The more I read the sadder I become, knowing how difficult it is to be so far apart from our loved ones. I have to wonder if the officials that make this whole process so long and complicated; realize how many different kinds of trajedies can happen. After reading about Carls' stepson, I was reminded of our recent tradedy. One of the only post I had made, when I first joined, I announced that Ai Ye and I were expecting. She had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. It was very hard on the both of us. I will always wonder if it was caused by the stress of this whole ordeal. As I sit here, I can't help but wonder, how many more of us have had bad things happen. Many people are very private, and would not talk about such things. Maybe, the people in charge of thismess called immigrations, will come to their senses, and realize they are screwing with peoples lives. Maybe they will realize, many of us know the difference between terrorists, and good decent, kind loving people. I have twenty years of government service in. I know how stupid, and ignorant, the people that get promoted to lead positions can be. It is hard to find a higher up with good old common sense. Anyway, just wanted to let anyone else out there, that has suffered, know you are not alone. And appearntly, this is a good place to find answers, help, and support. Thanks for the great site. Ken