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Hi i am new to this site, My wife and i sent P3 on 11-23-2006 to GZ, and still as of today (2-12-2007) no P4 yet. I have seen other couple state times of 1 to 2.5 months from P3 to P4. Does anyone out there have any idea how long it takes from the time you send P3 to GZ to the time you recieve P4? My wife is 5 months pregnant and i can't wait for her to arrive in the US.
ThankX
Try calling the Department of State (DOS) 202-663-1225. When you begin to get the menu options, press 1 to bypass to the final set of options. You will finally be asked if you want to speak with a visa specialist. Press the option that they ask for the specialist. Make sure you have your case # handy (GUZ-whatever). Explain you situation. It GZ has updated your case, they will let you know the status. Best of luck.
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The most important thing is that I will finally be with my lovely wife again !!
I'll be in Guangzhou for valentines day hopefully we will be celebrating a successful interview then Chongqing for CNY
Hong Kong Market here in Houston was handing out pamphlets with a complete list of activities for CNY. I guess I'll have to wait until next year to spend CNY with my SO
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I stated that I tend to be stubborn and hold my position.
What, an American who is stubborn??? Never happen!!!!
At least not in Texas or New York.
A few months back, my SO and I got into an exchange regarding preparation of documents for her P3. I held firm until she sent me an email saying "You are like a child" along with a Smily Face wagging its tongue out at me. My heart just melted and I decided not to pursue my arguement any further. What can I say. I guess I am not as stubborn a New Yorker as I thought.
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They schedule appointment very shortly after receiving the P3 package back.
My fiancee sent the forms back and it took about a month to receive them back into GUZ, then interview scheduled for about 6 weeks later.
See my timeline at the bottom of my post.
Thanks! At this point I think we are looking at P4 end of Feb and interview sometime in April
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My SO mailed her P3 on Jan 17th. I know it's a bit early but I was hoping that GZ would have already scheduled my SO's appointment. I called DOS and was told that GZ had not posted an update to our case. I must say that the gal at DOS was very helpful and polite. Anyone have a feel for how long it normally takes for GZ to schedule the appointment once they receive the P3 package?
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My SO is Yang Bo. Bo is pronounced - Boa. I always thought her Chinese name to be beautiful.If it were my decision, I would have her keep her name as is, however she prefers to be called Betty. I don't know if she will legally change it once we get married. The decison is hers to make and I will support her decison.
My wife still uses her Chinese name (Yan). However, she is still looking to find an American name.
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http://www.boston.com/news/local/massachus...orge/?page=full
"A Globe review of 1,000 recent name changes filed at the US District Court in Boston found the desire to adopt American names was especially common among Asians, whose given names have pronunciations that can confound Americans."
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Does your SO ever start talking to you in Chinese intentionly, knowing you can't understand a word she/he is saying?
Mine does!!!
Now I have a comeback for her, "don't use that tone of jibberish with me"
No problem for me. I will simply start answering her in Spanish and see how she likes it.
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I think I see where I've been doing something wrong.
You mean when she goes off you guys don't tell her to shut up her bitchin'? The way it works in our house, she goes off on some little thing that don't mean nothing. Then I tell her to put a sock in it and get a grip. Then she gets pissed at me cause I'm pissed at her. Some days later, one of us gets horny and then it's all over.
the get horny part will do the trick every time
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I think I see where I've been doing something wrong.
You mean when she goes off you guys don't tell her to shut up her bitchin'? The way it works in our house, she goes off on some little thing that don't mean nothing. Then I tell her to put a sock in it and get a grip. Then she gets pissed at me cause I'm pissed at her. Some days later, one of us gets horny and then it's all over.
Verrrrrrrrry funny
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Your point is well taken
You have heard that “Long Distance Romances Don’t Work.” Well, here is a site that proves that statement wrong. Although one of the most difficult parts of your relationship will be the waiting and getting to know each other prior to her arrival, there will be a lot of conflicts and “misunderstandings” during this period. Its called the “SOFT ZONE”, because both of you are still in your own environments and feel comfortable no matter what is said.
