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I gave up trying to help my wife go to China. I do not know where to take he for the test to get on a plane. WeChat does not help to find out where to go.
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Thank you. My original post was on a different email. Wife is Chinese citizen. Our communication is still bad. So today she says she knows about the we chat green code. I call it green code. She says her Chinese WeChat is an American Chinese program and does not have it. Since the 48 hour timeframe and we live in Tennessee I have no idea where to get tested. The health department has not heard of it. I found that strange as a lot of people travel. I thought if I asked here someone may know where to go in New York. She will most likely go through NY. I thought it would be easy to ask wife for friends NY phone or WeChat. Nope will not let me talk to anyone. She lost all her id and bank info and made friends in NY and Washington DC while I struggle to figure out where to go. Thanks for the replies. Now I know she needs different WeChat. Where to go and the process to get on a plane is still a mystery. I am guessing it is a COVID test and they jam something up your nose.
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I need to find out how to test or where to get the green code. This looked like you could do some online?
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Looking for a bank I could put my retirement in to and withdraw money in China with no or low fee. I know bank of China has a couple of branches in New York. Any one with experience? And any cities in southern China with low smog and mosquito population?
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So we came back from China last week through Los Angeles. We had to wait for 16 hours to get our connecting flight. Any way, we get down to the re-entry point and it has completely changed from what it used to be. You now have to go to automated check-in stations. The machines read your passport/greencard, ask customs declaration questions and then spit out a picture with your information on it. I had to ask how to use the machine, because, you know, there were no instructions that were obvious. Or maybe I missed them, after the long flight it was pretty frustrating.
Now, of course this was supposedly done to make the process faster. However, after completing the task with the machine, you then go on to be interviewed by a customs and enforcement agent. They still ask the standard questions about your trip (purpose, etc.). They collect the information processed by the machine before you exit. They did not take the paper customs form and did not even ask the total dollar value of what we brought back. So I did not see where there was any benefit to the new setup.
Makes me want to stop traveling at times.
I just got back from my third trip to China a month ago. We went through New York JFK airport. Same machines you describe I do not remember before. Much harder for my wife. I think I used my passport and it printed a ticket out. I had to find someone to help my wife and she had to put her green card a specific way to get it to work. Her instructions were in Chinese so I had no clue. A lot of people had trouble and of course this made us get in longer lines and we were at the end. My best trip to China so far and after 3 weeks coffee and a hamburger sounded really good. Starbucks coffee was about 4 bucks a small cup. She wants to move there but I never could pinpoint anyone who could tell me what a house cost. Her sister lives in downtown Guangzhou and I think her tiny "house" on the sixth floor was in the range of $300k.
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That address is correct. That is what I was looking for in the beginning. But I was unable to make the appointment because of the Chinese. As it was pointed out to me because it is for Chinese people. My wife expects me to to most all things, it was a successful trip. We are on our way back for the 6 hour drive.
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That address is correct. That is what I was looking for in the beginning. But I was unable to make the appointment because of the Chinese. As it was pointed out to me because it is for Chinese people. My wife expects me to to most all things, it was a successful trip. We are on our way back for the 6 hour drive.
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No, ended up at the Washington DC visa office to replace her lost passport (she has no idea how she lost it). Last year she needed paperwork for her retirement. We went to New York for that. I kind of mixed those two together. DC visa office was tame compared to Chinese New York office. Now we wait for a month to see if they replace passport.
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It was not at the Chinese Embassy but at the visa office. I found this out after we got to DC. We had the paperwork so far but waiting for the interview now. Her passport was in her name in China but her green card and everything else is in her married name. 2 hours so far. New York Chinese embassy was a mad house and you had to wait in a line a block long to get in.
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Chrome browser auto translates pages, and that link looks like the booking site for the consulates and the embassy in DC.http://ppt.mfa.gov.cn/Both those links are in Chinese. I will have to have my wife look at them. I did email the link to the visa place you posted.
