cocomonica_37

thank you for above posts to encourage me a lot.i noticed that most members here are american man ,disscussed about their storis with chinese women,maybe some of you met "bad women",but one thing is same:all your guys like chinese women,so can meet here. my sotries,even now ,i don't know what is going on . due to my job(i working in intrnation-trade company,hae deal with usa and european countries),i have more connection with western people,i feel western people are very gentaleman,and wide-heart which i really appreciated much.so i wanna.... anyway,i met a amrecian man,first time,he came here,i covered all the expense in china,hotel,food,travelling to beijing...(coz two reasons:1.he told me his store biz is very slow,short of cash,2.i think he spend ticket fee to come here,and i have the ability to afford this),also i thought money,is earned by person. and second time he came here,also same reason,i coverd everything,but he said he need go to seoul to visit his friends dicussing about new biz,want to borrow about $4500 from me,be honestly i not like this,but he,a big man,already opened his mouth,i no like hurt him also,so i think just like gambling(he promised pay back end of Jan,2008),and he is first man i met online,really heavy shocking if he cheated me,i 'd rather just believe most humen being inthe world is good.but until now,no payback,he said he would come china to see me end of last month,but on the last day,he left message to me,something happen with his son,so delayed ,until when?God know. but i am ok ,i am stronger enough.storm ,come,i not scared. all of you,if have some confused about chinese women thinking or others things,can ask me,i will try my best to explain in a fair,middle point. thanks drew send me message,but ihave no any evidence about borrow money,so can do nothing about this matter. one caution to all you,one chinese idiom"men dang hu dui",mean for couple,both family must match each other,when i was 20's,i thought it is compeltely wrong concept,but now i agreed it at least 80%. when you met you g/f in china,you need see her family,if her family is kind,wealthy,she can havewell-education,she is not only starring at your wallet(in most case,it is correct,but not all). i read another post here about his first visiting to china,but struggled with woman's son using knife,if i were he,after first breakfast costing rmb900,i flight back right away... ok,thank again for all you reading my post good lucky for all of us.

after reading the top message,i really feel "unfair".other chinese girls expected money from their husband /boy friend,but why when i met american man,he "borrow" money from me without return!and i covered all cost in china?i am not fool,but just think money is less improtant then emotion.i need change my mind also.at least study to know who has real heart. sorry,my bad words

I am chinese,and while be lady ,so i could understand why she worry about that,it is common things,it also says that she is serious with you.Now turn to you,if you really like to have her in your life,for time being,giving her some space and time is best choice,but you can not be disappear just like no any mail,any phonecall even in few days,if that ,she would get angry with you,she would think you will not insist your releationship any more,i think what she is doing just for proofing you,needing more your words to guarantee her(maybe one day you have some wrangel in your family life,she could beat you according your words,lol) .so you can mail her every day,but not talking about your releationship,just common things like old friend,and phone her maybe once per week(she is not good at speaking,so no frequntly call avoiding too much press for her),and keep watching her,maybe sometime (few weeks or months),you flight to china meet her person when you think things getting better,then she chang her mind. anyway,can not disappear,show her you always care about herno matter togetheror not. good lucky for u.

I am a Chinese woman, I think I little understand your So thinking, her really meaning is: first,you should trust her, trust her love,alos trust she could take well care herself,second,you should believe yourself,if you always say 'I love you" to her, maybe she is thinking you always worry about she would leave you and which alos means you don believe yourself and her love.showing your love to your SO is pretty things, every women enjoy it, but not too often ,I not know how is western women thinking it, but for Chinese women, sometime can cause them some pressure.hope it is useful for you and you can understand my real meaning.good lucky

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