitted the vaccination form, which was sealed in an envelope by doctor, when we apllied for AOS, should we redo the form? My interview date is May 19th

Don, When we were still dating, he kept undecided about this topic while I was very sure I wanna two kids. Now whenever I imply that maybe we just be DINK(I just want to figure out his attitude), he still wanna leave the question open. However, when I mention my plan about kids, both of us know clearly that both our financial condition (one of us still in school, still renting a house, the other enjoys expensive hobbies) and my career developing plan won;t allow me to have a baby. I'm studying graphic art, which is a very demanding and time consuming major. We have a dog and we love him as if he was our son, however he's old now and will die one day. I'm very sad about this.

Thanks for ur suggestions. My other concern is that there's certain age difference btw me and my hubby. We dont really care about it, I even joked that when he was retired he can take care of kids at home while I'm making money. But I'm worried that generation gap will be too big for them if we wait 8 more years. To me it seems like "now or never". My sociology professor said that marriage quality actually deteriorates after kids. There is no kid in my hubby's family at all. Maybe we'll just end up like all his sisters' families. DINK family.(Double income, no kids). I can already see myself as a 35 year old woman who gave up of the idea of having kids.

I'm 27 now and currently studying in college again. I love kids but I can't find a decent time to plan for having a baby. I still have 4 more years of study ahead. After that I need to find myself a job and establish my career in US. I figure I would need to wait for another 8 years to have a good standing in the job market here, at that time I'll be 35. Maybe too old and too busy at work for kids then. what's more, My husband doens't like kids. This is first marriage for both of us and hopefully it's the only one. I just become very envious and somewhat sad when I know others girls are pregnant. how do u guys plan for having babies? When do u know that u are ready?

well, the 001 forum is a Chinese forum, so if u do not understand Chinese, u don't have to go there. The basic situation is like that: The guy thinks that the gal is so perfect that he is afraid that after getting married he would find some of her shortcomings later that he could't bear. He claimed that he need long period to be with her to decide whether he should marry her. (which I think it's impossible if he wouldn';t move to China). Also he told her that most American women just stay at home raising kids and he wanted her to be the same(he requires a "submissive female image". )She's only 24 and she would like to work besides having a family. She felt very unsafe about leaving her own country when she can't get any commitment fm him. Also, I found an article in my Sociology book says that "American men are attracted to Asian matchmakers' websites because they want to find submissive wives." I am annoyed by this comment. I think as a couple, we should be lenient and nice to each other, respect each other, but that doesn;t mean one party should be submissive

Hi guys, I know that all of you are very warm-hearted, so would u mind offering some guys' opinion of "cold feet"? There's a poor gal on 001 forum crying for day becoze her fiance became hesitated about getting married while her visa interview date is Feb 20th. Pls give this gal some of your own experience. Thanks!

Qui! I was right!!!! Congratulations!