Even after she gets here you will have a lot of misunderstandings and conflicts. The one thing to remember is that when she is here, she is by herself (no relatives in the USA) and sometimes she will be defending her own actions because she has no idea how to do things here like she did in China.
Let’s keep things in perspective, we may not like what the other person does (actions) but we still love the other person in our hearts – no matter what. Right?
With that all said and done, my experience in the beginnings with my wife was also a lot of “misunderstandings”, mostly not understanding each other, i.e. language barrier, mood swings, etc.. It wasn’t like I would say one thing and she would say another. No, No, No, that was in my previous life with my ex when I would say HOT and she would say COLD. What I mean is your wife/girlfriend may not understand each other. You both are in “training” trying to learn each other’s culture, lives, experiences, food, etc., etc..
Like Lee said in his post, it’s easier to say “I don’t understand” than to not talk at all.
Which reminds me of the old saying “You can catch a lot more flies with sugar water than you can vinegar”. – Try it!
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Dennis 143 That was a great post and more inline with what I was looking for when I posted the question. I stated that I tend to be stubborn and hold my position. Differences in culture is a big factor, and I think that what you did in order to get you wife back is a great think.
Although just two responses, both are very good answers. I wish I had read them two week ago, because a week ago Monday I come home, Leiqin is cranky.
She isn't in her normal running, lao gong, lao gong self. PMS maybe? PMS undoubtably. Anyway, she seldom complains. But, that night she's doesn't like this and doesn't like that. I offer to bring the laundry in and I set the basket on the kitchen table and she goes off on me. I am tired of hearing all these complaints and tell her so and, in the midst of my telling her to stop complaining, I see THAT look on her face. I know THAT look now. It means she's going to go into the silent mode for a while and there will be little I can do to change it. I will just have to wait it out. Although very seldom, when this does happen, I am always the one to come to her say I am sorry and try to get her to melt a bit. Well, this time I am just going to wait it out. She will see how it feels to have someone who won't talk to her. I will teach her a lesson. My ex would use this passive-aggressive technique on me by withholding affection as punishment, so I am keenly aware of what she is doing and I will prove that this method won't work.
Two days, three days, four days and counting. Neither seems to be budging. I have decided that I would rather live alone than with a crabby woman.
But, then I do a gut check and realize that she is all I want, all I need in life. That, with our language barrier, she is as frustrated as I am. I have got to put an end to this, NOW! She's at work. I call her and tell her that we must stop this. That I need her back in my life and that I am sorry for whatever I did to make her feel this way. I drive to her work to bring her home. I get out of the car and wait, wondering how she will be. When she sees me she starts running to me with outstretched arms, doing her little side-to-side dance saying "lao gong, lao gong" and I know I have my wife back.
You cannot have growth, without conflict. And, with each quarral we have, we learn a little bit more about each other. We both know that we can both pout, put on the silent treatment, be cranky, say something wrong or not speak at all and we still will be married. We will still be a couple. We'll still continue to love each other no matter what. That is what I call commitment.
Even after four days apart, angry and pouting, we will pick up and continue on, without scars and without hurt, as if nothing ever happened...
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I worked as an International Marketing Manager for a major Van Line and conducted workshops several times a year for our agents. We would discuss overseas assignments and issues concerning the "trailing spouse". When one first arrives, there is a period when everything is new and exciting. Almost as if one is on vacation. After a period of time, the person comes to the realization that this is not a vacation but a permanent situation. This is the time when your SO might start becoming a bit depessed. This is followed by a period of adjustment. There have been some good suggestions posted here, such as ESL classes and networking with other CFL members, etc which will help with her adjustment. Obviously, your support and understanding will play a major role. Good luck!
I have this weird feeling about extracting my future wife from China to the USA.
In my time in shenzhen I was so impressed how civil and safe it was for the chinese people there.Even though these people are under stress for the most part(and have some governmental issues). Overcrowding,smog,traffic,work long hours, tons of people,beggars,bad water, you still seem to be able to walk around in the middle of the night and see people ball room dancing at the park and her little neice talking running around loose and nobody is scared for her safety and they are very comfortable being social and not as isolated or aloof like americans.
