I have found that some American Joes go to China on just a hanful of e-mails and photographs of their beloved who is promising love and a dutiful wife. I met a guy in Dalian, he was there for the 1st time meeting his new gal. He told me that she seemed completely different in person then from here e-mails she sent to him. My wife told me that she was using a matchmaker and they will tell both parties what they want to hear to get them together as soon as possible and they get paid for their services. She said that many of Chinese ladies and Western men have had their hearts broken and possibly their lives ruined because of these unethical matchmakers.