Short time from divorce.......

[RobertH]

Ok I read in 3rdtimes post about his engagement to his wife only being 18 months from the end of his divorce.

My Divorce was final 3 months before I met Hui. We had been seperated over 1 year by the time Hui and I met in person.

Will this be a red flag?

I dont see why it should. The Ex and I were seperated for over a year..... Do they expect me to crawl in to a hole and hide from women for 5 years or something......


Robert

[Kyle]

I don't think it will be a huge issue, but what do I really know? To be honest, this falls outside my realm of experience - so take my points with a grain of salt.

 

You didn't get engaged until (roughly) 10 -11 months after your divorce and you've been in a relationship with Hui, for a year.

 

I'm sure if you can document all of this (including the separation) it would be a great help to your case.

Edited December 10, 2009 by Kyle (see edit history)

[b.c]

Yet another unnecessary thing you are worrying about Robert.

 

Several on here, myself included, have met our SO before our divorce was finalized. And most, if not all, got pink. And I understand your divorce was final for 3 months before you even met her. Therefore, I could not imagine this being even the slightest issue for concern.

Edited December 10, 2009 by bcco (see edit history)

[splinterman]

Yet another unnecessary thing you are worrying about Robert.

 

Several on here, myself included, have met our SO before our divorce was finalized. And most, if not all, got pink. And I understand your divorce was final for 3 months before you even met her. Therefore, I could not imagine this being even the slightest issue for concern.

 

I was separated from my now ex-wife for almost a year and a half before I met Lijuan. My divorce was finalized in Oct/2007 and we filed for the K-1 in December/2007.

 

In hindsight, nowhere in the K-1 petition did I explain this little fact and of course as most on CFL know, we were whited. Having never to this day received the NOIR/NOID letter from the VSC for the denied K-1 I STILL don't know with any certainty what the reason(s) were for our denial, but I have a hunch that without that explanation in the K-1 petition it appeared that I was still married and possibly living with my now ex when I met Lijuan and then traveled to China to see her, with the divorce coming 2 months before the petition was filed.

 

I don't think this was our only problem but the lack of an explanation DID allow the VO on his own to try and decipher the bonafides of our relationship.

 

So Robert, if you haven't already explained in your K-1 petition your old relationship and how it figured into your present one, I would tell you to try and think of a way to lay this out for the VO who interviews your fiancee-maybe a notarized statement or just include it in an updated EOR letter.

 

Best of Luck!!

[chilton747]

As long as you have solid evidence that you met Hui 3 months after your divorce was final then no problem. Perhaps you gave them this solid evidence when you filed the I-129F.

GZ is concerned that there are those that divorce with the intent on sponsoring an immigrant via marriage and getting paid for it. You do not fit that mold.

[Highlander]

Ok I read in 3rdtimes post about his engagement to his wife only being 18 months from the end of his divorce.

 

My Divorce was final 3 months before I met Hui. We had been seperated over 1 year by the time Hui and I met in person.

 

Will this be a red flag?

 

I dont see why it should. The Ex and I were seperated for over a year..... Do they expect me to crawl in to a hole and hide from women for 5 years or something......

 

 

Robert

My neighbor's divorce here in Va. took over 3 years. My divorce took about 2 years. Maybe a notarized cover letter attached to your divorce documents highlighing your date of separation from your ex until the date you first met Hui, may help the Vo see very much time lapse.

[Sam and Fen]

RobertH,

 

My divorce was finalized in June 2008.

I met Fen in Sep 2008.

I went to HK and got engaged in Nov 2008.

I filed K1 in Feb 2009.

 

I had included a letter in my kitchen sink explaining my previous relationship just in case. It was not asked for.

 

In preparing Fen for the interview if she was asked when I got divorced she was to reposnd June 2008 but that I did not have any relationship with my ex for 4 years. Again she was not asked this.

 

I think the reason we were not questiond about this is that my first marriage lasted 19 years and Fen's lasted 11 years.

 

Do they expect me to crawl in to a hole and hide from women for 5 years or something......

 

I think its the other way around. They expect women to hide from you.