What does your Chinese wife expect from you?

[mchina34]

My SO and myself are going through the 129-F process and I plan on filing very soon for us. What are some of the things I should learn and be aware of. I have read some of the posts here recently and it seems many of the problems that have risen from cultural misunderstandings that have led to both parties being accused of being a bad person. I of course wish to avoid this from coming up in our future.

My Lady is a professional and her family are very well educated people.

Any ideas on this?

 

 

cultural misunderstandings overhyped i think, and probably more of an excuse to not put forth the proper effort to learn about your mate.

 

 

 

just be preapred for a long process...make sure your relationship can handle this, and that you spend the proper time to get to know each other and will probably be well for ya in the end.

 

 

good luck!

[david_dawei]

when she is speaking, she expects me to understand her.

 

when she is not speaking, she expects me to understand her even more.

[chilton747]

when she is speaking, she expects me to understand her.

 

when she is not speaking, she expects me to understand her even more.

 

David, that is soooo right on!

Now tell the truth guys.........don't we expect the same??????

[notrevorich]

My fiancee and I are both very kind and caring people. She is in the medical field and is a care giver. An old saying is " meet nice people; not people who have to be trained to be nice".

Her family has been very nice to me and they have given their blessing to us. She has a daughter that will turn 20 this month. Her daughter wishes to remain in China and finish her education. She may wish to come to the USA or stay in China and make her life there. As any good Mother she would like her daughter here in the USA and close by her. I explained to her about the long wait period her daughter may have to face once she turns 21 if she decides to come to the US. She says she understands this. I know that blood is thicker then marriages also.

My children have long been on their own and out of the house. I have heard that the Chinese Families do not encourage this sort of independence until the child marries. I have also been told that when you marry a Chinese woman you also marry her family. My belief is you marry your wife and you have a good relationship with your wifes family and your marriage must always come first.

My future wife does not appear to be high maintenace type. She earns a fair living in China and wishes to work here in the USA. She has a good education holding a Bachelor degree also. I know she wishes to send money back to China occasionally to help her family out. One of my friends who is married to a lady from China told me that his wife does this occasionally also. It seems like the macic number is $300. Another man I know who was married to a woman from the Phillipines had huge problems with his wife when she started to work she wished and did send all of the money she earned back to her family there. They wound up getting a divorce over this practice.

I know any realtionship is a gamble by both sides. I just wish to make the transition easier for us.

 

 

I am chinese woman with american husband. I expect my husband being very sweet, very loving, very spoiling me, but also can ean a lot money, save a lot money, and spend a lot on ME!!! oh, forget mention listening to me.

 

Do I ask too much?????

Nope

You also forgot about the outside support network of your Chinese friends/family , and keeping you happy with a job you like or to be just a spoiled housewife .

[David&Wendy]

I am chinese woman with american husband. I expect my husband being very sweet, very loving, very spoiling me, but also can ean a lot money, save a lot money, and spend a lot on ME!!! oh, forget mention listening to me.

 

Do I ask too much?????

 

Paula, you crack me up.

 

I'm pretty sure she is serious.

[PhoenixRising]

My SO and myself are going through the 129-F process and I plan on filing very soon for us. What are some of the things I should learn and be aware of. I have read some of the posts here recently and it seems many of the problems that have risen from cultural misunderstandings that have led to both parties being accused of being a bad person. I of course wish to avoid this from coming up in our future.

My Lady is a professional and her family are very well educated people.

Any ideas on this?

 

 

cultural misunderstandings overhyped i think, and probably more of an excuse to not put forth the proper effort to learn about your mate.

 

 

 

just be preapred for a long process...make sure your relationship can handle this, and that you spend the proper time to get to know each other and will probably be well for ya in the end.

 

 

good luck!

This is what we hope to avoid or use as a crutch the cultural misunderstandings.