You can always hope that the "big one" hits and your ex is on the fault line. Hopefully they could get you the documentation you need sooner. 134779[/snapback] Yikes!! I'm not that angry! We've been married for 36 years. She just stopped listening maybe 15 years ago. Nothing I could do was enough. I hung in there until our youngest was ready for high school. I finally left because I couldn't face spending the rest of my life being unhappy. Two months after I said we were getting divorced I met my Yuqin ... July 9 2004. My life has really changed, suddenly I'm looking forward to the future, my stress is actually down, I feel better, I've lost a little weight, and I'm crazy in love. Yuqin and I watched Bambi a few months ago and now she understands what I mean when I say I'm twitterpated.