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When my wife first came to America permanently after she had been here for say 3 months she told me that she would not be telling me that she loved me several time a day and perhaps she would not tell me that at all sometimes. I would tell her several times a day that I loved her so much. She explained the Chinese way of showing affection and I accepted that. As time went on and I would get up in the morning before she did and after I got dressed I would come over to her and kiss her on the forehead. She would pretend to still be asleep but I knew she wasn't. One morning I was in a hurry to greet a customer and I did not kiss her. When she got up she was despondent all day and she finally told me what was wrong. She said that you did not kiss me this morning don't you love me anymore. I told her of course I do but I forgot because I was in a big hurry and was late meeting a customer. There was so much relief on her face that she grabbed me and hugged me so tight and told me how much that she loved me. In the last 14 years she tells me how much that she loves me every day several time a day. In the evenings after everything quiets down she will always come and sit in my lap and look up at me with those beautiful brown eyes and tells me that she never knew what love was until she met me and that she could never live without me now. She had never been married before. She will sit in my lap several hours sometimes and maybe even go to sleep for a while. That time of the day is what I live for. Larry

Carl helped so many of us during the dark days of visa hell. He was especially helpful to me. He gave so much to my survival here and on FB. I flew out from PA as soon as I heard he was hospitalized and finally met him yesterday morning. I finally got to say thank you.

Sorry, I didn't finish sharing before my computer crashed down. Let me go on. There are some small tricks. Southerners seldom notice. (1) You have to walk on the ice in small steps like Japanese women do, rather than your usual strides. (2) Dry snow can be a cleaner. We used to wash our heavy woolen coat or thick blanket with clean fresh snow. (3) Snow and rain water are also good with watering the indoor plants. Our winter lake can be a big fun. We skate, ski and slide. Some people knock out a swimming pool out of the ice on the lake. Winter swimming in the "open- air" lake is a fashion now. The lake is so solide frozen that many trucks and cars run on it as if dashng on the asphalt road. I was practing riding a bicycle on the lake and fell many times. But in the past we all rode bicycles on the icy road when going to to work. Well today is my weekend. I just like to talk about weather with you guys. I like to hear your weather too. I never understand why raining is romantic to some people. They also think steps on the snow produce musical sound. To us the north sufferers, I just take any snow and rain a big physical torment. Please know I'm not whining. No matter where we live, every day is a gift. I jest love livin above the grass. My prayer is to live in the south and speak southern English. Howdy to do you to? everyone

You name moondog? Sorry for my english is not good. My husband tell me i should look at this massage and maybe help understand. I married to american man now for 8 years now. I be in america 7 years now. My ameican husband is my number 2 husband for i marry ago in china to first husband. this not work for me at young years so marriage book brake. My family very no happy with me and tell me go away. my father tell me you no more my daughter you have dishonored your family. i can not say what this feel like but i go away and family is gone. I travel china alone with myself trying to live alone for i am used goods and not wanted. it very hard time for me. My husband tell me of your story and i can feel the pain again. It make many years before family take me back. Today, family will never forget my shame to the family and they bring me back. I marry a man in america in 2006 again family no happy. But after family look a new husband and talk,eat,drink there is something new. I now have a new life, family and love again. It was a long hard road but my god helped me me. My husband said i should teach you chinese culture. chinese culture is 5000 years and i do not understand this time. for i only understand my time in the world. i can not teach you with email I can read small english but i see it could be good if your world and her world work together try and look in her eyes and see what you see in her eyes and you will feel her world and then understand. my name hong and i understand losing face for i live it ago

Whaddup guys? Well she is maintaining and for the first time in over 11 years I am learning to be more comfortable with her as she is with me. Happy Chinese New Year everyone!!!

A K-1 visa is to give you time to plan a wedding. It is not intended for use as a trial marriage. You are supposed to be 100% sure before you bring her over here. As Dennis mentioned it could cause her great shame as well as great harm. Before she comes she has to quit her job, move out of her home. pack and ship what possessions she wants to take with her and dispose of what she can't keep. How is she supposed to pick up the pieces and move on with her life should you reject her once she is here? Shame on you for even considering such a thing. Settle the issues once and for all before she comes or cancel the whole thing.

