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Ok all, I am planning on Going to Manila in September (actually Cavite City) to visit my SO and her 2 boys, for the first time. I will be staying at the Island cove Resort while I am there and I guess what I'm needed ti know now is about how much can I expect to pay for food while I am there. i will be there for 5 days, and i am planning on paying for the 4 of us, 3 meals a day. Well acutually, 2 meals a day as the breakfest is included with the Hotel stay. I've tried looking up the average costs for meals there but the only thing I really found was prices for the local Mcdonalds, and lord know, I sure as heck don't wish to be eating all of our meals there, LOL So, maybe someone here who has been there recently can try & give me a break down of the various costs. I do know that the resort has several establishments on site, but i am hoping to be able to get out & do a little exploration in the local area as well. OH!! YEAH!! Does anyone know if there is a place close by to Cavite City where one can either Scuba Dive or snorkel (My favorite hobby, LOL) I have yet to find out if there are any close by public beaches there. Thanks

We have talkd about me & my job and she seems to be ok with it. With her being a RN over there, we've talked about the possibility of her being able to do that here. And as far as the boys are concerned, when they are not in school, I could take them out on the road with me (One at a time of course) and possibly, once in a while, take all three with me so that they could see and experiance the varoius places of our country. The Oldest has expressed an intrest in wantong to join our navy when he finnishes school, while the youngest one only cares about blowing the horn in the truck, LOL.

I am planning on going to Manilla later this year to visit with one of them who has 2 sons. one 8 the other 15. We've been chatting now for almost a year. It's like we are almost in sync with each other. and by that I mean, we know when the other is either going to be online or home & we make it a point to dedicate that time for one another, spending as much as 6 - 10 hours (boy time flies) but we (her & the boys) we talk about just about anything you can imagine & it just feels like we are almost already married, LOL. The boys will fight, or girl problems at shool, & with her, various issues at her work etc. She knows that I am still speaking to 2 others at this point but also knows that the time I spend chatting with them is no where as much as :OUR" time, LOL. So, we shall see what happens

That's for the Advice & I'll definately be looking into it Here in the carolinas. Like yourself, I too am on that Asian site, and like yourself, I find that most of them are from china etc. I've tried looking into Match.com, however, seems there isn't much activity (like you said) so in about 6 months, I'll most likely let the Subscription go. So you see folks, like I said before, this is why we hear (those who've been her for quite sometime) are still here. We ARE A CLOSE KNIT FAMILY. we already know the challanges that each of us have, already have or those that are just beginning their trek. So when antoher is having issues, or, what ever, we are here to help. Thanks Guys.

