Ill-boding mattresses

[tonado]

I need to buy a latex mattress soon for myself.

[Robert S.]

Select Comfort mattress the only way to go.

No problem whatsoever with a bed when she got here.

 

I bought just the top mattress, placed it on a water bed frame.

Best mattress I've ever had.

Bought a demo model from a display, on just replaced model.

Paid $500 vs $900.

Only way to sleep.

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Glad you are getting some nice sleep way up there in Alaska, especially in the winter time.

 

Mercator, you could tell her you flipped the mattress over, wonder if that might be a good enough answer to her objection. Or you could say you took it out in the sunshine to, as my wife would say, "kill the worm."

[Robert S.]

 

I'm starting to think if I make a post it kills the thread.

 

Hmmm, maybe I'll use my bad medicine on purpose sometimes.

 

[mercator]

Nope, she brought it up again out of the blue. I mentioned a 'third job' I started selling off some of my collectible moxing feiji (model airplanes) and have made some decent money. I figured I had enough now for another planned trip to see her (right now trip #2 is planned for late March). She reminded me I said I needed to save for the mattress. LOL Good thing I still have 1250 or so to sell!

 

You can't really flip over a Tempurpedic because the space foam stuff is only on the top. It doesnt need to be flipped like a regular mattress, so they didnt feel the need to use twice as much of the stuff I guess. LOL

 

I've tried the select comfort and the sleep number mattresses. They are nice, but I would never trade away my mattress! My wife thinks it will be too soft, but I can't really describe even in English how the bed works. It isn't soft or firm. It just holds on to you. I'll spend the $1800 if it is that important to her. I already have a buyer for the old one.

[SheLikesME?]

Nope, she brought it up again out of the blue.  I mentioned a 'third job' I started selling off some of my collectible moxing feiji  (model airplanes) and have made some decent money.  I figured I had enough now for another planned trip to see her (right now trip #2 is planned for late March).  She reminded me I said I needed to save for the mattress.  LOL  Good thing I still have 1250 or so to sell!

 

You can't really flip over a Tempurpedic because the space foam stuff is only on the top.  It doesnt need to be flipped like a regular mattress, so they didnt feel the need to use twice as much of the stuff I guess.  LOL

 

I've tried the select comfort and the sleep number mattresses.  They are nice, but I would never trade away my mattress!  My wife thinks it will be too soft, but I can't really describe even in English how the bed works.  It isn't soft or firm.  It just holds on to you.  I'll spend the $1800 if it is that important to her.  I already have a buyer for the old one.

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Buy a new one and get it over with. I bet you have too good of a thing to let the bed get in the way. Only when you sell the old one, better not use THAT money for the bed, hahaha. They don't forget what is important to them, and THEY run the house. I get hints that Chinese men give their wife the pay check. Hmm, she dislikes Chinese men I will tell her. I know what she wants. She doesn't want ME to spend it. She wants to save and pay off my house.

 

I wanted nothing and emptied the house when I moved my ex out. I had bought her an entire bedroom suite a few months before. I didn't care. I would recover. No looking back.

Edited November 15, 2005 by SheLikesME (see edit history)

[Yuanyang]

When we split I took no furniture at all. So everything is new.

BTW: I have my Select Comfort cranked up to 95 now, so I'm pre-adjusting for my Chinese bed this week.

[izus]

can you say really bad black and blue knees

 

something must be done with the matress' in china, i end up sleeping on the floor every time by the end of my trip

Edited November 15, 2005 by izus (see edit history)

[SheLikesME?]

My wife had a bed that was a big wood box with nice sliding drawers for her things and her daughter. The top mattress was similar to USA but sit on the wood. I liked it. I tend to like sleeping on carpeted flors as I got used to this with my ex.

 

So this bed of hers was great for me. Just the right firmness and soft enough to sleep on. Oh, snd it was up tall too. Just the right height.

 

I mentioned I wanted to build something like it here. She said she hated it and does not want the drawers underneath. Hmm.