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Hi Guys, I've not been here for quite a few days. Wow, now I got five "likes" today. I love the credits! Thank you very much. These days I'm very anxious and nervous. I got a new job working for another public school system in Oklahoma City. I'll do ESL for a middle school next school year. I didn't have fear when I came to US in 2015. But now I have so much fear with my new job. I am so afraid of another transition. I need you guys to encourage me please. Moving my small home is not easy for me either. I have to go back to the school kids now. Have a good day everyone!

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I have not been on CFL for quite a while but now just at this moment, I got such a sad news. In the begging I thought you guys were joking for fun. Carl was one of my first friends here on the forum. Life is short. From now on, I must often visit my friends.

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Chances of success are fair. However it is not without risk and the consequences of failure are daunting. She could be deported and banned from re-entering the US permanently. Not worth the risk IMO. The new immigration policy is focused mainly on undocumented immigrants who came here as children. It doesn't give amnesty to every illegal in the country. Yes the immigration system is broken. Neither political party is seriously interested in fixing it. Big business likes cheap labor. I have said for years the solution to illegal immigration is simple. Stop focusing on the immigrants and make the penalty for hiring them so severe it is no longer worth the risk. If there are no jobs they won't come. If they can't find a job they'll go home.

We Chinese women are not all the same, but we all grow up using chopsticks, hate to be tanned, taught to obey sons, husbands & authorities, also, almost of us fascinate about America & its people. We fell in love with our American knight, who brought us/planning to bring us to the US, to build a happy-ever-after-brand new life… but the reality hit us hard: language barrier, culture shocks, no friends and parents around, hard to find a job to continue our career, we feel lost…. Meanwhile, our husbands/finances want us to bond with their family and children, which is both exciting and nerve wracking--- how to manage in-laws and step children relationship, while we can’t even understand what they are saying, nor make ourselves understood. Our husbands/finances, on the other hands, see the physical difference we have with western women, but that fundamental culture differences, which result in different way of think, might be hard to discover and understand. We hope through this forum, we Chinese women living in the US can have a platform to share our: · Immigration challenges · Culture dilemmas · Career development in the US We also hope to provide different perspectives to our American loved one on: · Chinese women’s habit, liking, and mindset. · Chinese Families/Friend habit, behavior, relationship. · Anything that puzzles you about Chinese women. We believe in: happy Chinese wife, happy life J Joecy

I will try this for many know my english no good. me now together here with cfl 5 year now. I am Chongqing girl. I meet my husband (nuworld) on internet in 2005. we chat on email only for one year. my husband decide to come to chongqing and visit me in 2006 for two week. we marry each other for it feel right. (my family very no happy) husband go home to america and take care of visa papers. he send k3 and cr1 together. one year and one day after marriage book we go for interview for k3 visa. during interview no questions asked only man in window say you visa changed to cr1 and give my blue paper. blue paper say need medicine shots. i get question taken care of same day of interview and try to get visa again. man in window say wait 90 days and then we give you visa. 90 days now all gone and i have visa. my husband can not be with me for travel to america for his work to busy. i must travel alone to new country. for me this no problem for me smart girl. husband buy me airplane ticket and i arrive in american on 08/27/2008 at first i find america very difficult to understand but i learn fast. for first few week i stay at home and fix it for more liking for both of us. then my husband get me job at his company. that was 6 years ago and me still work at same company and make good money. we now have 8 years marriage book together. new house, new car with no payment and a new house in chongqing. visa very difficult to get but every people get visa. maybe take longer for some to get but feel good latter when get visa. america is good to me but me still miss china. though my life in china small no good as younger girl me still miss my land. our marriage book together is very good and me feel will last forever.

