When we talk on the phone I say I Love You. She says "Thank You". Chinese girls are not like american girls,or are they? My beloved is not what I expected when I first went to China. She is assertive, strong willed and has a toungue like a razor. But on the other hand she is naive charming and the prettiest site I have ever seen. A far cry from the stereotypical submissive asian female,she is educated and motivate. When I first told my friends that I was going to China to meet a girl Id found on the web,Im sure they thought that Id lost my mind. I was raised in southern Kentucky,and had never been on a jet before. Here I was on my way to China. My dad asked me" If they bust a cap on you.do you want us to bring your body back to bury. He meant "If the communists shoot you. I went from living in rural Pulaski County to Guangzhou China and forever changed the way I think and live. It was a leap of faith,somthing that can be described in religous terms,but could also be described as the last desperate hope of a man who felt his back sweating against the wall. Im 38 years old and have never been anywhere or done anything more that shop the 127 yard sales. In the wake of the 9/11 attacks almost nobody was happy to get on an airplane. I thought to myself,It cant get any worse than the life I live now. I have this chance to get up and out. I get a thrill out of riding the edge and in some off key way I see myself as a pretty courages fellow. It was like being in a movie. I came over to Hong Kong on what we call a courier flight on October 31,2001.The plan was to come to Hong Kong and then take a train to Guanzhou east station. There she would meet me and show me a hotel. I arrived in HK late at night and stayed at the Hotel Concourse for the night and caught the high speed train to Guangzhou the next morning. I called her from the station and she came from work to meet me. I had to use the bathroom while waiting but nobody could understand what that was.I had just about lost control when she arrived. I later learned to say toilet. When she arrive I asked "Are you Lynn? She said yes. She was so small,I couldnt believe my eyes. I stood 12" taller and 205 pounds. She looked at me like a skyscraper. I thought Oh my God Ill squish this girl if Im not carefull. But My what a pretty thing she is. We were in a state of shock for a month. My first priority was to get out of the hotel" too expensive". She intoduced me to Ken,who wanted an english speaker to live with and practice english. Ken was very nice, but I was determined that we needed a place of our own. She said that is not the way the Chinese behave. And I had only brought $500 with me. We just didnt have the money. I started looking for a job. My first job was teaching english,and I borrowed 2,900 Yuan from Stephen who managed the training center. Lynn saw my determination and chipped in the remainder of the money and we got an apartment. It was the begginning of the adventure that will continue in marriage to the lady I love. An adventure in becoming,for both of us. Wei Nihou Joseph