Gary & Xie

I want to thank all you good people on this forum. For all your support and care. It is people like you that makes people like my wife and myself that are going through these very difficult times with GUZ's decisions by not believing our love is true love and not a boni fide marriage and relationship bearable to some extent. I want to say to tsap seui a special thanks to you and your wife. I hope you and your wife are finally together somewhere and are still happy and in love with each other. I also thank you for all the information you provided me. I did take your advice. I keep myself very busy learning everything I can. So if my wife is fortunate enough to have another interview with GUZ, hopefully we will be ready for anything that comes our way. I did contact my Senator and to my surprise he acted quickly on this matter for me. I faxed him 13 pages on the brief history of my wifes ordeal in GUZ. We have nothing to hide and I mean nothing. I told him everything. Even the way that my wife was mistreated at GUZ. The Senator did contact GUZ. He also sent me the reply GUZ sent him. It said my wife did not provide proof of a boni fide relationship are marriage at her interviews. Which is totally BS. My wife was never given an opportunity too. She had 17 lbs. of documents for anything the VO might have wanted to know. I know this because this is the documents and information that I prepared for my wife. She had everything I sent to her translated from English to Chinese so she could completely understood everything and all the documents. My wife is a very smart woman. Now my Senator has given me access to his immigration office and his middle office is doing a wonderful job providing me with information. They seem really sincere in helping me. I do not know actually what they can are can not do to help me, but it makes my wife and myself happy for the time being. As the wait continues from days to weeks to months. My wife is such a trooper. She tell me no matter what happens she will never give up on her American husband. She also told me we will be together one way are another, even if it means me selling everything and moving to China to live together. I really like China and the people, so this want be a problem for me, if this is what I have to do to be with my sole mate. We love each other very much and like tsap seui said, all this has made us a lot closer and we have really got to know each other a lot more. The more I learn about my wife the more I want to learn and the more I love her for who she is as a person and not just as my beautiful wife. I also don't want our horror story to frighten anyone. But hopefully to really open everyone's eyes that has to go through GUZ. This can and unfortunately will happen to someone else. Do your home work and be as prepared as you can and even this may not be enough for GUZ. Tsap seui if you happen to read this. I would really like to email you and share information together. Your horror story really hit home with my wife and me. Hopefully you have your wife in your arms and are living your lives to the fullest. Thank you again for everything you provided me. Gary & Xie

Hi everybody. I want to take a few moments of your time to bring everyone up to speed on everything that has transpired since my last plead for your help with my 20 year old Chinese step daughters situation. I have enrolled my daughter into an English school in Nanning China where she is excelling. I am so proud of her. On September 08-14-2010 my wife received her packet from Guangzhou. On September 1st 2010 at 7:15am my wife had her first interview in Guangzhou where she was ask 4 questions. These are the questions they ask her. Where is your husband?Why has your husband only been to China to see you just one time for only 62 days sense you got married?How did you meet your husband?How do you and your husband communicate with each other? My wife answered all these questions very good and she was always very polite to the VO. She was given a blue slip of paper requesting more information and said our love and marriage was not a bona fide love and marriage, which is totally BS. My wife and I were devastated by these results. My wife cried for a solid week until she was sick. I did my best to comfort her by telling her that we can fix this little problem and that it was just a little bump in our road of love. We gather up all the information they requested and a lot more and she turned it into the Consulate Guangzhou on September 17th 2010. I sent everything they requested from me to my wife by DHL the fastest way possible. Just as soon as the NVC had sent the case files to Guangzhou 05-14-2010. I sent my wife a copy of everything, the kitchen sink all 17lbs. My wife was so surprised of how much information she had setting in front of her. She got some help and started learning and studying all this information I sent to her. My wife probably knows more about all her immigration documents then I do now. On 10- 29-2010 my wife received a letter from the consulate in Guangzhou for a second interview any Monday thru Wednesday between the hours of 1:30pm to 3:00pm. I thought this was strange. This is how my wife’s second interview went. My wife approached the VO and said good morning. She works in public relations so I do know how polite she is always. The VO never acknowledges her so she thought to VO never heard her so she said good morning again in English and was ignored once again. I thought this was very rude of the VO. The VO started reading some documents and NEVER asks her ANY questions at all. The only thing the VO said to my wife was for her to go to window No 30 to get the results. These are my wife’s exact words to the VO. How could you let my lonely husband live in America alone, for no body care. My wife insisted that he tell her why she was denied and received this white slip of paper. Now she was angry and she was screaming I love my American husband and how can you do this to us. Then it got ugly the VO ask security to take my wife away. She did go but not before saying what she wanted to say so everyone could here. I know her actions were not acceptable in the Consulate, but any one of us who love our wife like I do would have done exactly the samething if this happened to one of us. I am trying to find away for her to send a letter of apology to the Consulate, or is this something that needs to be done? My wife is probably not the first Chinese woman to loose her cool over a white denial slip. My question to everyone of you is there any way to overcome this white slip 221(g) not a bona fide relationship which is BS? I have already called DOS the NVC, and USCIS. I was told there is nothing I can do until the case files are sent back to the CIS. Is there anyway the case files can stay at Guangzhou and this problem be solved with out sending the case back to CIS for review and possibly termination of the case? I was told by DOS that it could take up to 120 days for Guangzhou to just send the case to the CIS, which is also BS. No one cares if our wives and husbands have to wait all this time and be separated from the ones we love. My wife and I have no intention of defrauding anyone for any reason. We don’t expect anything for nothing. We try our best to do everything the right way the first time. I am still devastated by Guangzhou actions. Now I am mad and want to do something so my wife and I can be together in the States. If anyone has any suggestion please feel free to give me your help or opinion. To my wife and me it may be possibly another 6 months to a year of separation. I was told by DOS that once the case files are reviewed by CIS that they will notified me by mail of the exact reason for my wife’s denial. The CIS will give me a chance to try and prove that our love and marriage is true love and a bona fide relationship. Is this information correct that DOS told me? Or is this BS too? I have got to the point where the only ones I truly believe in any more are the good people on these forms. So please if anyone knows what I need to do now please feel free to tell me. If anyone needs or wants to discuss my situation with me just ask for my email address and I will gladly give it to you. I love my wife with all my heart and she loves me back with the same enthusiasm are even more if that is possible. Thank you for taking the time to read my plea for your help once again. Gary.