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Oh, such true words!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck trying to let the VO know how much Chinese you can speak.... they have never contacted me. THAT's WHAT I would different. I'm not blaming the VO. I just cant believe we're starting over after 21 months....

I have a copy of my recent Translation Documentation but it in a PDF....I tried scanning it in an it became a JPEG.... sorry. Contact me and I can send you an e-mail of what mine looks like.

She did know the answer to the question. She was just clarifying. . No matter, the treatment is wrong. I spent a ton these last two years on attorney fees and processing fees to get 1-2 minutes of attitude? As a paying AMERICAN customer I demand better!!

Below is what actually happened in Guangzhou 3/15/2010. My wife had thrown up all night form all the immunizations they gave her. She was very nervous and the VO, well you can see it for yourselves.... You asked me how the visa officer felt when she interviewed me. I felt that she was not friendly, she asked me: 1. “How do you know each other?” 2. “How many times has your husband been back to China to meet with you?” Then she wanted to see our pictures, she didn’t want to see our wedding picture, she wanted me to show her our normal life pictures before the wedding. The third question she asked me was how do you both communicate? I said that I can speak a little English and my husband can speak a little Chinese. We communicate everyday by phone. I had to show my telephone bill to her. After she read the phone bill, she used English to ask me: “Where was your husband born?” I understood what she asked, but I did not directly answer her question, I asked her, “Are you asking me where my husband was born?” She looked at me in an unusual way that was not friendly and said “say it.” I explained to her that my husband and I have a special style of communication. He understands me when I speak English, and we both completely understand each other. After that she picked up a blue paper and wrote something on it, and then she told me that she has some questions that my husband needs to answer or explain. Our interview time was very short. It was probably only one or two minutes.

Its all good, right? I know you're right. And, yes, thats more like it on her part. She watched a couple of friends just come right over and thought it wasn't going to be rough. We set ourselves up for disappointment but were feeling better as of now... for tonight anyway. Thanks again TS

Tonight she wrote.... I endeavor to adjust my attitude, so that I'm happy to wait, wait for our new life. That's more like my baby!!

Thank you Chris!!! I appreciate all your interest !!! This is good stuff.

Thank you Mick, I have thought about moving to China but have obligations at this point but we will see if its neccesary first. Yea, my wife is great. We were just so naive to the process good and bad, but she is already sounding like herself again I'm pleased to announce!!!

No my attorney did, because the Consulate documentation said the exact wording that they expected and we missed it by a few words. I told him, "hey, thats what it says", and he said, "does it"? I agreed that it didn't and asked my wife to go back to the exact person who had done all the translations and get them to adust the wording on all Translation Certifications...

I blame the system only because whats good for one area of the process isn't neccesarily for good for another. At one point I spent an additionl 6 weeks and $210.00 to add the word "accurate" to our translated documents in China. I know it will all work out and I am heading back in a few months after my back heals from my surgery. I agree with everyone on here!!! Thank you.

No way man. We got a great story that needs writing. Thanks.

They are sending my CR-1 case back to the USCIS for possible revocation citing the non-bona fide relationship deal after the blue letter and subsequent submission. Not really sure why other than we didn't have an extremely long courtship - 8 months and 500 letters and daily chat sessions but I only went to China one time to get married and once again later after the interview went south. Time off is limited at work and I had a few health problems. They didn't believe my wife but if they only knew what an educated hard working women she was and the kind of heart she has they would feel different. She owns her own business in Zhengzhou. It is always busy. She paid for the film crew and complete wedding. I put money in her purse before I returned to Texas. She didn't ask for a cent. They make a big deal about the language gap. I just got off the phone with her after twenty five mintes and only twice did we agree to write it in an e-mail because she wasn't sure I was saying about possibly hiring a new attorney so, really we communicate pretty good. If they could see me serving her parents tea in the ceremony ....there ain't no faking that scene!! When I asked her father for her hand in marriage it was a trip.... I have pictures from that dinner too but we didn't send things like that because I thought they had enough already. I don't know .... it's not over !!!! Tonight she was in much better spirits. As a business owner everybody knows her there and knows her business. They know she married an American and they know she hasn't gotten her Visa so five hundred times a day she has to talk about our failure so far...it's gotta be tough for her. I posted a topic called Visa Officer makes mistake in Guangzhou the other day and much of my story is in the thread....Thank you for your interest.

Thank you. I wish I had found this site before my first visit to China I would have done "almost" everything different. I appreciate the kind words of encouragement on the forum.

