Phatkat, Can you shed some light on this one for other members? I just hate to feel that blind love was at fault? You have got to think when you start a relationship with a person with whom you have major language/cultural differences, that love can always find common ground? Any hints of issues or deceit? I read so many stories on this site, especially those with fiancees from South China, that explode with stories of quick total love. How can you be when your are so different and so far away from each other? It's so common to hear on this site of a Chinese woman telling her US man that she loves him after only a very short time. Did Ring speak any English? What are your age differences? Does she have degree from a university? What was her job in China? The lonely hearts club doesn't need another victim.