Even when she was barqueing with the taxi driver or vendor I just had the feeling that she fit so seemlessly in that culture. Like just another goldfish in a huge goldfish bowl. Like that is where God meant her to be. She is also so close to her sisters faimly and her own parents. I think her parents want her to get married as much as she does. She is 35 so she can make her own decisions and I have gone to great lengths to explain the reality of the USA and all of its many faults. Still it bothers me most of all. I live slightly in the counry outside a major city without many chinese people. I have been trying to come up with a plan to socialize her when she is here.
I feel like I'm adopting a child in a way rather than marrying a wife because she is so dependent on me for lanquage and culture(as I was on her when I was in China).
I would like to hear other peoples concerns and any chinese spouses opinions on how they dealt with the change
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I guess my question is, "What are the classics and love stories"?
I wanted to start picking up some DVD's that Nicole might enjoy and that would be comforting to her.
Great minds think alike! I was thinking about taking some DVD's to China next March or April
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My SO is still in China, but I was thinking about when we have our first difference or first little spat. Can I expect the silent treatment? I can be pretty stubborn sometimes.
Do flowers work or maybey chocolates or maybe crawling on hands and knees? 
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You guys are right! I spoke with my SO last night and she feels more comfortable with my going go GZ during the week of her interview. I can attend the ACH and we can review paperwork and questions which she may be asked. I feel so much better now.
It's getting close and I just want to be with my lady again 
I would guess that somewhere around 50% of Candle members were in Guangzhou for the interview. Of that number, less than 5% made it to the ACH.
1 visit is necessary for filing the I-129F. More visits help prove the ongoing relationship. A trip during the interview can help even more, and a visit to the ACH has been reported to generate good comments in your file.
It is up to you and your personal situation as to whether you should be there for the interview or not. There are many of us who did not make it for one reason or another.
You may wish to save your vacation time for when she arrives, or you might decide to be there with her.
Thanks! I guess I am trying to decide if it is more advantageous to go before my SO's interview vs during the week of her interview.
I made two trips, the second was for the interview, and I did attend ACH. This all led to fours questions only for Loving Candle, one of which was "is your boyfriend still here?". I do feel that going for the interview and ACH makes a very good impression.
Remember that confidence during the interview makes a BIG difference for your SO and being there for here will really boost her confidence.
-James and Loving Candle
Yeap with what he said!!!
Bobby....
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I would guess that somewhere around 50% of Candle members were in Guangzhou for the interview. Of that number, less than 5% made it to the ACH.
1 visit is necessary for filing the I-129F. More visits help prove the ongoing relationship. A trip during the interview can help even more, and a visit to the ACH has been reported to generate good comments in your file.
It is up to you and your personal situation as to whether you should be there for the interview or not. There are many of us who did not make it for one reason or another.
You may wish to save your vacation time for when she arrives, or you might decide to be there with her.
Thanks! I guess I am trying to decide if it is more advantageous to go before my SO's interview vs during the week of her interview.
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My SO and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We met physically last April for the first and only time. I am getting the feeling that I need to make another trip so that it will look better when my SO goes for her interview. While there, I think it would be a good idea if I attend the ACH in Guangzhou. Since my SO does not have her interview date as yet, I am trying to decide if I should go before her interview or if it would be best to go during the week of her interview. Anyone have thoughts on this?????????
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That's a great photo
That must be the case, my SO has 2It's actually a secret Chinese gesture that, loosely translated means ... "I've hooked my self a laowei!"
Hey, you beat me to the punch line Jim !! LOL
I was going to say: Yes, it is a V for victory !!! I have captured my American man, and he is mine !!!
behind my head in that picture.
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I noticed in many of the photos that my SO and I toke together that she would often flash the "V" sign. I also noticed photos of other Chinese ladies where they would flash the same sign. I always thought that it was "V" for victory. Does it have another significance in China?