Wow, a tough one! I heard so much about my husband's two daughters before moving to the US, I thought if my husband could love my 5 yr old as her own daughter, I could love his daughters like my own. But I was wrong. Even after hearing so much about them, I knew what's their favorite things, their talents, but man, meeting them in person; having trouble understand their teenage fast English; nervous and sweating when talking to them with my broken English, I felt myself very stupid The first 6 months of visits was nightmare to me, I cried after every visit. The frequent complaint I had was: I was not prepared for a 5 person world; My heart is not that big yet. But I wanted to be able to stop crying, cause the visit will keep coming, and I love my husband very very much. I started to find answers online. To my surprise, there are many discussion among western women, saying they love their husband, but they have to admit that they just don't have that bond with his children yet." Loving your husband doesn't mean you have to love their children". I know this might sound horrible to CFL, but man, I was so relief reading that, knowing it's not just me having trouble to love step children right away. Realizing my reaction is normal is very important to me. There's nothing wrong with my love to my husband, nothing wrong with me as a person. After 2 years, the visit became more like routines. I see so many lovable little things about my stepdaughters, and how good influence they are to my daughter. The 3 girls are magically bonded. And I started to hear me saying, "I have 3 daughters " . The amazing thing is, my stepdaughter started to introduce us to her friend, saying, "I know we don't look alike, but this is family." To your dilemma, all I want to say is: The step relation is probably the hardest thing to balance in the world. It's very common to feel scared, no to mention there aren't much support or example to follow. The step relation in China is much simpler than in the US. Chinese women have very less exposure to the step relationship, no one talks about it, it's consider as a shame to even mention you are divorced. Even very few books available on this subject. If you love her very much, try Randy and Greg's suggestion: listen to her, make sure your love to her is secured, and explain how. Walk through the future with her, with your step children in it. A perspective from a Chinese woman, hope this help .

The solution is simple but politicians won't do it. they spend most of the energy and money on chasing the illegals instead of dealing with what brings them here. If they made the penalty for hiring illegals so severe that it would no longer be worth the risk there would be no jobs for them. If there are no jobs they won't come. If they can't find a job they'll go home. Big business likes cheap labor. big business gets politicians from both parties elected.

------ Some advice needed My 27 year old stepdaughter has had a little success on Match.com. She notes she is currently in Beijing many times within her profile, but is listed under Tampa, Florida (where my wife and I live) as there is no way to indicate a non-US address on that site. She has had a bit of interest from Chinese guys mainly Taiwanese/Singapore/Hong Kong guys looking for a traditional wife and from foreign students who maybe think she is a US Citizen and appear like they may be looking for a green card. But she really has not had much response from non-Chinese guys even though she would probably prefer an American guy. Why is that? There are a few young guys on this site with Chinese wives and fiances and a few young gals here with Chinese husbands and fiances. But in general it appears that most of us here are 50 and over. Why the (relative) lack of interest in Chinese gals by younger American guys? Is it because they come off as "nerdy"? traditional? not into the bar scene? I will admit my stepdaughters match.com pictures are on the conservative side and not showing off as much as some of the bikini or even more "risque" pictures you can find on some dating web sites (a few of the pics on Chinese love links even show girls in lingerie) ...or so I've heard Her hobbies are reading, travel, exploring, hiking, sports. They don't include clubbing, getting drunk or pole dancing, Could that be the problem? My stepdaughter is a nice, well educated, conservative, respectful, hard working, studious, possibly even borderline "a little nerdy", traditional girl. I think she is decent looking and her pictures are good (you can probably search match.com for girls 27 Tampa, who speak English & Mandarin to lock onto her profile if interested in seeing the pictures she used). So why no interest from American guys? She hasn't even heard from many ABC (American Born Chinese). Does it take some bikini/lingerie photos to grab the interest of most American guys? What's the verdict here? Maybe I can add my 2 cents to this. It seems you want the opinion of a young person on here, I will be 25 in a few months. This is my take on it. I think the #1 reason for a lack of interest from young american men is because of finances and lack of being established. Our society as a whole is delaying marriage well into their 30's now because of a higher education demands. The older crowd (50+) are probably more established then us, already did the whole college thing, probably has a decent job to live comfortably. I dont know too many people in their 20's right now that would want to take on a big responsibility like petitioning for a girl oversees, let alone take care of her on his salary when she arrived. The only exception to this is unless they have parents that support the whole idea and are willing to provide that support for their son and their new wife. Another thing is our culture. My wife is the complete opposite of me, but we do have a few things in common such as long term goals and where we want to be in the future. However, when it comes to going out to clubs/bars and partying till the wee hours in the morning, she definitely does not ride that bus. I have to do a lot of persuading to get her to go out, and mind you she is 22 years old. She does enjoy herself when she does go out though and loves to dance. I think another thing that might scare away young american men is the fact that they might be supporting this person by themselves for many years, especially if the Chinese spouse English is limited. These are some things I considered when I first met my wife, but she is going to start college soon and earn a degree in something, either way, I don't want her to rely on me and that may be a personal preference, but I wonder how many other men think like me? Another thing is anyone that is established in the younger years, they probably met a nice girl in college or their work place therefore probably limits the pool of potential candidates. In my opinion if she really wanted to meet an young american man, then her best bet is to meet him in China. Well I hope my post was somewhat useful and I didn't come off the wrong way on any aspect.

