Tonoue

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Hello everyone, My SO and I are on our final leg of this very long process. QiuQiu just sent in her P3 and now we are waiting for the P4 and Interview date. Now all that is left is to gather all proof of our relationship, financial documents, and build a case for the VO. QiuQiu mentioned that it would look better if we could get a co-sponsor just in case. I agree. While my salary sufficiently meets all the financial requirements for the visa, more is better...right? So, I asked my parents if they would be willing to co-sponsor us and sign the I-134 (affidavit of support) and get supporting documents. They said they would be more than happy to help. My father got a letter of employment from his company with his current salary and time there. However, they are very hesitant to give any tax information. QiuQiu is worried that this is not enough for them to be a co-sponsor. I've asked my parents to re-consider, but after having been victims of ID theft once, they really do not feel comfortable giving out that kind of information. Is their tax return information really needed for them to be a co-sponsor? Will the letter of employment from my father be sufficient enough? Any information you can give us is greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Just for the record...my love is a very very good girl. No broken laws, no criminal record, no drugs, no swearing, no lying. The perfect woman!...IMO... She's an angel! She's also not a member of the communist party.

Funny enough, she doesn't really like what she does. It wasn't her first choice of profession.....or second choice for that matter. As I understand it, or maybe misunderstand it....she was giving this profession because it was needed, not because she wanted it. Her childhood job was actually to be a Chinese-English interpreter for books and people. Something I hope she wants to pursue when she comes to the U.S. I'm more than willing to help her in any way to achieve this.

Hey all, Have a question about visa review and decision making. My love stumbled across a post in 001 forum listing various jobs that are flagged and could potentially influence a denial of visa. Here is the (very short) list: The State Department maintains a Technical Alert List, also known as the sensitive major list, to guide their evaluation of visa submission. Sorted by rate. CRITICAL FIELDS LIST ---------------------------------------------------------- A. CONVENTIONAL MUNITIONS B. NUCLEAR TECHNOLOGY C. ROCKET SYSTEMS D. ROCKET SYSTEM AND UNMANNED AIR VEHICLE (UAV) SUBSYSTEMS E. NAVIGATION, AVIONICS AND FLIGHT CONTROL USEABLE IN ROCKET SYSTEMS AND UNMANNED AIR VEHICLES (UAV) F. CHEMICAL, BIOTECHNOLOGY AND BIOMEDICAL ENGINEERING G. REMOTE SENSING, IMAGING AND RECONNAISSANCE H. ADVANCED COMPUTER/MICROELECTRONIC TECHNOLOGY I. MATERIALS TECHNOLOGY J. INFORMATION SECURITY K. LASER AND DIRECTED ENERGY SYSTEMS TECHNOLOGY L. SENSORS AND SENSOR TECHNOLOGY M. MARINE TECHNOLOGY N. ROBOTICS O. URBAN PLANNING Qiu's profession is listed under the last subsection, O: URBAN PLANNING, which states: Expertise in construction or design of systems or technologies necessary to sustain modern urban societies. (PLEASE NOTE: Urban Planning may not fall under the purview of INA section 212 (a)(3)(a), U.S. technology transfer laws, or any other U.S. law or regulation. However, Urban Planning is a special interest item and posts are requested to refer such visa application requests to CA/VO/L/C for further review.) Look for technologies/skills associated with: -- Architecture -- Civil engineering -- Community development -- Environmental planning -- Geography -- Housing -- Landscape architecture -- Land use and comprehensive planning -- Urban design My question is...does anybody know how influential her profession will be to the consideration of denial for her visa? Does anybody else here have a love who did a similar profession? She lives in a small town in Guangxi Province (approx. population ~1500) and she does a lot of the listed items. Should we be worried about this, or is this a false alarm? Needless to say, we're both kinda anxious about this. Any comments, suggestions, or stories would be much appreciated. Thanks. Joe

Thanks Darnell. Good information for what we should expect. I really do realize there is a very short time between the divorce and filing our petition and have thought there might be some suspicions regarding our relationship. I initially wanted to wait longer, at least past January, to submit but we read posts from people who had submitted right after they divorced and still got approved and figured it would be OK to submit when we did (plus her lucky numbers are 10 and 7...hence the date 10/7/08). So when we built our petition, we "front loaded" it as well, giving nearly every single thing listed on the "kitchen sink" with the thought that it might provide a better case for us if we gave as much information as possible. Side question - what types of slips are there? I read about people getting a pink slip, which I'm assuming is good. This is the first time I'm hearing about a white slip and blue slip. Please keep the advice coming. God knows I (and others reading this thread) could use it. Great stuff. - Joe

