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  1. My wife has been here for a little over a year now. All she makes is other chinese friends. Even though their english is perfect, she just wants to talk in chinese to them and they speak chinese to her, she doesn't even try to improve her english. She always wants me to go with her so I'm stuck with a bunch of people that don't want to speak english, then my wife gets mad at me 'cuz I don't look happy.

     

    I have been trying to improve my chinese for the last 2 years, and even went to college for one semester. But when I try to speak chinese to her, she gets mad at me, complaining that she needs to learn english and asks why am I trying to learn chinese and flat-out refuses to teach me anything.

     

    So, my question to you is: what do you do in a group of people that only want to speak chinese, you can not add to the conversation, you can't comment on anything they say. Do you just sit there and wait for the evening to end? Or do you just let her go on her own and let her do her own thing while you stay at home?

     

    Any help would be great,

     

    Thanks

  2. I have an appointment next week with a caseworker regarding the free training MI is willing to pay for my schooling. I will know more about this then but I am still leaning towards driving the big rig.

     

    We have talked a lot about after I drive for awhile and the company allows passengers, she would love to come and see the county (albeit from hi-ways only).

  3. Moving is easier said then done. I do have the advantage that I don't own a home but I did sign a lease for 1 year.

     

    Unless I lie on a job app, I can't get a simple job delivering pizza or flip'n burgers. The 152 job apps that I have filled out the last 2 months shows that it's a hard market here.

     

    MI has the highest unemployment rate right now so I have even sent my resume to different states and even drove to one 16 hours away for a job interview that was a no go.

     

    My next step is to drive an 18-wheeler. I know I will be away from home 2 weeks at a time, but ya gatta do what ya gatta do . . . .

  4. Here's a good question thou, if I am laid off, but my last years tax show more then the 125% would I still need a joint sponsor to resubmit?

    What if I ate food yesterday... can I just not eat today ?

     

    Yup, if you have been through a divorce like mine.

     

    But it was just a silly question. Just wondering not bother asking my mother if she could be a sponsor but she said it was okay.

     

    I make pretty good money, I just hit a hard spot now with the economy.

  5. I will be able to use my mother to do a joint sponsor but a little confused on the directions.


    In part 1, would she be the joint sponsor or e, the first joint sponsor


    Part 4, 19. asks for proof. Would her passport or drivers license work?


    Also a little confused about Part 5. She has her own residence so how should she answer that? If she answers 1 on a) then that brings the total to 2 on h), but she lives alone.


    Part 6, 24. does she check d) since I will be filing my (our) I-864 with her joint I-864?

    Thanks,

  6. you really, really, really, need a joint sponsor IMO.. or you risk losing the greencard. Your overall situation doesn't seem so good. You really need to evaluate what to do and then do what you can.

     

     

    Mmmm kind of sounds like I am screwed here then. This is why I wanted to wait till I go back to work, 'cuz when I file, it will look like I was never laid off. BUT she wants it as soon as she can so she can get out of the house and feel useful by even having a part time job.

     

    The problem is that I don't have anyone that would sponsor us. I don't have any friends that are close enough for something like that, my father passed away 4 years ago and my mother didn't like the idea of me getting married to an "non-american". I mean, she likes her, but still holds her doubts.

     

    But we have found a way to get the money to file for the AOS fee. She is selling her camera and all her equipment. Being a professional photographer she has some very nice lenses. It will be more then enough to cover the cost.

     

    I hate to be brutal here but based on this it seems you have problems on several fronts that are much bigger than paying the AOS fee.

     

    I know that there are a lot of problems, but sometimes it is better then being alone. Sometimes I feel that I am that battered woman you see on Cops, married to a drunk abusive husband that doesn't want to file any charges 'cuz she claims "i still love him'.

     

    She even told me that the money she is getting from selling the camera is enough to get a ticket back to china. But you know I still feel in my heart that we can work on this.

     

    I find it hard to believe that a man will wait in china for 10 years for a plan work out like that.

     

    There is a lot I look at what she did, said and how she acted when I was working. Yes, her whole attitude has changed since I was laid off but she won't admit it.