Good day Candle For Love, Wife, and I submitted her I-751 October 10, 2018, and December 16, 2019 our case status updated to "New Card Is Being Produced - On December 16, 2019, we ordered your new card for Receipt Number SRC1990016942, and will mail it to the address you gave us. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address." From what I gather this means our I-751 has been approved, "without further interviews", meaning we are "finished" and she will now be on her 10 year GC. Big sigh of relief. With above in mind, I would like to sincerely thank all the amazing people that contribute to this forum. We made it all the way from her AOS from B visa through I-751 lifting of conditions without any hiccups, or need to waste any money to hire outside help. I know this certainly wouldnt have been possible without all your help. Thanks CFL, sincerely.... Please disregard any typos, this a quick note while I'm at the office.

Hi Friends, How is everyone doing? It's been three years and 20 days since I was settled in the United States. I went through many difficulties beyond my expectation. Driving is still a challenge for me, I still can't drive on highway. Fortunately, I've never had any trouble on the street with policemen. Speaking English is another challenge. I'm really helpless and hopeless as far as the Chinese accent is concerned. Being a certified ESL teacher, I have to teach English. Sometimes I wonder if the foreign children will follow my accent and speak English as I do? Some children purposely mimic my pronunciation for fun. Some teachers don't like me to be a teacher among them. I must work hard to earn trust. I have made it! I've successfully taught ESL for a year so far. I'm also certified to teach Chinese. But there're not many schools who open Chinese class. So I'll go on teaching English as a Second Language next school year. Now the teacher-walk-out event brought me to OKC where my son is. So I took the advantage of the school bus to come to spend time with my son. The school has closed since Monday. I can't stop myself being a mom to my son. I love to baby him no matter how old he is. Now I'm praying for his future wife. Hey, who has a beautiful girl for my son? Please life up your hand and sign up to me LOL . My son is the most handsome young man in the world!! He has been an engineer in FAA, Federal Administration Aviation. He makes more money than I do He drives a very romantic car as well! Wishing everyone the best! Catherine