Yes. She came to US on a work visa. We met during that time and married before her visa expired. I did not petition an I-129F for her. - Joe Did your ex go through ANY adjustment of status? Does she have a green card NOW ? I thought you had to fill out G-325A on yourself, which would include prior spouses with Alien Registration Numbers. Yes, she did go through adjustment of status and she does have her green card now. I did fill out a G-325A in which I did put her on it. - Joe

Thanks for the link. As for getting the letter notarized, there is no con to it....as far as I can think of. It would relieve any doubt of authenticity, in my opinion. As for the "why", I agree with you. Thanks for the advice. Best wishes for you both. - Joe

Great advice. I'm sure I can arrange that with my EX. I'll get to work schooling my SO with all the possible Q&As. Thank you much! - Joe

Great advice. Thanks. I'll start doing the same. We'll we want to bring her over here first, then get married, but I can see your reasoning here. I actually met my SO while I was still married, but seperated. Not "legally seperated", but not living together and planning on a divorce. Divorce is now finalized. Will do. I have most of that information already from the divorce. So, I can make a cheat sheet for my SO and will help prep her for any questions. Kinda sneaky, aren't they?? Definitely appreciate the awesome advice. Thank you much! I thought the letter from EX would be inappropriate as well, but I didn't really know if it was needed. I'll follow your examples and suggestions. Best of wishes and happiness for you and Jin. Glad to hear you made it thru. - Joe

Will do. Thanks. Trying to read/study as much as I can on the topic to help alleviate the fears of my SO and to help prepare her for the dreaded interview. - Joe

Yes. She came to US on a work visa. We met during that time and married before her visa expired. I did not petition an I-129F for her. - Joe

Question about preparing for visa interview: I was married before....and my SO is very paranoid and scared that the visa officer will ask her about my ex-wife. Reading the forums on 001, she says she will need every piece of information about my ex-wife...even me asking my ex to write a letter of support for us to submit to the visa officer. Is all of this really needed? Will the visa officer ask her in-depth questions about my previous marriage? I really don't think so, but she says they will. Advice and suggestions, please... Thank you. - Joe

I've flown JAL when I went to Japan. It's exactly like your mother described. Awesome service, extremely courteous, personal TV, lots of leg room, great meals. Definitely recommend it. - Joe

I-134 is submitted at interview. Who's previous marriage ? what statement ? why bring GUZ attention to it ? My opinion is dont invite scrutiny you dont need. If benifiaries previous marrige, kids etc.. just make sure you have clear evidence of divorce, custody and seperate domicile (from ex) but dont offer it wait to be asked. good luck The marriage my Sweetie is referring to is mine that just recently ended (see first post of this topic). Basically, she is asking about our personal statements - should we indulge in sharing information about my ex-wife? Or should we keep it simple? "Was married. Now divorced. End of Line." No beneficiaries in previous marriage, no kids, no spousal support. What's her is hers, what's mine is mine. Quick, easy, simple. *Staples Button* - Tonoue

What about phone records? I use Skype to call her cell phone and have saved all my logs for the past 6 months. They show who I called by the phone number, the date the call was made, the time spent on each call, and the amount charged for the call. We don't send out too many e-mails, maybe 5 during the whole time we've been together, as we tend to favor spending our time actually talking to each on YIM. But I have every e-mail from delivery/mail services regarding flowers or presents I sent her, plus sending her money via western union. I do try to send text messages to her phone to say hello, wish her a good day, miss her, and love her. Should (or can) we print those out as well? Will any one of these help or be detrimental? - Tonoue

Can you extend page margins, and condense the text to a smaller size and font? Then print piratically per week or a certain day if it is still too much... depending on the duration of the start of the chat, I would have to reconsider what to do? This is something my fiance and I have been discussing as well. How much is enough? And does it absolutely have to be printed out? I would gladly buy a jumpdrive for them if we could give them a text or doc file with everything on it. Easier for us....easier for them to read (in my opinion)...win-win?? Also, we talk on YIM, so everything is encrypted. I don't know how it is with other IM programs, but it's kind of a pain when putting into another text. If I print directly from the archive, it only prints one physical page worth....(unless there's another way to print everything out). We could copy and paste from the archive, but when doing that the emoticons (which we're VERY big into using) don't copy with it. We're using a YIM decoder program to convert everything into text, including the symbols for the emoticons. Is it bad to do to use the decoder? I want to give them all our conversations (well....maybe not all ) but printing out everything would take HUGE amounts of paper and ink. But in this case, more is better....right? - Tonoue

hahahaha. I'm working on it.

