Guest Pommey Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Going to throw out a few 1. sensitive 2. emotional 3. labile 4. committed 5. Goal orientated Its just a few to start the conversation Link to comment
fineart Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Haha, that may be a portrait of Rob's sweetie. I often see here on CFL, some men summarize Chinese women by the obervation of their own wives. A-Mafan's posts often are more exactly suitable to be used to describe his lovely wife. A-Mafan is definitely a nice man and always tries to help others by his observation, though when he generalizes Chinese women, I often see, at least some bad women are not suitable to be dealt with by using A-Man's point-of-view. Jin will award you good seeing your this post, Rob Link to comment
tonado Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Chinese woman can be anything. Everyone is different. Link to comment
ShaQuaNew Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 (edited) Chinese woman can be anything. Everyone is different. That's right! Step up to the smorgasboard of life. You can find all types and all flavors. Innocent or WildStrong and weakSmart and stupidLoving and cheatingRich and poorYoung and oldPretty and uglyTraditional and WesternizedQuiet or gregarious Nothing much different here than anywhere else... Edited January 7, 2010 by ShaQuaNew (see edit history) Link to comment
A Mafan Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 No argument that everyone is an individual.No argument that the variation within a population is often greater than between two separate populations. However, men and women are different. US culture and Chinese culture are different. There are ways men talk/think about money, love, sex and marriage that tend to be somewhat in common. Likewise, there ways women talk/thinkabout money, love, sex and marriage that tend to be somewhat in common. The words used are the same, but the meanings attached to those words vary based on the perception filter of both gender and cultural assumptions. While there are always exceptions, there is great value in trying to find the most common views of American males and explaining them to Chinese females in terms they are more likely to understand, and in trying to find the most common views of Chinese females and explaining them to American males in terms they are most likely to understand. It can't be 100% accurate, of course. No one ever claimed that, least of all me. There is often shock and dismay and even hostile reactions when some things are said bluntly, but that is usually because it involves a paradigm shift to accept. People hate shifting their paradigms. Some people would rather attack the messenger than let go of deeply-believed illusions. Still, as inaccurate and occasionally unhelpful as generalizations might be, they are the best way we have to communicate our experiences and observations to help other people through a tough time. If everyone is different, if there is nothing in common, if generalizations should not be allowed, if observation/analyzation/assessment is never going to be even partially correct, then there is no reason for this board to exist and everyone is a fool for participating. If everyone is different, and there is no common element of Chinese women or American men to be recognized, then there is no point in discussing how to get visas, how to answer GUZ questions, how to deal with relationship problems, etc. But people have been helped, this site is useful, we aren't fools for seeking help and seeking to help through this board. So if you think everyone is different and this topic is useless, don't participate. Humor those of us who think we see common elements. Link to comment
Guest Pommey Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Of course everyone can be different, I agree with Nathan however there is some value in looking at yes "generslised traits" both ways probably. I am going purely off my observations, and not just with the better half, but lets not get stuck on the semantics of my posts, come on guys and girls , pitch in with your experiences. Link to comment
ShaQuaNew Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 No argument that everyone is an individual.No argument that the variation within a population is often greater than between two separate populations. However, men and women are different. US culture and Chinese culture are different. Sure, there is a big difference between the culture of China and anything you'll see in the West. Despite this difference in culture, people are pretty much the same and should be treated that way. As I work and live amongst the Chinese now, I see the very same personalities I had become accustomed to in the West. They are not from another planet after all. Link to comment
A Mafan Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Selfless when they feel secure Responsible Pragmatic Passionate/Hot-tempered Blunt (regarding some things) Indirect (regarding their own needs) Prideful Link to comment
chilton747 Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Selfless when they feel secure Responsible Pragmatic Passionate/Hot-tempered Blunt (regarding some things) Indirect (regarding their own needs) Prideful These are my observations as well. Link to comment
tonado Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 My ex-wife traits: These traits do not represent other Chinese women. Very irresponsibleVery shyExpect her other half to do everything for herVery emotionalNot very outgoingNot very frugalWorry about germs and cleannessDoes not respect elders Loves lotionsLoves organic food Link to comment
Minister Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Noisy Painfully frugal Fascinated with "brand names" Preoccupied with the perceived health benefits of regularity Could live on boiled cabbage, tofu, and pork Dependent (in a good way) Makes every day an adventure Link to comment
tsap seui Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 (edited) Laser focused.... Fantastic sense of humor, always looking for the funny side of life Full of life Very caring and loving Goal oriented FEISTY Lyrical of voice and laughter Edited January 7, 2010 by tsap seui (see edit history) Link to comment
Guest Tony n Terrific Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 My wifes traits. Full of life and bubblyRespects eldersConservativeWittyFiestyChanges Horses in the middle of the streamGood motherGood wife Link to comment
A Mafan Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Eats like a bird at home, but wears her hollow legs to the buffet. Link to comment
chengdu4me Posted January 13, 2010 Report Share Posted January 13, 2010 My lovely wife... Calm (never a bad word about anyone) Quiet ( speaks when she has something to say, otherwise does not engage in idle banter) Responsible ( family, home, relatives always come before her) Frugal ( couldn't get her to spend money on unnecessary items if I put a gun to her head) No temper at all (never yells, throws things, has temper tantrums) Family focused ( everything is about what is best for her family) Stubborn ( about everything!) Amazed ( by the crazy stuff I do!) Link to comment
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