This morning I woke up to an overcast day. The Tulsa sky looked like a pot of oriental porridge. I saw my excuses to skip the church. So next fifteen minutes saw me shopping in Walmart. I bought some gourmet food including a dozen of sausages. Happily I drove back to my apartment area and parked my car at its right place. Steadily and gracefully I carried two bagfuls of food products with my two hands out of my car. I also had an armful of a pile of flattened card boxes in my arms. I'm moving to my son's city next month. Walking to my apartment, I had so much stuff in my hands and in my arms that my vision was completely covered. "Raoof, Ruff-------Arff-----". Suddenly out of nowhere, two big dogs, maybe dachshunds, were growling and barking at me! They enclosed me within a minute. I was totally unprepared for their snarling and gnashing. They lifted up their long big head and opened their blood-colored mouth to lick my pants, my blouse and my everywhere. Subconsciously, I'd dropped the card boxes to the pavement. Needless to say, I had all my goosebumps. But I was also conscious enough to remember some widespread stories of some dogs biting someone to death in America. I knew that I had to get myself together and stay calm. So I was just standing there still. I even didn't yell at the dogs. I was wise enough to try to get out my sausages and toss the sausages for the dogs to chase. It was a way to untangle the dogs from me. Just at this moment, a young handsome man walked over to me. He scolded at the dogs and chased them away for me. Right away I was watching him in anger! Automatically I believed that the young man was the dogs' owner. If I say that my heart had jumped out of my chest from the panic a minute ago, now looking at the young man, I would say my eyes were shooting out a sword at this young man. I was staring at him for quite a few seconds. He was also looking at me maybe waiting for me to say thank-you to him. No way! In my heart I was swearing, "You son of bitch, do you want me to kill you?" I'm glad that I put myself under control. I only raised my voice loud at him, "Should you say something to me?" I was implying him to apologize to me. "Grab your stuff, go home," he smiled quietly. With that, I realized that he was helping me to drive the dogs away. He was my angel! I was so ashamed of myself. Surely I gave him thanks but I was like a flat tire, I couldn't move a step with the things in my arms. I was so much frightened. Again this young man carried my card boxes walking all the way with me to to my apartment. I'm proud of myself being calm and brave at the crucial moment but I'm also ashamed of myself flying into rage at my rescuer. Amberjack, you'll be alright soon as I'm praying for you! Hi friends, do you have some good ways to drive wild dogs away? This morning after the panic, I saw the two dogs barking at everyone who was passing by. They must have been abandoned.

Tell pregnant woman to start on a prenatal vitamin (or send her some) that has DHA and folate in them. Ideally, start taking this vitamin before she gets pregnant. This will be great, having a baby in the house. I've aged 10 years in the last one due to the poor sleep and lack of exercise.

I have a friend from Shanghai who sent me this one.

That was great. Very funny, Randy. Everyone got a hoot outta that. Thanks for the B'day wish Tom and Larry. Ya know, for some reason every year I grow older so does everyone else. I think I'm still just a coot, but maybe closing in on codger, but certainly still not reached geezer status yet.

At the Sky Terrace, a series of escalators take you to the viewing platform Just to prove we were there, my wife took a selfie, and caught me in it. I guess that makes it a "two-fie"

Tom do you think that the millennial's even know what it means?

A scene along the shore. That's not a cutout - the white statue simply washed out in the bright sun. Some typical "Chinese" faire was available back at the Dameisha village Even the taxis are electric. This is a BYD charging station. You can see that our hotel was centrally located to the sites we wanted to see - it was just a LONG trip to get there no matter WHERE we went!

LOL, thank you True Blue. I'm laughing out all my all teeth for your "like", yes, thank you for more likes now. Thank you for the donation of likes to Donblett, True Blue, Dan1984 and Amberjack and everyone whom I can't think of the names. I really love those "likes". Wow, I'm rich now! However, I'm hesitating. I may give it up. Maybe I'm just self conscious like Blue said. Yesterday at a party, I showed how to cut vegetables with my big knife while I closed my eyes. Friends took a video of me cutting without looking. I laughed a lot but I didn't see my extra teeth exposing from the video. Have a good weekend everyone! Catherine