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You better hope that our interview dates don't fall on April 1st and our respective SO's don't decide to play some cruel April fools joke on us
Best of luck to you. My SO andI agree that she will have her interview some time toward the latter part of March. What do you think?
We're two days in front of you on the P3. It'll be interesting to see how our P4's from GZ compare. Maybe we'll both be in GZ at the same time for our interviews.
I would love it if we were lucky enough to get a fast turnaround and be scheduled for the 2nd half of February as I will already be in China. But I agree, it looks like late March is more likely. Hey, my b'day is April 4. That would be the best b'day ever if it hit that date.
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Best of luck to you. My SO andI agree that she will have her interview some time toward the latter part of March. What do you think?
We're two days in front of you on the P3. It'll be interesting to see how our P4's from GZ compare. Maybe we'll both be in GZ at the same time for our interviews.
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Hi! Am basing package received in GZ based on my conversation with my SO. She says she received a call from GZ advising her that they were in receipt of our Package and they wanted to confirm her address in Chinese so that they could mail out the P3. Last night I spoke with her and she confirmed receipt of P3 and that she was in the process of mailing it out the same day.
http://www.userfriendlyonline.com/pics/congarat.gif
only ONE WEEK after your packet was received at GZ?!?!?!?!?!?!?
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Wow! I can hardly believe it. Just got off the phone with my SO. She received P3 today and is mailing it back today. Getting closer.
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My SO is also from Hubei Province. I guess we will have plenty of Chinese food (yummy), western food and Tex Mex. I am Latino, my parents having been born in Puerto Rico. Puerto Rican food is quite differenct from Tex Mex or Mexican Food. Will be interesting to see how she reacts to white rice with red kidney beans or Mogongo con carne frita etc. I'm really looking forward to the whole experience.
Wow! That is quite a list of heart healthy western cuisine
My SO is from Wuhan. Maybe it was my lame discription of cheese which she was unable to understan. I tried the McDonalds approach but it did not seem to work. Another member gave me the Chinese word for cheese, so I think I will try again tonight 
While I was in China my SO and I ate some very fine Chinese food. I remember before we parted company, we had lunch and she stated that she was a very good cook. My hotel had a restaurant which served western style food, but she did not seem interested in trying it out.
I know that when she arrives, my diet will consists mainly of Chinese food and to be honest it will probaby be healthier than some of the crap that I am eating now. What have been some of the experiences of members with trying to get their SO's to eat western food?
Side note: I had read somewhere that Cheese was not part of the diet in China. I tried to describe cheese to my SO the other day during a phone conversation. I had a real tough time and finally gave up
SO and me trade-off very much in this matter.She cooks as good as ANY resturuant in China,and would actually rather cook here at home than go to a resturuant.She LOVES hotdogs,Twix candy bars (ofcourse she quite due to "inflating"),Cheeze-Its,Sweet Lebanon Bologna sandwiches,Grape soda,Taco Bell,my home made chile and BBQ chicken,cole slaw,tossed salads,Cheetoes Cheese Puffs,many other "fat western foods".She does know what to indulge in and what not too.She came here w/ an open mind and I try to let her try everything as I did when I was in China for awhile.We both think it's very cool "trading off" our cultures and cuisines.
My fiancee is also from Hubei Province and she is very anxious to try Texas cuisine. She some how managed to find a few American cook books that are written in Chinese and asks me if such and such dish is available in Texas. She is certainly game to try western foods and wants to learn how to prepare some of them. She does like American style cheese as I brought some with me the last time I was back. I'm sure we will visit the Asian markets as well as HEB, Central Market, Whole Foods and other here in the Houston - Austin - San Antonio area. I think our kitchen will be a blend of international cuisines as I like to cook a variety of international foods and so does she. Now I just gotta find the Chinese word for menudo and barbacoa.
As aye,
Jim
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Although my SO and I might experience a bit of a delay receiving the P4, we hope that she will have her appointment scheduled sometime in April. I plan to be in GZ when she interviews. Does anyone have an idea of the weather in April. What is the average temperature and what type of clothing should one take?