She used translation software. But she is a bright girl. Yes, were good for twenty minutes of English over the phone. I'm sure most of the people on here have received the same letter a hundred times, just not me. There is no reason we should have been delayed in my oppinion other than we didn't make the courtship "appear" good enough to them. I understand that but where we gom from here is important. I really don't want to start another I-130 since it is being sent back for possible revocation. Of course we have more evidence but ut still has to go back to GZ and that my friend, scares me to death. I promise you, I see at least fifty illegals here every morning on my way to work at this point and I don't blame any of them for coming in that way. I paid the fees, got the lawyer, waited two years only to be toy'd with by the people I have paid to assist me.

I looked most everywhere for a decent toilet now I know where they all were...lol Bu hao is right Zhou Zhou !!!!!

I have thought about it. I have 73 employyes who rely on me and it took years to get to where I am. But, yes, I have. Its not the leaving to go live in China. Its the minimum wage I will make while I'm there and the possible situation of not being about to gain employment back in the US without coming back and playing the interview game first...., But, yes, you are right and we will do this if necessary its just quiet time to leave the states. One thing is for certain I am heading back to China before the end of the year vacation time or not.

Wow, I had been too long without decent news and encouragement. Thank you. I know in my heart we will eventually be sucessful. You know, I could have gotten married as planned and then made a few trips back and forth trying to give an appearance of a bona fide relationship but, I thought we would be better served being honest. I have 73 employees that depend on me so, my month long adventure of meeting her family, having the big family diner and gaining her fathers approval for her hand in marriage, the wedding and two and half week honey moon became my one shot to cover it all. Time off is a rare commodity because of production demands so it looks bad on paper and I can just imagine how it looks but my wife paid for all the wedding and everything once I arrived in China, not the reverse... It didn't help that I traded pay for days off when the plant went to four day work weeks for eight weeks. IE I traded my vacation for pay to keep the attorney and processing fees moving alone. This on paper doesn't look good but my Vice President at the plant did write a nice letter on my behalf that we submitted with the blue letter. Like I said, my wife only wants my love. That's all I have to offer her. I guess I'm not blaming the VO. I'm blaming the system. I blame myself. Like I have said before I was very naive.

We just belived were doing the right thing. I never set my wife up anymore than I was set up. I understand we have to work through this process. I beleive she watched other friends navigate the process much easier and thought it would be the same for us.

I understand its not perfect but she moved to Zhengzhou (12 million) as a girl. She is college educated and owns her own business. She is fineon her own. She never asked for money from me. She had an abusive marriage and wanted something different. I can't help it doesn't look good on paper and there is no going back so what do I do? I don't take it as hard. I understand.

I'm no longer "stuck on evidence." I was naive. I now understand whats at play. I'm just saying they just got it wrong. Love happens in odd ways.

Lee Greenwood isn't proud to sing of this American beaurocracy, I promise you. I feel embarrassed about the whole mess. After a crappy sleep from the stress of it all, I wake to find such words. Are you kidding me? Why dear God, why? I know most of you are reading and hearing these exact things. I pray for you.

Dear husband Your wife wants to avoid the sadness, so many days of my spirit in a state of collapse. I do not know what my future life is like, I check the site in many cases, this means as I ever refused. I know you're trying, but I think there will be no results. I went into hiding these days, I do not want to see anyone I do not pick the phone, I want to own a few days of quietness, to consider our future life, I can not accept this reality, I'm afraid your efforts fail our result is the same, I think I can't do a second blow, I do not know. This wait is painful, is cruel. You know? I have a hard life it? This year's wait can not imagine, you understand? I feel I have lost interest in life, I need a good adjustment to this coming out from the pain, I do not know I can do it? Honey, I think you also need to consider our future life, if we fail the next time, how would you arrange your life where you need care for your health, but I can not help you, you need to consider the issue later. I would like to hope nut, it is very small, do not have high expectations. I need quiet thinking for some time, I closed the shop, I can not achieve anything, I am tired. I hope you forgive your wife, your wife still love you, I want you, I very much hope that you live with, really, think of our happy days together, really happy, but you have the U.S. visa officer let us, I do not understand, this is the very great importance to human rights and humane of the United States? I can not believe that there are so many illegal immigrants in the United States, why can not we have a real husband and wife together. Love your beautiful wife Yan

Of course, I would love to share our story. Until it became blackened with despair my wife and I had agreed that our great love story would be in textbooks for our great grandchildren to read and now just look at it. The last few chapters didn't need to be written. No, it can't get any worse.