I posted these on Facebook, and have changed access to "public", so hopefully, you won't have any trouble seeing these. They are pictures I took in 2001 and 2004. Sunset from Pikes Peak on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.1695513583814067.1073741859.100000663263693&type=1&l=65e0eb6ad3 I took these photos in 2001, when camping was still allowed on Pikes Peak. With a camping pass, you were allowed in the evening before the race (PPIHC - the Pikes Peak International Hill Climb) and allowed to stay over night. We drove up to the Devil's Playground at around 12, 780 ft., where I took these shots before getting some sleep before race day. Our camp site

in Gizmodo Revolutionary Chatbots Reportedly Go Rogue, Get Reeducation in China Following these highly charged comments, both bots were deactivated and, according to Radio Free Asia, local Chinese reports claimed that programmers from Turing Robot had “been called in to ‘drink tea’ with the internet police.” The Financial Times reports that some users were still able to access XiaoBing on Wednesday and when it was questioned about patriotism it replied, “I’m having my period, wanna take a rest.”

I called them and they said they have a ds-160 confirmation no field because I applied for non-immigrant visa before so the that field is there automatically. They helped me deleted the field now everything is okay now. On the final confirmation letter there shouldn't be a ds-160 confirmation no field. Also for customer service representative you need to listen to the whole self-helped voice message and then you can press 5 to forward to the customer service representative. Hope the people have same situation can have a clue how to deal with that now

An incredibly mournful day... Beyond sad... I know some of you think that Carl never gave out much about himself here. This was the kind of man Carl was. Someone who would not brag about himself. Yet, Candle for Love is still around because of all Carl gave and his devotion. He was an incredible friend to those who would take the time to know him. I will never forget Carl. Our first dinner together in Beaverton. Hell, I met Carl and learned about Candle before I actually met my wife. His wife Bing introduced my wife and I. I was at Carl's wedding. He and Bing were our witnesses. My heart goes out to Bing because I know she lost an incredible husband. Life's journey has it's ups and downs, it's joys and sorrow. The most devastating feeling in life come from the loss of friends and loved ones. Carl was like a brother I will never forget. I will always strive to remember. I am a better person today for the friendship Carl and I shared. Yes, I could have missed the pain, but I am better off having had him in my life. Good-bye Good Friend, May God Bless You and take you home

Blood is thicker then husbands. Every parent wishes their kid to have the best in life. You have not met her yet and she is wanting to send the home front nearly as much as she earns. She also has a 2,000 yuan a month wolf at her door as well. When she arrives here she more then likely will not be able to start working for 3-6 months. Depending on her English speaking and writing ability she may be forced to work in a very low paying job. She is a beautician and it will take her 3--5 years to become established here with her clientele. If money is an issue with for you and her I would strongly recommend coming to an agreeable and reasonable figure that is more then affordable. Many Chinese people think Americans are rich beyond their wildest dreams. They think our birthright is $300,000 to start off with.This is the myth they live by. She wishes to keep her home. Who is going to pay for it and maintain it during your absence? Her daughter is 15 and more then likely wants to go to college. So you will be looking at 7-8 years of you and your wife providing for her.I assume her father does not participate in their daughter's life. Since your wife wants to keep her home she more then likely wants to return to China once a year. That is a couple grand minimum. When you marry a Chinese woman most of us are on a 1st name basis with the Delta ticket agent. You are a freshly divorced man and you could be very vulnerable in your emotional thoughts. I would take it slow and go and visit with her and truly see what she is like. Follow your heart but take your brain with you. Good luck.

The part about braces hits home with me. My wife had teeth that were really crowded because of her small mouth. We were watching TV and a commercial came on that showed the white, straight teeth that brushing only with Acme tooth paste would do. She was in tears. I asked what is wrong. She said she had always dreamed of having straight teeth. And Americans all have such nice teeth. I watched her eat right after and she reminded me of how a cow bites slowly and rolls everything around rather than biting down and chewing. It must have hurt her a lot. That was it. I dragged her around to dental appointments that removed 7 nasty teeth from her mouth, despite her protests. We got an estimate how much and how long and I did not even hesitate. She was shocked when I forked over the dough for Invisalign braces, the kind that you can barely see. It was 3 years about. Before she would cover her mouth when she smiled so you could not see her ugly teeth. Now, you cannot wipe the smile off her face. And I have a friend for life.

