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  4. Do I keep quiet or do I spill the beans?

    in Culture & Language Discussion

    Posted

    My wife¡¯s 22yo niece, Jin, in Nanning, has been corresponding with two American men (Al and Kurt) through the help of her mother, my wife¡¯s sister, Yue.

     

    Yue is the one who corresponds with these men, (through a translator service) not only for her daughter but for many Nanning women by pretending to be the woman whom these men think they are writing to, (sometimes using the woman¡¯s words, sometimes her own). Got it?

     

    OK, Kurt visited Jin last year. Jin and Kurt fell in love and got married and their immigration application is in process today.

     

    The other man, Al, doesn¡¯t know that Jin is married and he recently wrote to me saying that his flight to Nanning is all set for March 1st. Al¡¯s very excited about finally meeting Jin B) and wanted to know if I had any tips or information that I could give him about his visit and/or about China, as this is his first trip ever outside the US and, of course, he¡¯s a bit scared.

     

    I tell my wife about the email from Al and ask her what the heck is going on? She tells me not to worry and not to say anything to Al. They (her sister and Jin) plan to introduce Al to Jin¡¯s cousin, Jie. Leiqin tells me that Jie is very beautiful and will make Al a much better wife than Jin, as Jie is more traditional and mature in taking care of the home. Jie (not Jin) will be meeting Al at the airport.

     

    Anyway, Leiqin (my wife) says that they¡¯re not about to throw this catch back (my words) when there are so many women very eager to marry him. And, all¡¯s fair in love and war, and especially love (my interpretation).

     

    Still, I don¡¯t like the dishonesty. It¡¯s not fair to Al or any man to be deceived like this. Yet, I can¡¯t seem to get that point through to my wife and her sister. The bigger picture is the end result of the common good (for both Al and Jie) is what¡¯s important, more important than any deception.

     

    Personally, I believe my wife, and I think that Al will be getting the better of this deal even though he probably won¡¯t agree, initially. If my wife says that Jie is more beautiful and would make a better wife then I believe her (for whatever that¡¯s worth B) ). If it were me, knowing what I know now, I¡¯d be one excited man. :blink:

     

    Yet, I wonder how this will go down with Al. Maybe, he¡¯ll be disappointed that he was set-up after getting his heart set on Jin. I suppose it will boil down to whether there¡¯s an attraction between he and Jie. If there isn¡¯t an attraction, he¡¯s probably going to be upset for being duped.

     

    So, what should I do? One thought was to wait and spill the beans a day before his flight. Another is to just stay quiet and let the chips fall¡­

     

    This still puts me in a delicate dilemma¡­my loyalty to my wife and her family vs. being honest and trying to explain all I know to Al.

     

    How say you all?

    I might as well as put my two cents in, like it really matters. I pretty much think that your sister inlaw is about as low as they come in the match making game, spill the beans or not Dennis I have no respect for her at all and those involved no matter what country they are from. Go ahead and justity the not telling him lol lol, she is better looking and this and that BS, what he hell does that have to do with it anyway.. Ok, the one You were gone to meat is married but now I have one that is not married and is better looking lol lol, sounds like a sick game to me on all parties involved.

  6. COUNTERFEITS...

    in The Middle Kingdom - 中国

    Posted

    And to make things even more exciting for CNY travelers... :yay:

     

    There are now FAKE TRAIN TICKETS as well... :( Just saw this one on the news from HK... :ph34r: So keep your eyes open... :blink: and remember as GZBILL says..."It ain't rocket science"... :)

    Fake train tickets have been going on as long as counterfeit bills too, where have you been Roger, post on some counterfeit big ones next time.

  8. CORRUPTION...

    in The Middle Kingdom - 中国

    Posted

    "It should come as no surprise to those that spend even a little time reading in this forum, that Roger has little good to say about the country of China. " :jerry: :jerry: :jerry: :roller: :roller::roller::roller: :D :D :D :D

     

    Happy New Year :)

    I think that Roger is really Jesse, or is it that Jesse is really Roger?

  14. A Little Trivia

    in The Middle Kingdom - 中国

    Posted

    Can anyone tell me what these are?

     

    http://i34.tinypic.com/2a9b9qp.jpg

    If I had to guess I would say it looks like what I would call Company Store money. Money paid to workers that worked in company own towns like the old coal mining towns of early America.

     

     

    its old coupons to buy flour,meat, cloth and oil rice

    none are beer coupons?

