Dan777

I found the video very interesting. I search the internet for stories like that and it is the best one I have seen. Steven and I are about the same age. I was not obsessed with Chinese women, just a lonely guy wanting a happy relationship. I was not a "hot" item on Match.com and other match making websites. I got a reply from a woman on match.com but I thought she was too young. It ended up that it was not a reply from the person but from her sister (Chinese married to a Canadian in the USA) who also tried to set me up with the older sister. I met the older sister (also Chinese of course but spoke not a word of English. The relationship was a dead end from the beginning and she told her sister she was happy alone. At least with me she was) and the sister who was trying to get her sisters to marry so they could be close to her in the same town she lived in. I even paid big bucks ($3,000) for an exclusive dating website where I got a lot of dates but all from women [all American mostly white] who wanted a rich good looking guy. If I were rich I would not have dated any of them for longer than I did then. The first time I went to chinalove.com my email was flooded with emails. I have never been popular all my life but I sure felt popular then. At first I wondered why all the attention, but I think maybe there are a lot of women who were serious like I was. I started a relationship with one, but that fell apart for reasons too long to list, plus I had several bad feelings about her. She liked money too much and I think that is a good warning sign for those who also wonder. She told me if she got a red envelope with money in it I would get a big kiss. My thought about that was my sister would probably do the same thing. My brother in law always told me Thai women were the best but when I got on that website, thailovelinks.com, I was a little popular but never felt what I did with the Chinese women. So I went back to Chinalovelinks.com and met my wife. We will be married one year in two weeks. What the video left out is the waiting time for his fiancé to come to America. I went to China to get married because that is what my wife wanted. We always had a backup plan for us to get married in the states. I was a little surprised Sandy said she was going to leave Steven when she got her green card. From what I have seen all of us wonder if we are finding a green card seeker. I joked about it a couple of times with my wife but I now realize that was a mistake. My wife would rather live in China I think. I am not ready to give everything up to move to China. Maybe if I thought I could get a job but I don't think that would be easy. I read on the internet that Chinese women are very jealous and will go through your email. From what I have seen their relationship is more like the ones I personally know. Out of five or so Chinese female married to an American male all are still married. My wife just told me her friend I have met here has a friend who wants to leave her husband to got back to China. My wife's English is very limited and she did not know why the women wanted to leave her husband. I wanted to know from the video how his experience waiting for his fiancé was like. I have found it very difficult except my wife makes me very happy and that is why I keep hoping for the best. Her immigration was approved after almost 9 months and now the visa application is in Guangzhou, China. They changed the rules April 1st so now I am told the Chinese Embassy is going to mail her the interview date to her mailing address. It has been two and a half weeks with no mail to her and it seems like it is getting harder to wait. We always tell each other we hope it will be soon. I think if Steven and Sandy can stay married for four years they are both trying very hard. It helps me to know there are others of you who went through the same thing we are going through and made it to the other side. I write on this website hoping something I write will be a help to anyone else going through the same thing. Now I know how to get the evasive single proof paper but that was the most difficult piece of paper I have ever tried to get. But even if things change my year long marriage to my Chinese wife who has lived a half a world away has made my life much better.

Thank you guys for responding. Since I wrote this, my wife has actually practiced saying my address in English. I have read what I could on the internet. It does seem like they could ask a lot of questions or almost none depending on who you get. Some comments say they think they know the outcome before the interview actually takes place. My wife seems like she is more into anticipating questions they ask. I appreciate the feedback. I had to look up what the CCP was. What is the correct answer? We are doing everything by honesty so I see no reason to change now. It is just a long process, one I have never regreted since I met my wife on an online website. I guess we will just wait and see what happens. I will post the outcome.

I just hit the 20 week wait for a interview for my wife in Guangzhou. She speaks very little english. Is this still a problem? I have spoken to her about this a lot. She was taking english classes but decided to quit the classes. She said she is going to tell them we communicate with translation software which is what we do. This and the fact I have only made one trip to China makes me wonder if she will get the visa. Also as of today my wife tells me I will get notice in the mail about my wifes interview in Guangzhou and I should tell her when I get it. I thought she was going to get mail or a call. Can anyone clear up these questions? From what I have read, if we do get turned down then I just have to reapply or give the required information. So far my wife has had everything ready for the marriage and paperwork for the visa. I hired a lawyer thinking it would avoid any mistakes. She has a friend who took 18 months to get to the USA. Thanks.

Thanks yee haw yaw. I moved to TN this January. I have read some of your stories and also enjoyed them.

Hi, I found the story very enjoyable. I got my single paperwork in Guangzhou also. We were married this May in Zhanjiang. I have hired a lawyer and am in my fifth month of waiting. I am very happy also even though I have only spent one week total with my wife. We also chat on Yahoo at least five times a week. My wife does not speak English and just quit going to her english classes. She also tells me what to do a lot which I am learning to enjoy. She just recently told me she had pressure. Finally I figured out she was saying she was becoming very nervous about the interview for her visa. I hope ours is as sucessful as yours was. If not I guess we will cross that bridge when we come to it. I have decided I am not sure I want to live in China but I am sure I don't want to live without my wife. I wish you all the happiness there is. Your happiness reminded me of mine. The filght to China sucks. But having a Chinese wife who did not mind fixing my sore shoulder from the flight was very nice.