  7. you really, really, really, need a joint sponsor IMO.. or you risk losing the greencard. Your overall situation doesn't seem so good. You really need to evaluate what to do and then do what you can.

     

     

    Mmmm kind of sounds like I am screwed here then. This is why I wanted to wait till I go back to work, 'cuz when I file, it will look like I was never laid off. BUT she wants it as soon as she can so she can get out of the house and feel useful by even having a part time job.

     

    The problem is that I don't have anyone that would sponsor us. I don't have any friends that are close enough for something like that, my father passed away 4 years ago and my mother didn't like the idea of me getting married to an "non-american". I mean, she likes her, but still holds her doubts.

     

    But we have found a way to get the money to file for the AOS fee. She is selling her camera and all her equipment. Being a professional photographer she has some very nice lenses. It will be more then enough to cover the cost.

  8. Not really sure I understand and it really doesn't make sense. She wants the green card to go to work. Why would I need to prove I can support her if she is working.

     

     

     

    I-134 is for a NON-Immigrant. I-864 is for sponsoring an IMMIGRANT big difference.

     

    Yes "Unemployed" You will have to add assets to this to show that you have enough in liquid assets to provide support until immigrant can become a US Citizen (3 years based on marriage to US Citizen) so Assets need to be 3 times income.

     

    OR get a Joint Sponsor.

  9. When I was at the airport in Guangzhou, I met a man that was just returning home from a 2 year teaching job from Xi'an. I couldn't believe that they would even let him teach, he had a really bad stutter and a lisp.

     

     

    The BS/BA is/was a requirement for getting a work (Z-Visa) visa though. But the laws are always changing. When I left, I heard that they were only giving work visa's to teachers with a degree in Education or English. But again, that changes all the time... I was there 3 years and never had a work visa (but I came minutes from getting in trouble... The police came to the school asking for me... The school told me to stay home and told the police they had never heard of me).

     

    Actually, in Chengdu, it was my experience that you didn't even need to be an native English speaker. I knew lots of teachers from France, Holland, Israel, India, and other places. I think that if you look western (and the whiter, the better), you can get a job. Many of the European's that were teaching, had terrible English... I heard about this one guy from XinJiang that told a school he was Turkish (they really do look Turkish). He got a job, with a Foreign Teachers salary. After a month, they asked to see his passport. At that point, he had to leave, since he was actually Chinese.

  10. Like many people, her last name became her middle name since she didn't have one, but if I knew then what I know now, I would have NOT changed it.

     

     

     

    Yep, if she wants to take your name, then use married anme on form I-485, and G-325A, and on I-485 where it says "Name on I-94"use maiden name, and on G-325A where it says "Other names used" use maiden name.

     

    Ok, looks like we screwed up then. We were talking with an attorney and she advised us to list her married name under "Other names used"

     

    My wife does want to take my surname, but I'm guessing we'll have to wait until we get to the US and file the I-90 along with our marriage certificate. Is this correct? Stinks that I could of avoided spending the fees it will take to do this. ;)

    Possibly, I would first mention this to consulate before interview by email, or at interview.

     

    Other options are I-90 after entry to the USA, or if married less than 2 years upon entry, and you get a 2 year conditional care, you may be able to file to remove conditions using married name.

     

     

    Name change.. yet another hurdle. Wife wants to take my name, but from what i understand we need to use the name that is in her passport for the visa application, correct? so, we have already filled out and she has signed her G-325a with her current last name. We are hoping we want to change her last name once she arrives.. Any thoughts on this one?

  11. We received Li Hong's "Welcome To America" letter last night without an interview. She is now a permanent resident w/conditions.

    BTW, What are the conditions? Staying married to me? Ha! Ha! :P

     

    Total process time one year and one month. Now what will I worry about??? :o I must admit everything went like clock work.

     

    Thanks to everyone on CFL for their support and help. :o

     

     

    I see that it only took you 2 1/2 months from the time you filed AOS to getting your approval, I hope it goes this fast for me also.

     

    ! ! ! Congrats ! ! !

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