My wife and her friend were able to make an appointment to get another passport. This was an impossible task for me to do. I guess we will see how difficult it is.
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Chrome browser auto translates pages, and that link looks like the booking site for the consulates and the embassy in DC.Both those links are in Chinese. I will have to have my wife look at them. I did email the link to the visa place you posted.
That did help a little better than copy and paste. But when I got to location I will still need her help. Would be nice if they also had English but I expect there are a lot of other people that would like other languages there.
People who need Chinese passports are CHINESE - these pages are in Chinese ONLY for all the consulates.
I wish my wife was able to do a lot of things. She speaks and reads Chinese, I don't. I just got her to go online and search for things a few years ago. Now she uses my old ipad but still asks me questions I can not answer because I can not read the Chinese. I was thinking other people helping Chinese people get their passports may be in the same situation. She expects me to teach her English but since she can not remember what I teach her for 5 minutes I gave up.
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Chrome browser auto translates pages, and that link looks like the booking site for the consulates and the embassy in DC.Both those links are in Chinese. I will have to have my wife look at them. I did email the link to the visa place you posted.
That did help a little better than copy and paste. But when I got to location I will still need her help. Would be nice if they also had English but I expect there are a lot of other people that would like other languages there.
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A little looking around they mention a mobile booking system here: http://ppt.mfa.gov.cn this may be where can set an appointment.
Thank you. Since I can not read or speak Chinese I will have my wife look at them. I have not tried google translate but that is something I thought of when I was replying to you. I really appreciate the help!
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The site make absolutely no mention about needing to make an appointment, just visit and turn in an application. The site does make mention that they don't mail it out to you, but that you can have someone trusted pick it up, in this case you probably may use a visa service like Oasis Chinese Visa service to pick it up and send it to you if you are unable to revisit the embassy.
After I arrived at the embassy passport, can you send me back?
Embassies and consulates do not provide postal service. If necessary, you may entrust others to collect your passport on our behalf. Others do not need to receive a proxy, but need to submit the original documentary evidence. If evidence is lost, you need to come and collect it.
我到使馆办完护照后，你们能帮我寄回来吗？
使领馆不提供回邮服务。如有需要，你可自行委托他人代为到我馆领取你的护照。他人领取无需委托书，但需提交取证单原件。如取证单不慎遗失，你需本人前来领取。
Thank you. That is what I told her but she says she saw that you need an appointment. If I tell her something it is not true. If her friend tells her something it is true for sure. I found another place online that will pick up the passport for a fee but I am going to check the place you posted a link to also. When we went to New York to get paper work for her retirement the line was way down the block so I am more prepared to go and wait to get in. I expect it will be very cold there. It would be nice if they had posted a valid email and had the funds to answer you. When I get off work I am going to try and compare the web sites with her and see if what she sees in Chinese they have it in English on the English version.
Both those links are in Chinese. I will have to have my wife look at them. I did email the link to the visa place you posted.
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The site make absolutely no mention about needing to make an appointment, just visit and turn in an application. The site does make mention that they don't mail it out to you, but that you can have someone trusted pick it up, in this case you probably may use a visa service like Oasis Chinese Visa service to pick it up and send it to you if you are unable to revisit the embassy.
After I arrived at the embassy passport, can you send me back?
Embassies and consulates do not provide postal service. If necessary, you may entrust others to collect your passport on our behalf. Others do not need to receive a proxy, but need to submit the original documentary evidence. If evidence is lost, you need to come and collect it.
我到使馆办完护照后，你们能帮我寄回来吗？
使领馆不提供回邮服务。如有需要，你可自行委托他人代为到我馆领取你的护照。他人领取无需委托书，但需提交取证单原件。如取证单不慎遗失，你需本人前来领取。
Thank you. That is what I told her but she says she saw that you need an appointment. If I tell her something it is not true. If her friend tells her something it is true for sure. I found another place online that will pick up the passport for a fee but I am going to check the place you posted a link to also. When we went to New York to get paper work for her retirement the line was way down the block so I am more prepared to go and wait to get in. I expect it will be very cold there. It would be nice if they had posted a valid email and had the funds to answer you. When I get off work I am going to try and compare the web sites with her and see if what she sees in Chinese they have it in English on the English version.