Wait a minute...just because there aren't available Asian ladies in your immediate area you choose to look on the other side of the world for one? Doesn't make any sense. While I have "TRIED" looking into a couple of dating sites here in the usa (ie. Match.com, ehaemoney.com etc) none of them seemed to have the kind of lady I was looking for. I've been trying to look in areas that I drive to (Philly, Jersey, & Tampa) but I'm never there long enough to just sit down and talk. So yeah, any suggestions, I'm all ears. To knloregon, it appears to me that "MAYBE" you did not read everything before you casted your vote for me to leave this site and stop posting here. That's all well and good, we are all human and sometimes we just don't take the time to see the big picture. I forgive you. No, I am not a casual person when it comes to relationships, and no, (just in case you are thinking this) I am NOT using CFL as a dating site. I am still here because I know from the past, (Those of us who have been around for a while) we joined together like brothers & sisters to help each other to see things what we ourselves could not at the time, saving each other from possible heart breaks. I personally feel that we here at CFL, WE ARE A FAMILY. Some of us, after we get married, we go on with our lives and forget about or we get so wrapped up in our personal lives, we forget about not only our own familes, but also, our extended ones as well. But sooner or later, we tend to come back, if for nothing else to catch up on old times and to see how others are doing, and to share what has been going on in our own lives. So.... Like I had mentioned, there "were" a total of 6, and after a few more rounds of Q&A's We are now down to 4. When I stateted : "I AM looking at things like, How well does she keep her home, does she pay close attention to the needs of her children (if any), does she & will she prepare meals" what I was saying here was, to those that I am speaking with, some have of them have kids, in which one of them, I'm finding myself chatting with the kids as well, which is actually cool. Why, because not only do we talk about what they did at school, we also chat about what "momma's doing, how she reacts when we chat or on the phone, what they did or where did they go, etc. (Sometimes, kids can be a great window to see what others may not).In this paticular case, this lady has two fine young boys, one 13 & the other 8. Both of them tell me that there are many nights when momma stays up late just waiting to see if I am going to come online, knowing it may be a possibility with me being out here on the road all of the time. The boys are sooo eager to want to learn to fish (something they had never had the chace to do) while the younger one is always sending me emails about his day at school was and which girl he teased that day. Sometimes he tells me that his mother has made comments about what did he thought if I were to come there to live with them, in which case, as all young kids get, he gets all up and excited, telling me that his mom told him that she's keeping her fingers crossed & how he's been watching her to see who she chats with, to only see that she now only chats & writes emails to me & her sister. (Which, I guess could be a good thing) but only time will tell, right? There are two lovely lady's now that I am leaning more towards mainly because when I tossed the Idea of going over there to live verses living here, it was like they were cool with that and wanted to know what all my skills were so as to try and help me look for possible jobs. So to me, (Don't know if it's a smoke screen or not) but to me, that tells me that they couldn't care less either way of either staying there or comming to the USA, just as long as they were able to find the right guy. The one that I was really looking into (at the start of this thread) I've decided that may she's "NOT THE ONE" based upon what a couple of you had stated, as well as a hunch I got. I began looking back over all of the emails, letters and chatts that we had, & It dawned on me that she had only been comming online alot when ever she thought she could use me as her personal banker or get her out of a financial bind. (why I did not see this before is beyond me) But thanks to those that pointed me in the right direction as to what to look for. Well, I guess that's all for now, got to hit the hay for my next load. But will check in hopefully later this week. Thanks all for your input. It's worth millions.

