how much to give to the girl's parents?

[Guest jin979]

my family would not ask western man for this as your are not chinese.

[Dennis143]

Isay give them everything you own.

[Dennis143]

I say give them everything you own.

:)

[Guest ShaQuaNew]

Isay give them everything you own.

 

Honestly, this is exactly what you should do; certainly opening yourself up to help when you can, and receive it also. Marrying into a Chinese family actually makes you a REAL part of the family. If there is some expectation that you should give money to the family, just talk it over with your wife or partner.

[humblestudent]

my family would not ask western man for this as your are not chinese.

 

 

Actually, i am chinese-american. Growing up in the San Francisco/Bay Area, I'm not aware of all the traditional mainland customs.

 

But this money is not the bride price, it's gratitude for her parents raising her all these years.

[Urkidding]

my wife's family had to pay me!!!!

 

 

and I'm still waiting for payment....

 

 

 

10 years later....

[TootTaLu]

hi,

 

I've talked to a few people regarding how much is a good amount to give the girl's parents as gratitude for raising her all these years, and everyone gives a different answer.

 

Oringally, i thought 20,000RMB would be a good amount, but since I'll be taking their daughter from Shanghai, is 40-50,000RMB too little? It's a touchy subject and I thought I'd seek advice from the wise folks on this board. If I give too little, I dont want to feel like I'm disrespecting them, and if I give too much, I'll be hurting to pay the bills.

 

Thanks in advance for your help,

Don

I have also heard the 20,000rmb figure.

My wife was previously married and divorced,so I dont think her parents gave the money back to her ex when they got divorced.