Wow, I have to admit this topic really intrigue me because I have the same thinking to get my cousin to be in US, if it's God's will. I helped her managing Eharmony account where my husband and I had worked out, but I will definitely say it's God's job if He didn't prepare for her and the potential one. At this moment, nothing really worked out for her and I realize that she's not preparing herself to be active looking for this. Of course, she's still pretty young, so, I will keep praying for her and hopefully God will give us such luck to be close in US. I think I am the exception which unlike most of the cases that guys went to meet the lady. In fact, I had never met my husband in person when we decided to get marry. Literally, I may be one of the "mail ordered bride" if this is a neutral term(and I paid the air ticket to meet him and return back to China). However, I strongly don't recommend others to take the same steps if you haven't gone through a lot of studying process of each other. My husband and I were crystal clear what we wanted for the spouse based on biblical principle and we have done a lot of research as well as personal experience. Anyone who had been Eharmony would knew how serious they matched up and, my husband and I voluntarily finished the matching process even though we had jumped to the email contact. There are many spiritual books and relationship guidance books which had been translated into Chinese, so we went through quite many books, such as <Love&Respect>, <The five love language>, <Letters to Philip>,<Letters to Karen>, <struggling man>, <So long insecurity>, etc. That is to say, not only we had learned ourselves into certain depth until we had the confidence that we can take the commitment of marriage seriously and no option for divorce, but also we learned each other well by asking each other a lot of questions and do personality quiz, we shared views on sex, finance management, parenting(my husband had never been married before but I have a elementary school boy), health management and families issues, etc. We were so open that he told me about his physical defect and I shared him what my biggest temptation is and the wounds that I had since my childhood. That is to say, we had shared the worst side of each other and, we had been tested on that, which made us to make up our mind to be together. I went to US on B2 visa, but seriously I didn't tell lie because I was permitted to enter US clearly telling the POE that I was meeting my fiance and had my wedding in 10 days. However, we chose to go through legitimate process to apply spouse visa for me and my son and waited for this long to be together. Actually, we are still waiting for each other to meet. I am in both 001 forum and some qq groups, such long duration is the biggest challenges for new couples. Thank God that we withstood such challenges and our love gets even stronger as we knew each other better through consistent communication. If any of the Chinese ladies or American guys want to get an alien wife, it is important to prepare psychologically for this. Frankly I met many of friends in China who wanted to achieve the same goal, it is more realistic if they take both language studies as well as visa procedure studies. Neither China nor US is a country of heaven. I am goose-chilling when I think of filing for our tax already! I will definitely miss the simple tax reporting work in China. Anyways, like Joecy said, Chinese ladies are most disappointed for the soul lost of Chinese men, and for the fact that divorce rate is getting higher and a lot of single moms are struggling to raise children alone, I would definitely encourage them to step out to strike for their own happiness. A big applause for American men's generosity to share father love to step children and their family-centered value.