Hi, first time responding to any postings here. I have read a lot and learned a lot from the posts here. You have said something that I was wondering for months. My SO told me that after my first visit to China to meet her, " I have chosen you" We have talked for about 11 months now. I have visited twice. Can that mean she wants marriage? You'll see posts from the romantics; you'd be wise to take them with a grain of salt. She may tell you that she loves you more than life, but it means something very different to her than you. For many Chinese, love is practical. Love is not required for marriage; there are other things more important. And, if all goes well, love will happen in its own sweet time. That's the point of my post. "I have chosen you" means she is committed to making as good a life with you as she possibly can. She will DO the things that make her a good wife. Her emotions will catch up later. Ok, Thanks for the help, I will need as much as I can get. I am trying hard to learn how things are different between our cultures and what the meanings are. Sometimes I think I try to hard. My second trip to see her, by the second day she bought her own little diamond ring and had wedding pictures taken with me, my daughter, her daughter , and her. It took all day long, it was fun. I think my SO and her parents already consider us married. Her family is the best, I like how they take care of eachother, they welcome me and my daughter and treat us as family. oh yes, I have noticed she wont say "I love you" that often, I think maybe I have heard it 3 times, but when I am with her she takes care of me very well.