From what I can gather, she's not from a big family. No, I have not been there yet but soooooo Ready to go. We;ve chatted online for about a year, called her more times than my phone bill can handle, LOL. She's not very religious. I want so much to learn more about their culture, but many places on the net only gives bits & pieces. If I knew more, it would hopefully help me to understand more about them, LOL Allow to add to Kim's question a bit... From your posts you seem wild eyed and giddy again, which is good, but does that cloud your judgement? Meaning, what did you learn from your first try? What warnings, red flags, did you ignore that you won't this time? Why not search for someone already here? If it's an Asian woman you want, there are many here looking for a good man. Have you given them a try? From what others on this board did successfully on their second try was to marry in China, live a while or visit frequently with extended stays to develop very solid relationships before attempting to file. Are you also considering how important it is that you leave no doubt in the VO's mind that your relationship is more than just infatuation after a visit or two with email promises? Good luck to you. yes, in some ways you are right, I am a bit giddy, however this go round, I think I am going into this with my eyes wide open. This time, "I AM" looking to see just how well she communicates with her family and those supposedly close to her network. I AM looking at things like, How well does she keep her home, does she pay close attention to the needs of her children (if any), does she & will she prepare meals, paying attention to what others like etc. Is she more focused on her work or her family. That allone can say alot about the person. If they are more focused on their work, more than likely they are only focused upon themselves and to what they can achieve out of life for themselves. I AM looking at other things as well. Things like, Is she pushing to come here or if it really matters to her if she & that special someone could live happily in her native land....How well and often does she respond to emails or chatts. Does she seem to keep to the subject at hand in those messages or does she go off on a tangent on something else, totaly disregarding anything you say. How close to attantion does she pay towards special dates, achievements, promotions etc. Also, I Look to see if she puts me on a pedistal in her life, or am I just another family member or close friend etc. Yes, maybe I am over reacting and scrutinizing things a bit much. But these are just a few of the small things that I should have been paying close attention to with the first one. With the first one, I was soooooo deeply in love with, I failed to noticed things like, her family only came over to see her, when she called them. She only cleaned the house when a certain friends would come over. She always insisted in eating out. And lets not get into the constant shopping for "Bargins"....When it came to dealing with the immigration folks and various paperwork, she always seemed 2 steps ahead of me, knowing what to file & when.........After getting her here to the states, it was like we could not get married fast enough for her. ...Next, it was all about staying on "HER" timeline to get things filed, telling me as to where we needed to go and when.....Once she had her 3yr card, it was straight to work for one of the local chinese restarunts, working 18hr days for money under the table..then she just had to learn to drive, she wanted to do things on her own (Which to me, ok great! less running around for me) Bought her a new car she just had to have.....Next she just had to go back to school to get her cosmitology lisence (Which I had to pay for-she insisted), even though I tried to explain to her that unless one worked in places like LA, NY etc, she would most likely never make much money in this field, unless she was prepared to stay right at it, build her clientel and accept the fact that 90% of those going into this field here in the USA, will drop out of it within the first 3 years due to the low income.(which she finally came to realize that I was right) Yes, I am a truck driver. Yes, I am gone out on the road for most of the week. But when I get home for my 34hr restart, it was Me playing catch up on all of the house cleaning, clothes, floors, stacks of dishes, going through the bills, taking out a weeks worth of trash, cleaning shower stalls etc Never once had she helped me in keeping the house presentable any one who might come by. And if someone from my family did come by, she was just down right rude. Almost like her getting on her Menstral Cycle and running them over on it.. You mentioned something about why not look at those Asian women already here? I would, IF there were any around my area. those that are already here, are either Already married, WAY TO YOUNG (barely off momma's skirt tail), gay, or so damn rich their noses are stuck up in the air and wouldn't see a mack truck if it hit them in the face. And those that could have been available, the ex (I later found out) would go around asking other women if they would like to have "her husband. If so, she would give me to them" That alone by itself told me I was nothing more than a piece of cattle at the auction block. I can only imagin what those ladies were thinging about me. But as far as the current lady at hand....While yes, I do like her very much, I am in no way going to just keep my eyes foused on her. This go round, I am looking at a total of 6 young ladies, ages from 26 up to my age, paying very close attention to those things I mentioned before. Each one knows that they are "In a Pool with others from their area" and in no way, am I about to get tottally serious or attempt to get my dip stick wet until it's down to the final one. And so, also knowing how things rapidly chances with USCIS, I figured that it might be best if I get brought back up to date, this time, hoping that my fellow CFL'rs will be able to help me see any possible red flags as well as assist me in various decision makings. Thanks guys & gals

From what I can gather, she's not from a big family. No, I have not been there yet but soooooo Ready to go. We;ve chatted online for about a year, called her more times than my phone bill can handle, LOL. She's not very religious. I want so much to learn more about their culture, but many places on the net only gives bits & pieces. If I knew more, it would hopefully help me to understand more about them, LOL

Actually much quicker. USCIS 2-6 months NVC a month or so.. Consulate 1-2 months. Holy Crap!! That's AWESOME!! How many times will I (Or should I ) actually go there to be with her? I know at least once. Being a truck driver that is gone 3 - 4 months at a time now (Now that I have an ex) I rally can't afford to spend several weeks at a time there. I am hoping to be able to go later this year for about a week, but the next time I'd be able to go would be the middle of next year.

The visa that she seems to have in her mind is a tourist visa not spousal visa that you are asking about. All of the requirements that she lists are need to visit here on a tourist visa. So I am guessing that viturally everything as I remembered is the same, except uncle same got greedier. Right? Are they just as slow as before? The last time, it took over 2 years to get the ex here. What else can I expect. Thanks all

Oh yeah, it might help If I state the route i am planning. Since she does not have any children, I was thinking of doing the K1 again. I guess mainly becuase it is what I did the last time.

Great info there. Thanks. Here is what she worte to me last night. Not sure if what she's saying is true, (Just seems weird in comparison what I went through there in Guangzhou) "you dont have to do that to immigration just for me to come there.,we know each other that it was very expensive,i need to have a property here a house and a lot and i need to have a business and most of all i need to have a money on the bank 200 thousand and above.,see that is the major project that needs to apply a visa here thats why i ask you to come here 1st and go to the immigration here and be clear about all the requirements soo that you will know ok.,i wish you understand about what i said.,pls pls pls do not make a move that can make you pay big.,you must come here 1st jim and get the requirements,do it step by step not a hurry" What can you all make of this? Is she being miss informed or is there something underlying here?

