frank1538 Posted October 6, 2004 Report Share Posted October 6, 2004 Maybe have her take contact Catholic Services in Portland. http://www.catholiccharitiesoregon.org/503...immigration.aspThanks Frank but she lives in Illinois, outside Chicago.Sorry about that. If she needs help in Chicago, there are several pro bono organizations that might be of assistance. For example, she might try http://www.lafchicago.org/ which is non profit. DaveR hit the nail on the head about important financial documents and papers, but it sounds like she is in the dark about it all. This will certainly complicate things. Link to comment
yave20b Posted October 6, 2004 Report Share Posted October 6, 2004 She really is in need of some sort of legal advice for sure, especially since she is from another country. Its a terrible position to be in... her husband just died, she's in a foreign country and not sure about the complex legal issues, she has children to worry about, she no doubt financial things to worry about, and her legal papers locked up in a bank someplace and out of easy reach apparently too. How much worse can it get for someone? Man I hope she has some close friends there to help her through all this. I hate to hear these kinds of stories. Link to comment
warpedbored Posted October 7, 2004 Author Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 Bing talked to her today and she has found an atorney. Some people from her church helped her find one. The whole thing is a mess. His body is still in Ohio where he died and she has no car, drivers licence and she lives far enough from the city that there is no bus service. I told Bing to tell her when she gets her affairs in order she is welcome to come here and stay with us. She has no idea whether or not there is a will or any life insurance. This is definitely a wake up call for me to get my own affairs in order should something happen to me. I could not bear for Bing to be in this predicament. Link to comment
NY-Viking Posted October 7, 2004 Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 This is definitely a wake up call for me to get my own affairs in order should something happen to me. I could not bear for Bing to be in this predicament.Good advice for all of us. Link to comment
Alex Posted October 7, 2004 Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 My condolences and prayer for the family...this is so sad. Link to comment
mtbdude Posted October 7, 2004 Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 Preparation is vital to insuring your loved ones continued well being.This is definitely a wake up call for me to get my own affairs in order should something happen to me. I could not bear for Bing to be in this predicament. you got that right dave and carl. i was almost killed in a car accident on 3-11-03. i literally got snatched from the jaws of death. because of my own neglect, my hateful ex was still the beneficiary on my life insurance, 401(k), and named in my will to get everything else. i don't mind dying if i have to, nothing is guaranteed for any of us; but the afterlife would have really sucked if the ex had gotten everything and yan zi got nothing. one of the first things i did when i got home and got functional again was take care of that paperwork. i have learned that death is not something easily discussed in the chinese culture, though. when i sent yan zi a copy of my updated documents and explained what i was doing, she told me i "should not talk badly" about myself, and really just did not want to talk about any of this stuff at all. my heartfelt condolences to that poor woman and everyone else who knew him. very sad Link to comment
frank1538 Posted October 7, 2004 Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 i don't mind dying if i have toNo ifs ands or buts about it. You have to sooner or later. Sorry, couldn't resist, and I don't mean to take anything away from you excellent post. Link to comment
Widowof2 Posted October 7, 2004 Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 My deepest condolence and prayers for the wife and family on this sad moment. Eddy Link to comment
mtbdude Posted October 7, 2004 Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 No ifs ands or buts about it. You have to sooner or later. and the point is that when it happens, i want my woman to be well taken care of. it still gives me the shivers to think about it -- not almost dying, i can handle that -- but almost leaving her with nothing. Link to comment
keelec Posted October 7, 2004 Report Share Posted October 7, 2004 Sorry to hear about all of this. Ok, he probably has a safe-deposit-box somewhere. Or, he has everything in an office desk in the house. Did he update his will? Does he have a life insurance policy? Who is the beneficiary? Keep in mind, even if the wife is not specifically listed in the will, she may still have certain rights granted by the state. She may be elegible to money that was earned while they were married. She may also be able to keep his house even if not specifically listed in the will. Or, part of his social security / retirement funds. She should find a good lawyer. Are his parents still around and able to help? How old are the children? Can they help with legal issues? She should not take every thing for "face value". It is possible that a judge would even overturn a will if it is obviously outdated. My warm thoughts are with her,---- Clifford ---- Link to comment
Guest enight Posted October 8, 2004 Report Share Posted October 8, 2004 true true... it is a sad accident, but it reminds me to prepare a will to let hubby gets everything I have if I died earlier than him. ... I don't want to die! ... I haven't tried everything in the States yet! http://www.wowpicture.com/image_face_icon/evil.gif Link to comment
resp Posted October 8, 2004 Report Share Posted October 8, 2004 Our deepest condolence to her CarlEveryone has given very sound advise we hope it all works out for her and the kids.Terrence & Linda Link to comment
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