lili58

Hi, It almost took me a year to get a professional job. After I got my degree, it took me almost 8-9 months. My experience is that sending applications by online is not so good. I sent almost 100 applications by email (just like your wife), and received very few responses (less than 10). As far as I understood, human resources receive 100s of applications by email daily, how will they notice me? I am not from Ivy League school or anything. Then I sent very few applications in a hard copy by mail (I even printed it out on a special resume paper), then I heard back from them. I went for an interview and got my 1st job in my field. Another thing to consider is that improving your resume. I thought my resume was good, but now I look back, it's was not good, it was bad. So I spent days to improve my resume by sections. There is really a lot of room as far as improving your resume.

This is crazy. If man needs to sleep, he is gotta sleep. What's the big deal of asking his wife to think of a solution that won't wake him up? He gets up early to go to work. They are husband and wife, aren't they not close enough to talk about something like that? Their daughter needs her own bedroom, but I don't think that is the solution for everything. Her mother may stay up with her even if she has her own bedroom.

I think lots of things depends on the situation. If you have the luxury to have chinese TV channels, chinese magazines, food, and can afford to travel home.. then you'll want that. But for lots of other people who did not have those opportunities, adjusting into US still is not so hard, even without having those things. I know lots of immigrants like that. I came to U.S on my own, I didn't have either chinese or american food. I ate out of a can for a while. Did not even have time to miss home . I guess my mind was occupied with how to make a living here.

Cats have blue or green eyes which makes it very "foreign" for us (chinese and most of the asians). Their eyes look very different from us. I am very scared of cat's eyes and nails. I have a friend who happen to have green eyes (she's from Xinjiang province), she loves cat!! I tend to think it has something to do with her eye color. Dogs usually have black/brown eyes which makes it "closer" to us.

With 1.3 billion Chinese out there… I would bet that you have a 1 in 3 chances of them answering you in Chinese . Yes, but not all of them will be pleased by that generalization. They have their own language, culture, and country.

For americans any asian is a chinese person. Whenever they see an asian face they assume that he/she is chinese. "Are you chinese? Ni hao!". Many japanese, vietnamese, and koreans complain about it.

I second that. Shanghai is very safe. I tend to think that "safety" in China has to do with communism. Communism didn't allow people to behave wild or use guns ... etc. I am not sure if people will agree with that.

It's possible. There are things she won't tell you directly, so you may need to be more "sensitive". I don't mean send her money all the time. If she's a very modest girl she could be saying "no" to you even when she's struggling with financial issues.

I have a very similiar observation regarding americans . I am simply astonished to see how crazy americans drive here. They cut me off, they do U turns when it's not allowed, they change 3 lanes at a same time, and young guys drive so fast. It's so scary to watch and participate in!!! Then I thought, maybe we all same. Like how chinese people are very comfortable on their feet or on their bicycles, so do americans are very comfortable in their cars. Once they are in their car, they are not afraid of anything .

Sorry to hear this! That's not right!!!!!! Be careful, she already has showed you her nature.

Family is very important in chinese culture. A daughter can not be happy if the parents are living in not-so-well condition, even if she is living happy life with her husband. It's better to help the parents, so that she can be happy and will not have things to worry about.

Possible explanation could be that: Asian immigrants don't have much info about mental illnesses. Depression, psychotherapy ... etc are *foreign things*, or I should say western things. If they are depressed (because of problems), they won't even realize that they are depressed, they think it's just part of life. Life is hard, what else can we expect? ... that's the way how asians (we) look at the problems. On the other hand, american born people have easier life and also they have knowledge about mental illlnesses, they know that they are depressed. They know that if one is depressed, there is a problem, so that one should go to psychotherapy ... etc. Because of these differences, they respond to survey in different ways. Asian immigrants are less likely to respond to the questionnaire negatively compared to asian-american fellas. Their answers regarding their mental health are most likely to be: Ok, fine, good ...(not so much whining ).

In the begining, I also did not like that. Because that is wrong. But my husband insisted on eating them on a next day, and I kind of influenced by him. But you know what, I think I will try not do that again. That is not good for our stomach.

Gosh, those food just look like food from restaurant in China. I am impressed by how it does not look like americanized chinese dishes.

Thanks Papa Bear! I live on the east coast, will that be still possible for me to buy from them? I am afraid that this might cause too much hassle for them (showing pics online ... etc). One of my option is to wait for my next trip to NY and buy it there.