BigPanda

Hi Reddragon75 and fiancee, I am new here. Just found the site today and was looking around. As soon as I saw "..will my punishment never end..", my heart sank and I knew I was about to read about a sex offender being denied his or her petition. That's exactly what I found when I read your post. I am also a registered sex offender in the state of California. I served a longer prison sentence than you for an offense involving a teen girl in 1997. I met my fiancee online in 2005 and also told her right away about my offense, parole, everything. No secrets. Like you, my case was not rape, and was "consensual", but the law does not recognize the consent of a minor (under age 18) in California. I have had daily communication with my fiancee since May 2005, and when I got off parole in April 2007, I went to China to meet her and her family in June. I got back, started the petition only to find out about IMBRA, and through my (now) attorney, the Adam Walsh Act. Our petition is in, and I went for biometrics Feb 17th. Needless to say, we were devastated to find out about ADA, but I have come to conclusion that it is a good, and well - meaning, law. It does sometimes feel like I am still being punished, but I found a memo from the USCIS online concerning "determining risk to the beneficiary" and have received a letter from the parole office treatment psychiatrist stating I am a very low risk to reoffend. My friends, family member, HR person at my work, have all either written or will write a 'character reference' letter for me. My fiancee has never married and does not have children. I have tried many times to find out how many sex offenders are being denied with no luck at all - too new, the lawyers say, and not open for review. This 'not knowing' is so hard on my fiancee and I. Sorry for this long reply, but, like I said, 1st time here, and reading this is really scary. All I can suggest is to find that memo online, and try to get some of the items there together that proves you pose no risk to your fiancee. Good luck to you and God bless. You are not alone.