In China, a U.S. adopted teen finds his roots

[lostinblue]

http://www.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/asiapcf/08/3...ref=mpstoryview

"When I found out that the birth family actually lost him at a crowded bus station and did not mean to relinquish him, my heart was broken for both Christian and the family. It was just sad."

[Batmaniac]

Interesting story. I wonder what the protocol for something like this would be if he wanted to bring his real parents to the US. Is that even possible?

[dnoblett]

Interesting story. I wonder what the protocol for something like this would be if he wanted to bring his real parents to the US. Is that even possible?

Good question, From reading form I-130 instructions. Unfortunately NO

 

Who May Not File This Form I-130?

 

You may not file for a person in the following categories:

 

2. A natural parent, if the U.S. citizen son or daughter gained permanent residence through adoption.

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/men...00045f3d6a1RCRD

 

Natural parent = real parents.

[Randy W]

Interesting story. I wonder what the protocol for something like this would be if he wanted to bring his real parents to the US. Is that even possible?

 

 

You may NOT file for

 

A natural parent, if the U.S. citizen son or daughter gained permanent residence through adoption.

 

although that little tangle could conceivably be straightened out (i.e., the real parents never actually relinquished custody)

[weiaijiayou]

i saw video of this reunion on the news yesterday. the father was wailing away uncontrollably, then he fell to his knees by the boy's side and began pulling at him and trying to hug him.

 

it's sad what the one-child policy has done to the relationship between many second-children and their birth parents. this whole thing happened because the boy wasn't comfortable when he went to be with his parents. by then he probably barely had any relationship with them. my wife had a similar situation growing up. she stayed with her aunt and uncle, calling them mom and dad, and always wanted to leave when she went back to her parents' house. it's hard to get back that trusted place in someone's heart when you miss those early years of their life.

[warpedbored]

What I find puzzling is why the police would give up so easily and take him to an orphanage. Was there no missing person's report? If they were just seperated at a bus station it doesn't seem like it would be that hard to put them back together. Where was he for the year between the bus station and the orphanage?

[weiaijiayou]

What I find puzzling is why the police would give up so easily and take him to an orphanage. Was there no missing person's report? If they were just seperated at a bus station it doesn't seem like it would be that hard to put them back together. Where was he for the year between the bus station and the orphanage?

it does seem interesting. i wonder if he got on the wrong bus accidentally or if someone took him. by the time he got out of ningxia any information he could provide about his name and hometown would have been useless if he didn't know what province/autonomous region he came from.

 

i doubt china had a centralized database of missing children at the time. does anybody know if they do now?

[Batmaniac]

I could easily chalk it up to just lazy police work.

[Tony_onrock]

What I find puzzling is why the police would give up so easily and take him to an orphanage. Was there no missing person's report? If they were just seperated at a bus station it doesn't seem like it would be that hard to put them back together. Where was he for the year between the bus station and the orphanage?

it does seem interesting. i wonder if he got on the wrong bus accidentally or if someone took him. by the time he got out of ningxia any information he could provide about his name and hometown would have been useless if he didn't know what province/autonomous region he came from.

 

i doubt china had a centralized database of missing children at the time. does anybody know if they do now?

 

They are just setting it up now. It is really a outrage here on this issue. It is not just missing children! There are groups that steal children from their parents, for instance, in Dongguan, over a thousand got stollen and sold to others all over the country. The government is setting up a DNA bank to try identify the missing children and crack down on trafficing but not doing nerely enough. Thank god there are over 10 thousand volunteers now actively helping the police, some posting as buyer and try catch the human trafficers. One guy actually "bought" over 40 babies, resulting in lots of arrests. But it is far from sufficient from stopping it. The worst is some buy them and cut off an leg or arm or otherwise deform the children and force them into begging. Each time I see those deformed children on the side walk my heart sank. It could be my baby if they steal her. The only way to solve the problem is to set up a private organization, and with the police turning a blind eye, take care of business.

[amanda1969]

What I find puzzling is why the police would give up so easily and take him to an orphanage. Was there no missing person's report? If they were just seperated at a bus station it doesn't seem like it would be that hard to put them back together. Where was he for the year between the bus station and the orphanage?

it does seem interesting. i wonder if he got on the wrong bus accidentally or if someone took him. by the time he got out of ningxia any information he could provide about his name and hometown would have been useless if he didn't know what province/autonomous region he came from.

 

i doubt china had a centralized database of missing children at the time. does anybody know if they do now?

 

They are just setting it up now. It is really a outrage here on this issue. It is not just missing children! There are groups that steal children from their parents, for instance, in Dongguan, over a thousand got stollen and sold to others all over the country. The government is setting up a DNA bank to try identify the missing children and crack down on trafficing but not doing nerely enough. Thank god there are over 10 thousand volunteers now actively helping the police, some posting as buyer and try catch the human trafficers. One guy actually "bought" over 40 babies, resulting in lots of arrests. But it is far from sufficient from stopping it. The worst is some buy them and cut off an leg or arm or otherwise deform the children and force them into begging. Each time I see those deformed children on the side walk my heart sank. It could be my baby if they steal her. The only way to solve the problem is to set up a private organization, and with the police turning a blind eye, take care of business.

When I was a little girl, I was told by my parents to memorize my parents name, home address and other detail information about my family. i was tired of remembering all of these. When I have my own son, I did what my parents did on me. When I visited Bejing with son in March this year, son always grasped my arms in order not be lost. And even when we got to the U.S, I told my son many times about our house address in English and telephone number.

I believe China should set up strict law to punish people who steal kids.

[Tony_onrock]

Well, this is the unfortunate side of life here in China. I am constantly worried and would not let my daughter out of sight. When my son was growing up in the U.S., he would walk to school and back, bike, hang out with friends etc all on his own and we never worry that some one may grab him.

[knloregon]

This must be a Han family, since the Ningxia Hui Autonomous Region is Muslim, and therefore, exempt from the one child policy for minorities..

 

A heart wrenching story, but one of several millions.... My adopted daughters were abandoned, not lost... #2 was past toddler stage, not a baby, but has no memories..