Thomas Promise Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 In a little over two weeks I will be again going to China to see My SO. I am really pumped up about it but I am also a little nervous I guess. I read some of the Posts that other people wrote when they saw their SOs after the long seperations that they both had to endure. They seemed to turn out okay for them.It is kind of strange though that you both once again have to get to know each other again. I know the e-mails and the phone calls really help but it is nothing like the real thing. Face to face. Interacting with each other as Lao Gong and Tai Tai. I can relate to the post "Stranger in My Bed" but I too am a stranger to her once again.My SO is very excited about me returning to see her, her family and friends. I really have missed her to. My 1st visit was one of the most enjoyable ones of my life.So why would I be nervous or have stage fright? Link to comment
david_dawei Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 Don't over think it.. enjoy it... Link to comment
bubbafred10 Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I had and overcame a little bit of that fear and strangeness on my second visit after 4 months of separation. No problem whatsoever after the first 5 minutes. On my third visit, everything is smooth from the encounter at the airport. I even gave my laopo a big hug at the crowded airport. My taitai liked that, just like the hug I gave her on the first encounter over a year ago. The Chinese don't hug that much. My laopo later said that first hug clinched it for me, because I showed warmth and gave her the electricity of sincerity. Her words were "Emotioned by the action". Yeah, I am a man of action. Hehehe! Link to comment
tywy_99 Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 My SO is very excited about me returning to see her, her family and friends.There you go!....A great confidence buider! My 1st visit was one of the most enjoyable ones of my life.And your second visit will be even more enjoyable than the first! Trust me on this! So why would I be nervous or have stage fright? David is right. Don't over think it...enjoy it! Now go get'm tiger!........ Link to comment
castaway109 Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I was more nervous about trying to get through the airport and customs quickly so I could have every second with my wife. I have been to see her 4 times and I can tell you it is true...it just gets better each time. Link to comment
philb Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 what a great thing to look forward too....right now - the thought - is keeping me going.. ENJOY; savor, Phil Link to comment
audelair Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I have to admit that both times I went to see her after a long separation, i was a bit out of my wits at the airport. But we both decided it was because of the jetlag Link to comment
mercator Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I won't get back over there until late March, so I can relate. It will be a little nerve wracking. I was really nervous the first time I met her in the flesh. I think I was nervous after seeing her from the moment I saw her to the entry into the taxi about 3 minutes later. Once we sat down and held hands, I knew all was well. I think that when I go the next time, it will be after that first hug. To her, nothing has changed. She feels the same as she did when we were in person. I assume she has the same expectations for me, hehe. I think about that next trip almost as often as I think about the time she comes here (almost, but not quite - hehe). Relax and enjoy it. Home is where the heart is. If you are like me, your heart is with your SO, so you are just coming home It could just be anticipation not nerves. I get the jitters every time I call my SO on the phone. I know I am going to get to talk to her and spend some time with her and it makes me excited. I'm calling her again on Tuesday night, and I am already excited about it. I get excited each morning when I check my email. If you are too nervous to go, you can give your ticket to me. I'll go and visit my SO. (just kidding - hehe) Merc Link to comment
jim_julian Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I've studied this phenomenon in great detail, I've interviewed a statistically significant sample, I've reseached on both the Google and Yahoo! seach engins and I can report to you that there is a 3.256% chance that after an absence of precisely the same duration as yours that there will be a significant relationship problem. I think this is an acceptable risk and urge you to proceed with your trip. Upon your return I'd appreciate it if you'd fill out a 56 page quentionnaire I will send to you. Xie xie Link to comment
amerchin Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I wasn't nervous at all seeing my SO the second time. It was a joyous time together traveling around China. When it was time to go back to her hometown another feeling took over. The time I was nervous was seeing her parents and family again. Link to comment
Joanne Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I've studied this phenomenon in great detail, I've interviewed a statistically significant sample, ... ... I'd appreciate it if you'd fill out a 56 page quentionnaire I will send to you. Xie xie166778[/snapback]Are you kiding, Jim?! Link to comment
jim_julian Posted November 7, 2005 Report Share Posted November 7, 2005 I've studied this phenomenon in great detail, I've interviewed a statistically significant sample, ... ... I'd appreciate it if you'd fill out a 56 page quentionnaire I will send to you. Xie xie166778[/snapback]Are you kiding, Jim?!166789[/snapback]Me? Kid? ahhh ... maybe .... Link to comment
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