 

Anyway I went to an Asian furniture store in Arlington, TX where they had all Itilian bedroom suits. Very nice. Big display and shelf and mirror thing for a head board. White to brighten the room. My house is all wood, I mean all wood. But typical frame box springs and pillow top mattress. ugh. So maybe I will get it minus the bed and build something like what she has, but hopefully different enough to be acceptable. Or should I wait?

[mercator]

I'm surprised the bed had sliding drawers. My limited (but increasing) knowledge of feng shui is that nothing should be under the bed. I have a four poster that sits about 4' off the ground (It has stairs for my 'lil SO - hehe), and there isn't so much as a spare blanket under it.

 

The bedroom furniture was all that remained from my marriage. The rest of the house was cleaned out. She fought for the bedroom set, but it was pointed out to her by my attorney she had everything else, and she'd have to pay me at the point the divorce is final, should she take everything. She changed her tune at that point. I had a real bulldog. I kept the house and that bedroom set. She took the other furniture and her car. I had to pay her a grand total of $700. He was worth every penny of the $2k I paid him. My first marriage, I had to pay $2k per month in alimony, and $17k in cash, plus she took *all*of the furniture, though I kept the house then too. I work at home, so that's why it was settled both times with me having the house.

 

never again!

[SheLikesME?]

I'm surprised the bed had sliding drawers.  My limited (but increasing) knowledge of feng shui is that nothing should be under the bed. 

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OK, but what is "feng shui"? Please excuse my ignorance.

 

I have a feeling that my wife is not exactly in the norm within China. I sensed it from the first, but the more I read here. So who knows. That or she is normal and there is a real reason to dislike the drawers, what ever this feng shui is.

 

Well sorry about your divorces. Certainly what drove me to China. I work out of my house as well. Only I bought the ex a house and moved her into it. Now she filed bankruptcy and now has my mortgage a bit tied up & 2 credit cards shut down. Got one reopened today, though. Her name wasn't on them, but you know how the system works.

[mercator]

I'm surprised the bed had sliding drawers.  My limited (but increasing) knowledge of feng shui is that nothing should be under the bed. 

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OK, but what is "feng shui"? Please excuse my ignorance.

 

I have a feeling that my wife is not exactly in the norm within China. I sensed it from the first, but the more I read here. So who knows. That or she is normal and there is a real reason to dislike the drawers, what ever this feng shui is.

 

Well sorry about your divorces. Certainly what drove me to China. I work out of my house as well. Only I bought the ex a house and moved her into it. Now she filed bankruptcy and now has my mortgage a bit tied up & 2 credit cards shut down. Got one reopened today, though. Her name wasn't on them, but you know how the system works.

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"Feng shui is the ancient Chinese practice of placement and arrangement of space to achieve harmony with the environment that has its origins from Taoism. The practice is estimated to be more than three thousand years old."

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feng_Shui

 

Basically it is placing things in the right place for harmony. Often Chinese go so far as to have a feng shui expert examine building plans before the structure is built. Serious stuff in some aspects of Chinese society.

 

I got familiar with it when my ex (who wasnt chinese, but more of a new ager) started moving things around because she got way into Feng Shui. My wife and I haven't discussed it much, but I know her family house in China is designed and things placed in a harmonious manner. I suppose the 'ill-boding mattress' is some offshoot of that.

 

Like anything you can get a little into it, or you can get way into it. I don't know how much they spent, but I know Disney invested in some Feng Shui experts when they built the disney resort there in Hong Kong for fear of alienating some potential guests.

 

I don't practice it deeply, by any stretch. I never had anything under the bed when I was young either, because of some German or Norwegian superstition LOL

Edited November 16, 2005 by mercator (see edit history)

[Joanne]

With my limited knowledge about Feng Shui, my definition for Feng Shui is the way to get people to accept scientific conclusions without having to understand the scentific reasoning.

 

For example:

nothing underneath bed: human perspire during sleep (anytime actually), stuff under bed interfere with ventilation. Beside, hard to clean underneath bed.

