Hello ! I am begining a journey, and I am clueless, I sometimes wonder what I am getting myself into, but life is short, make the best of it, and be good to people. I have been reading many post's here over the last few day's, wow everyone is so helpfull, it is great to see. I will begin from the start, please forgive me I do not type or spell the best, and I dont want to ramble on ! I met Q online just over a year ago (dec. 1st, 2011), It was Asian beauty website, I did not like to pay to write or chat, but I thought it was what I needed to do to find a cinese lady, I did find out later there where site's for free, oh well... We wrote many letter's, and chatted many times, we both asked many questions of each other, she does have 2 son's, age 20 and 19, she has no plans of them coming here, she knows it would be very hard for them here, they have no college, nor do they speak any english. She is 39, I am 50, she know's I am far from rich, I had to start saving right away, if I was going to go and meet her. We started using email the 1st of jan., also she started a english class. We started to skype the 1st of july, wow she is real !! we begain to skype everyday, talk, laugh, good times, we discussed my trip, we planned the 1st of dec. The 1st of sept. I look to book my trip, we talk about trip, hotel near her. BOOM... She stops skyping, her emails are short, she tell's me how much she care's for me, how I am in her heart, and she wants me, but... she said she has gone to consulute, embassy, she explains how much time it may take for her to come here, she wonders if I make enough to show I can support her, she is getting cold feet maybe, maybe she did not know what was all involved in all of this, also she was having some issue's at home (moving, changing appartments). I email her many times, tell her dont worry, dont give up, we will try our best and see what happens. Over about 2 months we had little contact, I tell her she broke my heart, and I was not going to go to china anymore, I always wished her the best, and she of me. Then I get email from her, she said sorry to hear about new york storm, was I ok ? I email back, I live in minnesota, haha, yes I am fine ! I tell her I miss her, and I wish she would write me. She replyed back very quick "I can skype now if you like" Sooo... I skype with her, we talk, she has tear's, which makes me get tear's, she explain's I have been on her mind everyday, she is very scared, she does not want a broking heart, it is a huge step for her to leave china. She explain's that her friend was married to a foreigner in china, he went back to his home to file for visa's, she has never heard from him again. Q does not want this to happen to her, she would rather get married in the USA. We are back to skyping everyday, sometimes twice, I think being apart a little maybe drew us closer (?) Her english is getting better everyday. I have been watching flights go up and down in price, I wanted to write to you all here first before I booked trip, but I just booked trip, I am set to go feb 5th thru feb 26th, 20 nights, I did book hotel for the whole time, so when I go to chinese consoulete in chicago for my visa they will see I have round trip, with hotel the whole time. She did offer for me to stay only 3 nights in hotel, then I could stay with her in her appartment if her son goes and stays with his father during this time, or lastly we could rebook at same hotel, or find a cheaper hotel. She would rather not have me spend all that money on hotel, (she wants to save money, thats good ! ) I did read on "visarite" site that I could cancel hotel after I get visa, and I checked with hotel and they offer free cancelation up tp 48 hours to check in, is this safe to do ? One more thing here, during the time she did not comunicate with me, I met a young chinese lady "Z" online who is in New York, she has been here almost 4 months, she is 26, went to college for bussness, her parents came here about a year ago and bought a store, she works at sore for her father, I beleave she said she has 10 green card ? we do not skype yet, we chat a little, she writes very sweet letters to me, but now Q is back in picture, what did I get myself into ? I do not want to hurt anyone, I feel Q and I might have more in common (age) and I know more about her, but she is so far away, and we have a lot of hurtles to jump over, Z on the other hand is in USA now that is huge for me, (I think) much less hurtles to jump. Any tips on going to get my visa ? also she would like to see a marrige ability form, would it be easyer just to get that in china ? Once again I did book trip, I am going to China, I will remain optimistic, open minded, I do not want to rush into anything, but that's what they all say, I try to look at it as a trip, and I will have a guide, a very pretty guide at that, I have never been with a "asian" lady before, so here I go... I am sure I forgot things to mention here, but I am sure you will ask me more things, and I will remember more. Thank you in advance for your comments, and you help. Have a good day, Dale