Hi Everyone, I know it's been at least 6 years since I was on here & it looks like I'll be back for a while as, unfortunately recently, I found out that the lady that "I THOUGHT" was the woman of my dreams, turns out that like many we've read on here before, was acutally using me to get here to the USA from China. Now that she has her education, a new car and a great job, she's decided that she doesn't want to be with anyone and that she doesn't want to love anyone. Sooo, Fantastice. The world changes every day and we must be willing to make the chage with it, right? Ok, here is my current situation and hopefully we have folks here that have either already gone through the process or is currently doing so. I've met a delightful young lady who is form Pagadin City located in the Philppines. While her age is a bit of a concern for me, (She's 20 years younger than me) everything else dose seem to be going nicely. She's a little quirky but very conservative. What I would like to know is the full scoop. The entire process that i will need to expect, ie, what forms first, second, etc. All of the steps, in order. How much I can expect to have to pay etc. Interviews processes / requirements, medical requirements, who to pay, when ... the whole shibang. Any info would be GREATLY Appriecated.. Thanks Jim

This I kind of understand. What I am having problems with are: Where to get the forms (Some places are wanting to charge for them, others are scam sites, and I could not find it on the uscis site) from what I understand is, All I need to do is send (Post) them a invitation letter for vist, and explain as to when I would like for them to arrive, where they will stay & what and where will we all go during their stay. Right?

Hello everyone Wow! I can't believe how fast time has flown. It seems as though as last week I was here looking for assistance on how to bring my (Now Wife) from China to the USA. And now, after being married for almost 5 years, we are looking to finally try and have her mother & sister come for a vist. But haven't a clue as to what all is involved nor the steps. I've tried looking though as many posts here as well as on visajourny and hadn't really found much of anything. One stated that the Mrs must be a USC, another says no. One states we must use DS 156 Form etc but the forms are not only a mystery on their locations, but also, from what I understand, are for the actual inlaw to fill out. So Obviously, I am totally CONFUSED Anyone here gone through the process & have the actual LOW DOWN on this process? Thanks

Here are a few from Our Area: Asian Market (704) 391-7114 1650 Pacific St, Charlotte, NC 28208 Vienghan Asian Food Market (704) 399-3078 3403 Brookshire Blvd, Charlotte, NC 28216 New Asian Market (704) 393-5831 423 Bradford Dr, Charlotte, NC 28208 Asian Market & Seafood 5929 South Blvd Charlotte, NC 28217 Phone: (704) 553-8008 Vinai Asian-Intl Market (828) 322-1295 1221 16th St Ne, Hickory, NC 28601 Asian Market 2636 Northwest Blvd Newton, NC 28658 (828) 464-9005 There is also ONE HUGE Chinese & Asian Mall (Grocery, Jewlery, Clothing, Dishes etc in North Charlotte. (Sorry I don't have the name or the address) but I can give you the directions. (The Mrs Loves this place) If traveling North on I-85 (from SC) get off on exit 41 (Sugar Creek Rd). Turn Right (McDee's on the right). Travel down this 4 lane rd on the inside until you get to the next Main intersection (Tryon) you will know this because Tryon is also a large 4 lane rd. Turn Left & get over to the far right as quickly as possible as the Chinese mall will be on the right. Now do not let the appearance fool you. Yes, it will look like an abandon set of shops with a nasty broken up parking lot. But this is where you will want to be. There are about 30 shops all inside this very old mall building. Here, you will be able to find virtually anything from Live Seafood, to hand made furniture, clothing, all kinds of Asian foods, ingrediants, spices, even Good Ole Chinese Beer. (We buy it by the 4 case lol Once a month trip) When you come, do not get in a hurry as the mrs will want to shop until she drops. While you wait, go inside & find some freshly made chinese bread & pastries, even roast Duck, Fresh Sugarcane drink (made right there while you wait. ) I'll try & get you some more as I can locate their addresses. We've been to them a few times, just cant remember as to how I got there, LOL Hope this helps