 

Has to place some metal object near computer/TV screen: to "trap" radiation.

 

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[mercator]

With my limited knowledge about Feng Shui, my definition for Feng Shui is the way to get people to accept scientific conclusions without having to understand the scentific reasoning.

 

For example:

nothing underneath bed: human perspire during sleep (anytime actually), stuff under bed interfere with ventilation.  Beside, hard to clean underneath bed.

 

Has to place some metal object near computer/TV screen: to "trap" radiation.

 

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I never thought of it that way, but that makes sense. People have been doing that for centuries in the West too.

 

In Christendom, in the Old Testament you aren't supposed to eat Pork. Judaism still follows this practice, as does Islam. The reason for that is probably because in the ancient times, alot of people fell ill with things like Trichinosis, or other diseases from spoiled / raw poultry.

 

Probably the same as not eating blood, which was also in there.

 

Good post Joanne

[SheLikesME?]

With my limited knowledge about Feng Shui, my definition for Feng Shui is the way to get people to accept scientific conclusions without having to understand the scentific reasoning.

 

For example:

nothing underneath bed: human perspire during sleep (anytime actually), stuff under bed interfere with ventilation.  Beside, hard to clean underneath bed.

 

Has to place some metal object near computer/TV screen: to "trap" radiation.

 

...

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I never thought of it that way, but that makes sense. People have been doing that for centuries in the West too.

 

In Christendom, in the Old Testament you aren't supposed to eat Pork. Judaism still follows this practice, as does Islam. The reason for that is probably because in the ancient times, alot of people fell ill with things like Trichinosis, or other diseases from spoiled / raw poultry.

 

Probably the same as not eating blood, which was also in there.

 

Good post Joanne

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OK, cool, thanks guys.

 

What I am speaking of has no ventilation at all. It is a box similar to beds in hotels where a wooden box is built to substitute for the frame and sometimes the box spring as well. I saw this in a hotel in Dalian we stayed at. Perhaps the Holiday Inn was this way, and of course her bed was too, except her's was much taller and had two drawers that could have been larger.

 

I would imagine seldom would one ever take the thing apart to even get at the little bit of dust under there. Daily dust, which I believe is usually dead skin would be hard pressed to get there. So it sort of takes care of the cleaning issue, I think.

 

Now from what some of you are saying, though, a mattress on top of a board is about the same thing. Beside there would be no airing of the mattress from the bottom side on a board. So why not just close it all off?

 

In America many people buy the long wide flat boxes to store things under the bed and use a skirt around the box spring and frame. Women have a name for the little skirt. Also I believe tht "Container Store" a chain in my part of the world, sells plastic containers to store things under the bed.

 

My wife has shoe boxes under her sofa. So I am not sure she is into feng shui. I will ask her though. It seemed to me she was more into being practical and finding ways to store things they use. She has a smallish 2 bedroom home.

 

The mattress is comfortable. At one time she talked of shipping her furniture to USA. But it isn't worth it, except I like the bed. Only difference is I would inset the box corners from the sides of the mattress so there is less chance of a stumped toe.

[Guest Paul]

It's fun, isn't it?  I can't wait until she is here and we learn more of these kinds of things together...

 

I discovered that I need to swap mattresses.  Unfortunately, it is a Tempurpedic, to the tune of $2000, or as I look at it, one trip to China.  No, I won't go back to a regular mattress.

 

I've had the mattress about 3 years.  I bought it shortly after I moved to my current house.  I was married at the time.  My now ex-wife slept on it for a couple months.  My SO asked about this and immediately said it needed to go.  It 'bodes ill' for the marriage.  It wasn't the bed we had through our whole marriage, but the ex- slept on it so it has to go. 

 

I can keep the boxspring and the four-poster though.  Only the mattress has to go!

 

Merc

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For us ... the little twin-bed mattress I've slept on for years now ain't large enough for two. And after reading some of your letters I have decided not to get something larger b/f she gets here but to take her bed shopping and let her be a part of that decision, maybe she like that idea. What say ye?