The world largest, military trumpet is in China. It was used to propagate those who ran to Taiwan to come back "Home"

I have been a member of this sight since my spouse and I started our Visa application 2 months ago. We left the interview today and were told that everything was in order and to expect her passport within 2 weeks. I simply wanted to post here to show my appreciation. I was able to see other peoples experiences and the process that they wen through and it allowed for us to better understand the Visa process and answer any questions or doubts that we had. So, now we are looking forward to the arrival of her passport with the Visa. Thanks Candleforlove!

Simply wow... One of our member's step daughter did this. Posted on Buzzfeed FB Page here: Over a million views so far. https://www.facebook.com/BuzzFeedVideo/videos/1881162595357947/

Yep, Robert, this should be interesting to watch as it unfolds. Keep in mind though, as humorous as it seems, that shrine and the chicken offering was serious business for your wife. Best to tread lightly or else you may end up in the dog house along with your pooch.

Best tip I can give from my own experience is not for the Chinese immigrants, but for the spouses that bring them here: don't force feed them American culture and food and people unless they are ready for the challenge and openly want to be immersed in it right away. Do it little by little to give them a chance to acclimate or until they are ready for more. I cringed at Doug's example of "When having a Thanksgiving party for family and friends, at your new home with your hubby, don't be surprised if some of them don't like your Chinese dishes." Doug, this may work for your wife, but for mine this would have been a social assassination. Thrusting her into new and unfamiliar cultural holiday with many new and unfamiliar faces with much new and unfamiliar food. Having to sweat over whether or not her English was good enough or the feeling of not being able to engage in the conversations about football or other American issues. Stressing about what kind of impression she would make and what everyone might think of her. Now add to that the worry about how her food would be accepted and if she will make a social mistake that might offend someone. Doug mentioned helping her understand how the American folks might respond to her food and how to deal with it, but what about how she'll feel and react to the American food everyone else brings? Should she just tell the Americans 'your food sucks' or should she do the phony polite thing and say 'it tastes great' when she really wants to puke? There's no correct answer, but I imagine all these feelings just adds enormous pressure on some of the newly immigrated Chinese ladies who may just barely have started getting used to all the other cultural differences they encounter on a daily basis. For my wife, we did things very slowly in tiny bits and pieces which helped her get acclimated at her own pace, and greatly reduced the cultural shock I expected when she first arrived. If I suggested something and she wasn't ready for it, we just didn't do it until she was ready.

Love this. That self-confidence in us Chinese women is usually very small, or gone completely. Very important for husbands to keep saying that to wives: Don't be afraid of being yourselves. I was quite upset with the first couple Chinese dishes prepared for my step daughters. They are ok with dumplings, but not all the stir fry I made (Well, I was not that good at cooking. Not all Chinese women are good at cooking, we used to be spoiled by our parents cooking everything for us.) I thought I tried so hard to learn cooking, rode bike to the Chinese grocery store, buried my head in the kitchen for the whole afternoon, chopping like crazy, and no one helped me(no know knows how to help), but the food was left over on the plates in a big pile. For the first couple months in the US, cooking was the only pride I had, kitchen was my kingdom, but that pride was gone... You have to pick up yourself, and adjust! Later, after many times of experiments, I realized there are some American food the girls didn't like either, and it is hard for people to get used to food they never had. I can't stand parmesan cheese! I started to learn western style: Pasta + tomato sauce+meat ball. Not grilling though, that's the husband's territory, he cooked a lot when the girls are here. As time goes by, they became used to my cooking, and found couple dishes they enjoyed. I grew thicker skin, learnt not to be that sensitive to rejection. Life goes on. We all love icecream!