Just to be sure, I checked the website and read the ToS. Under the section for service, it stated: "The Service is an internet information service that facilitates contact between members who may or may not be seeking friendship or a relationship. It is not a marriage brokering service, mail order bride service nor a matchmaking service. The Company is under no obligation to broker any other member or members for you." Thanks for the advice, Darnell. - Tonoue

OK....OK...I'm officially stoopid. I read and re-read the definition over and over that I completely missed the "exempt" part. Forgive me, but I'm kinda nervous and paranoid about filling out these forms. *sigh* Note to self....just listen to the woman and do what she says....

Another question, if you don't mind. My love and I are going through all the forms required to apply for visa, and we've come across one part on the I-129F that we can't agree on. Under Part B, Question 19 - Did you meet your fiance(e) or spouse through the services of an international marriage broker? I say to put yes, we did. We met on an international dating website. I want to be as honest as possible. As I understand an - from an except on Wikipedia, "an 'International marriage broker' is defined as an entity (whether or not U.S.-based) that charges fees for providing matchmaking services or social referrals between U.S. citizens/permanent residents and foreign nationals. The definition also exempts nonprofit religious or cultural matchmaking services, and dating services that do not match U.S. citizens/residents with aliens as their principal business and that charge comparable rates and offer comparable services to all clients, regardless of gender or country of citizenship." Wikipedia - International Marriage Regulation Act If I understand this right, this would include dating websites that you paid for. Qiu says we should not put this down. She said we will have problems if we do and that many others don't put it down even though they did. I not quite understanding this, I would imagine most people meet their significant others this way. I'm I wrong to think an international website is a "marriage broker"? Should we mark it down that we did meet this way? Are there problems if we do, or if we don't? Advise greatly appreciated. Thank you. - Tonoue

Sweetheart! I'm happy you got your account and posted here. But...a little too much info maybe...? I'm not THAT big. LOL Yes, you are a tiny girl compared to me (I'm 5'11", she's 5'3") but I love that about you. I really don't think they will deny us because of height/weight differences. But, would appreciate any other responses to that question. hehe. I have to say, I am VERY blessed and blissfully happy to have someone who loves me and cares about my health. As for credit, it may. I don't have horrible credit....but it's not great... But I'm working on everything I can to improve it. Any other advice or insight anybody could give us would be most grateful. My love, I'll talk to you soon. - Tonoue

So, you do have a petition for your ex. A petition for a green card, yes. But not for a fiancee visa. From what I understood in the previous posts from the other people, a petition for a fiancee visa would look the worst......or did I misunderstand that? Is it any kind of petition?

Hello Chunyan, I've heard so much about you! I called QiuQiu this morning and she said she was talking to you. Thank you for your support. I know QiuQiu truely treasures you as her friend. She wants to meet you so much in person when she comes here. I hope to talk with you more and get to know you and your Lao Gong. Thanks so much for posting here. It means a lot.

This is what I was to point out too. If your ex-wife was here on work visa before, then how did she stay after her work visa expired? Did she marry to you then got her green card? If so, this is something you have to look into too. From reading your posts, you seem to not know much about petitioning...so, did you apply for adjust of status for your ex-wife or her company helped her to do that? Were you part of this adjustments at all? OK, I've never been one to understand things unless they are very specifically laid out. Throw a subtle hint my way, and most of the time I will miss it. I dunno what it is, just the way my mind works. But I am getting better as time goes on. So, needless to say, first time married and going through this process I had no idea what to do whatsoever. Government papers and forms using legal terms I've never heard of tend to look like greek to me so I was kinda lost no matter how hard I tried to understand. My ex-wife on the other hand (a master of the subtle hint art form), understood everything we needed to do, so I mainly followed her lead in the whole process. We married before her visa expired. We had support and backing from my family, so once we had the marriage papers in hand, we started filling for her green card and status change. Did the interview, no problems, not many questions, everything Okie Dokie. Got her green card. There were times when I couldn't be there in the process due to work, but she didn't mind. She would say "Honey, don't worry, just go to work and I'll take care of everything else." So, I did. *shrug*