Christopher Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 my lady and I are getting down to brass tacks and doing our paperwork for a K-1. Cupcake, having a reasonable command of the English language, is highly employable in her small northern China city. Moreover, she's smart, ambitious, frighteningly competent and a bit demanding. Therefore she switches jobs whenever she feels bored, underutilized, not used for what she was hired to do, or just pissed off at her boss for gross incompetence, and she's now starting her 4th job since I met her 8 months ago. The problem is that feels shy to put her full employment history for the last 5 years on the g-325a. Instead, she put down 1 company where she feels sure that turnover will result in no one there remembering her, and another company where she remains on good terms with her old boss. I think she would normally take my lead on this, except that a good "visa agent" friend of hers from her first job doing translations for a marriage agency has told that no one will check her employment history. On the other hand, I have bad thoughts about someone checking up on her employment history, and her getting barred from ever entering the US or being thrown out after she has kids with me. Bottom line, if this is a real problem, then I will spend the emotional capital to get it done right. If not, then I'm happy to save that capital for getting something really important to me. Link to comment
3timescharm Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 my lady and I are getting down to brass tacks and doing our paperwork for a K-1. Cupcake, having a reasonable command of the English language, is highly employable in her small northern China city. Moreover, she's smart, ambitious, frighteningly competent and a bit demanding. Therefore she switches jobs whenever she feels bored, underutilized, not used for what she was hired to do, or just pissed off at her boss for gross incompetence, and she's now starting her 4th job since I met her 8 months ago. The problem is that feels shy to put her full employment history for the last 5 years on the g-325a. Instead, she put down 1 company where she feels sure that turnover will result in no one there remembering her, and another company where she remains on good terms with her old boss. I think she would normally take my lead on this, except that a good "visa agent" friend of hers from her first job doing translations for a marriage agency has told that no one will check her employment history. On the other hand, I have bad thoughts about someone checking up on her employment history, and her getting barred from ever entering the US or being thrown out after she has kids with me. Bottom line, if this is a real problem, then I will spend the emotional capital to get it done right. If not, then I'm happy to save that capital for getting something really important to me.The truth is always the best when filing the papers. You do not want something as simple as this biting you in the ass later. Link to comment
a2784 Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 The truth is always the best when filing the papers. You do not want something as simple as this biting you in the ass later.I did not want to be the first the say it but I will be the first to second it ... Link to comment
dnoblett Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 The truth is always the best when filing the papers. You do not want something as simple as this biting you in the ass later.I did not want to be the first the say it but I will be the first to second it ... Yep, this is what I say to. Never LIE on the forms, this is MISREPRESENTATION and grounds for a HARD denial of visa, adjustment of status, removal of conditions, or even US Citizenship. If a lie to get the visa ever comes to lite it can cause great hardship later. Case in point: http://dailyitem.com/servanos Link to comment
Christopher Posted March 2, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 Yep, this is what I say to. Never LIE on the forms, this is MISREPRESENTATION and grounds for a HARD denial of visa, adjustment of status, removal of conditions, or even US Citizenship. If a lie to get the visa ever comes to lite it can cause great hardship later. Case in point: http://dailyitem.com/servanosYou know, this was my first instinct as well. But now I have enough ammo to convince her without a huge bruhaha. Thanks, y'all. Link to comment
chilton747 Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 But now I have enough ammo to convince her without a huge bruhaha. That's what you think. Link to comment
george lee Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 But now I have enough ammo to convince her without a huge bruhaha. That's what you think. you have much to learn my young grasshopper Link to comment
TLB Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 my lady and I are getting down to brass tacks and doing our paperwork for a K-1. Cupcake, having a reasonable command of the English language, is highly employable in her small northern China city. Moreover, she's smart, ambitious, frighteningly competent and a bit demanding. Therefore she switches jobs whenever she feels bored, underutilized, not used for what she was hired to do, or just pissed off at her boss for gross incompetence, and she's now starting her 4th job since I met her 8 months ago. The problem is that feels shy to put her full employment history for the last 5 years on the g-325a. Instead, she put down 1 company where she feels sure that turnover will result in no one there remembering her, and another company where she remains on good terms with her old boss. I think she would normally take my lead on this, except that a good "visa agent" friend of hers from her first job doing translations for a marriage agency has told that no one will check her employment history. On the other hand, I have bad thoughts about someone checking up on her employment history, and her getting barred from ever entering the US or being thrown out after she has kids with me. Bottom line, if this is a real problem, then I will spend the emotional capital to get it done right. If not, then I'm happy to save that capital for getting something really important to me. If I'm reading this right, it's her friend that says they won't check -- even more reason to put everything in there. Link to comment
Christopher Posted March 2, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 But now I have enough ammo to convince her without a huge bruhaha.That's what you think. you have much to learn my young grasshopper Guess I'm lucky. If I make a big deal about something, she has always said, "OK, I listen to you, dear". I was lucky enough to watch other men reap the consequences for trying to have everything their way in their marriages, so I'm just not going there for every little thing. Link to comment
Christopher Posted March 2, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 If I'm reading this right, it's her friend that says they won't check -- even more reason to put everything in there.D--n straight. Link to comment
david_dawei Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 The problem is that feels shy to put her full employment history for the last 5 years on the g-325a. Guess I'm lucky. If I make a big deal about something, she has always said, "OK, I listen to you, dear". If I'm reading this right, it's her friend that says they won't check -- even more reason to put everything in there.D--n straight. So it seems, it's herself [willfulness] alone who is not willing to give the entire employment, despite a chinese friend with experience says it's not a problem; and she has an american fiancee she always listens to want. So... what's the plan to convince this 'shy' girl? Link to comment
Christopher Posted March 2, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 The problem is that feels shy to put her full employment history for the last 5 years on the g-325a. Guess I'm lucky. If I make a big deal about something, she has always said, "OK, I listen to you, dear". If I'm reading this right, it's her friend that says they won't check -- even more reason to put everything in there.D--n straight. So it seems, it's herself [willfulness] alone who is not willing to give the entire employment, despite a chinese friend with experience says it's not a problem; and she has an american fiancee she always listens to want. So... what's the plan to convince this 'shy' girl? I make a big deal about it, which I haven't done yet. Her Chinese friend can go fly a kite. She has every incentive to tell her customers what they want to hear; when these issues come to light for her clients she's always going to be long gone. Link to comment
slw268 Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 Just curious, how long have you dealt with the phenomenon:"advice of Chinese friends"? In other words, how long have you known Cupcake and been exposed to Chinese culture? Link to comment
Christopher Posted March 3, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Just curious, how long have you dealt with the phenomenon:"advice of Chinese friends"? In other words, how long have you known Cupcake and been exposed to Chinese culture?Bottom line is this: no matter how I much I love her, I'll not risk having kids with her and seeing her get sent back to China on account of breaking stupid rules to made up to fluff some demagogues feathers. That visa application isn't going in until her complete work history on that form. Link to comment
Randy W Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 I'll break rank here and say that her past employment history is not that important. As long as she doesn't hide anything that might relate to a Communist party membership, or any national security issue she will be fine. My wife wrote "unemployed", rather than try to go into any detail about friends she's assisted in shops, or stuff like that. They're not looking to trip anybody up here - just things that might affect visa issuance. A general summary or a sampling should do the trick. Link to comment
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