I have been following this thread for some time now and as many members here have given good advise. But as the OP stated. I agree with what Carl said here. DO you have any idea what this could do to her?? Carl pretty much summed it up. On the other hand, Lets put our self in her shoes for a moment. As Carl said: She packs up everything she can in maybe two maybe three suit bags. The rest, She sells or give to family members and this include the house she lives in today. All the rest is GONE!!! forever and never to be had again. She now gets on the plane and with all the layovers and all the time she will have traveled (22-25 hours) I'm not sure if you have been down this road before BUT! i do know and many here will agree with me that a Chinese woman after been traveling for that much time is NOT a happy camper. You may think she will be tired and just wants to sleep when she gets to your home, WRONG!! She will do a walk though the house and the rearranging begins. Your house will not look the same as it did 24 hours ago. Welcome to the Chinese world! I tried to stay out of this one but.............? My friend, YA need to get your ducks in a line and they need to be very straight in line before you continue down this road. Not so much for your well being after you sent her packing back to China IF you do? It's more for her, Losing face and having to deal with family and friends back in China. (Google losing face in china and you will understand the hardship she will endure) Improvise - do what ever you have to do to get where you need to be Adapt - To your surroundings. Overcome - Learn to deal with failure and move on. Ya better get this figured out now and not after. I mean figure it out BEFORE her interview in QZ. Good luck and god speed to both of ya.

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Just want to share my excitment with you guys, I finally became a U.S. Citizen a week ago. It took about 9 months from filing to oath ceremony. My in-laws are extremely proud of me becoming an American Citizen, and people even started calling me " Ms. America" I can't wait for more good things happen in 2014. I wish everyone have a happy new year, and best wishes!!! God bless us all.

I have owned my own modem for years, I would never rent. Cable companies throttle your data flow through your modem based on which service you are purchasing from them. Buy your own modem and you then have the fastest internet they provide since they cannot control speed anymore. I have done this with both comcast and Time Warner. Just set up cable at our new house, and this is the game Time Warner tried. TW:We need to set up for a technician to come to your home ME: Why, all the wiring is already in place and I am watching TV right now from the previous owner. TW: Technician needs to install the modem ME: No, I have my own modem, which is why I am watching TV right now TW: OK, we can do remotely, what is your modem password? ME: Unknown TW: Unknown, u n k n o w n? ME: No, unknown meaning I dont know the password (I lied) TW: Oh ok, let me try to ping your cable box ME: Go ahead TW: Appears everything is working ME: Thanks, goodbye They want your password to change your modem settings, has nothing to do with set up. The only thing they need for set up is serial numbers of the modem. 35MB down / 15MB up speeds, better then Time Warner actually offers in this area. If on Time Warner modem, basic would be 10MB down / 1.5MB up. Last note, dont buy your modem from the cable company, just go to Newegg or Tigerdirect and you can buy the same exact modems for half the cost.

You know we use to have another guy on this forum, in fact he still comes around sometimes, that use to sound EXACTLY like you almost word for word. He has been in China for something like 6-8 years now and the next time that he post I want to get the two of you together for a little chat. Larry To add: His thoughts mirrored your exactly and he thought that he had turned yellow and become a Chinese person until the S-H-T-F and he found out very quickly that he was not a Chinese and will never be one. He was just another dancing monkey in a foreign country.

All things considered, she did have a cute butt.

I am a Chinese girl, and this is my 3rd year living in Mississippi since I came to America. I feel very loved by friends, co-workers, and my husband's family ( my husband is white ), even random people I met in Grocery store or restaurant are very nice. This is also my 3rd year working for a state government agency in America, I am the only Asian in this agency, I realize that I do get a lot of attention because I am foreign, but I don't feel discriminated at all, instead, they think Asians are really smart and pretty I am sorry for your wife's situation, help her make some local Chinese friends, and of course meet some of your friends, help her to know that it is not her problem/being Asian, we are all human beings, unique and different, but it doesn't make some are better than others. I would like to talk to your wife, if I can be any help, or just a friend to talk to. Ruby

You guys know full well what I mean. There are those who oppose gun control and others that think we should have more of it. We have had these discussions before and every time without fail they degenerate into hateful arguments. There are many other sites where you can argue the issue to your heart's content. It's not going to happen here.