  17. Profession Alert

    in General Visa Discussion & First Steps

    Posted

    No issue at all unless she has broken a law in China that will forbid entry in the US. The only other item is admitting to being a member of the Communist party. Not a good idea.

     

    Just for the record...my love is a very very good girl. :D

    No broken laws, no criminal record, no drugs, no swearing, no lying. The perfect woman!...IMO... :P She's an angel! :angel: :blush: :wub:

    She's also not a member of the communist party. ;)

    All that will change when she gets here :roller:

  18. Profession Alert

    in General Visa Discussion & First Steps

    Posted · Edited by hakkamike (see edit history)

     

    My question is...does anybody know how influential her profession will be to the consideration of denial for her visa? Does anybody else here have a love who did a similar profession? She lives in a small town in Guangxi Province (approx. population ~1500) and she does a lot of the listed items. Should we be worried about this, or is this a false alarm? Needless to say, we're both kinda anxious about this. Any comments, suggestions, or stories would be much appreciated.

     

    Thanks.

     

    Joe

     

    No issue at all unless she has broken a law in China that will forbid entry in the US. The only other item is admitting to being a member of the Communist party. Not a good idea.

    I think that there is a issue, like someone said read a few of shelikesme posts. Are you saying Jesse that a member of the Communist party or former member should not tell the VO that they are or were if asked ? I am sure that I really misunderstood what you posted. B) So I guess that your wife is still a Communist Member?

  23. "Without money you are nothing..."

    in The Middle Kingdom - 中国

    Posted · Edited by hakkamike (see edit history)

    Bill - he's gone - hit the road - unregistered

     

    I just noticed that. Wtf?? Can't handle some debate?

     

    I think it started getting a little personal yesterday. Not so much about debate anymore.

     

    :(

    Smart man, yet always seemed to have a bit of a chip on his shoulder. Too bad he couldn't hang, he had good knowledge and details of the workings and goings on day to day living in China.

    Yep, he is one of the smart ones in leaving lol lol

  24. Dentistry in China...

    in The Middle Kingdom - 中国

    Posted

    My dentist has been redoing the work my wife has had in China; mostly replacing old, metal fillings.

     

    I asked him if the Chinese dentist did bad work and he said no, just outdated.

     

    When most Chinese people need medical or dental care, they go to the medical or dental hospital, where they wait in line until they are called. The majority of these places practice questionable methods and techniques; as in my wife's case, the dentist looked in my wife's mouth for a few seconds, and told her he would pull the tooth. These facilities do not have the equipment or expertise to employ or perform modern methods.

     

    However, Western dentistry and medical care is widely available, you just have to pay the extra cost.

     

     

    not sure Jin would agree with that.

     

    and she didn't go to a "dental hospital" for her work.

     

     

    for me I think dentists are like car mechanics they can all fix your car but at greatly varing costs B)

     

    One thing for sure, as with anything, you have to look around. It's not as if you can go just anywhere. Bigger cities, have better doctors, and more options. But, with those options, it costs more money. Again, the prices are extremely high, and most Chinese are unable to afford it. And it's not just that. Most Chinese have no idea whatsoever the difference between Western and Eastern dentistry.

     

    :(

    So what is the difference?

     

    The price.

    Why are teeth so important anywy, I can type my bs with out them although I have most of mine still without the the medial touch. I would love to see my wife get all of hers pulled, but that is just me..

  25. Dentistry in China...

    in The Middle Kingdom - 中国

    Posted

    My dentist has been redoing the work my wife has had in China; mostly replacing old, metal fillings.

     

    I asked him if the Chinese dentist did bad work and he said no, just outdated.

     

    When most Chinese people need medical or dental care, they go to the medical or dental hospital, where they wait in line until they are called. The majority of these places practice questionable methods and techniques; as in my wife's case, the dentist looked in my wife's mouth for a few seconds, and told her he would pull the tooth. These facilities do not have the equipment or expertise to employ or perform modern methods.

     

    However, Western dentistry and medical care is widely available, you just have to pay the extra cost.

     

     

    not sure Jin would agree with that.

     

    and she didn't go to a "dental hospital" for her work.

     

     

    for me I think dentists are like car mechanics they can all fix your car but at greatly varing costs B)

     

    One thing for sure, as with anything, you have to look around. It's not as if you can go just anywhere. Bigger cities, have better doctors, and more options. But, with those options, it costs more money. Again, the prices are extremely high, and most Chinese are unable to afford it. And it's not just that. Most Chinese have no idea whatsoever the difference between Western and Eastern dentistry.

     

    :(

    So what is the difference?

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