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Hi, has anyone gone to the Washington DC Embassy to replace a passport? I need to know if we need an appointment. I plan on leaving in 3 days so it would be helpful if I knew. Wife lost chinese passport and she needs a replacement. I do not see anywhere where we need an appointment. She said she saw it on the Chinese website. We have a copy of the passport that is certified when she applied for the two year green card. I know we need passport photos and I downloaded a form she is having a hard time filling out and is going to get her friend to help her. I tried to emal the embassy and already got a reply their email server rejected the email. Last time I tried calling an embassy I only got busy signals or voicemail no one ever replied to. The passport services I tried online only deal with US passports.
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Thanks for the replies on what to feed the turtle. I was hoping someone would reply. Tried apples, worm, meat, vegetables, banana and I am not sure what else. She tells me not to worry about it. She thinks the turtle eats grass. She puts it in the backyard and brings it in at night. She has only had it for about 3 or more weeks.
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My wife thought it could swim and put it in some water and it drowned. I tried to tell her but it is like talking to a brick wall.
This was a box turtle and it is against the law to mess with it.
Sounds like your wife needs a lesson in American culture. If she is anything like my wife then she will have to learn the hard way or not learn at all.
Where in China is she from?
Zhangjiang is how I think you spell it. Very hot, she saw snow for the first time in Tennessee.
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Cuzin tsap and Mike had some wisdom for you.Me? I have been thru the turtle experience.
What do they eat? As far as I know it has not eaten in weeks. I bought apples today because I saw a video of a turtle eating apples. She said it did not eat the apple. I think she tried meat last week. She was outside and saw the turtle and said it was fate that she saw the turtle. I guess maybe they are lucky or something. My luck has not changed since she got it. This one is fairly big, bigger than my hand by a ways. She has found small ones and was given a fairly big one once. She loves turtles but absolutely hates dogs and cats. I gave my small dog away to a friend because of the way she treated it when she first got here. She is afraid of big dogs and all cats. She swears she will give me dog to eat next time we go to china without telling me. She has done that with deer meat before and bought me worms to eat because of how I thought it was strange to eat worms.
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I'm no therapist Dan, but from what you are saying it sounds like your wife is very frustrated at the language gap you both have. It comes off as angry to your ears, but I'm sure she is just as frustrated with her own inability to express herself with the lack of English vocabulary.
We don't know your community or living conditions, or even the smaller details which sometimes matter quite a bit. Thus it is hard to blindly offer advice, but I'll give it a try.
If your wife is not working or maybe not having a drivers license, then she is most likely stuck home all day while your at work. Things aren't as easy for her as she thought it would be before leaving China to move here. Any friends she may talk to are also Chinese so there is zero chance to speak and practice English. Unless a person is in an environment where you can talk and lister constantly, they just aren't going to pick up any language. She will pick up some words from you just as you will from her, but that's it, basically young child simple words, certainaly not conversation talk.
If she was in China she could handle most anything that came up. Start a business, make appointments, doctors, buying a house, research something, etc... but here she is hamstrung and totally frustrated because of it. You my friend are the outlet of all the pent up emotions.
Has nothing to do with you being a great guy or provider. Has much more to do with her feeling of not being enabled and empowered.
By now you should know the things that make her comfortable and secure. Start off small and anticipate what she expects of/from you, and just do it. Don't do it because you are looking for a thank you or reciprocity. Do it because you know thst is what she was hoping/wanting you to do for her. It may suck, it may make no sense, maybe hard, but all that matters is your wife is looking for you to do it. Do it before she has to ask or tell you and at some point down the road you'll be the most proud husband because she will show you appreciation in her own way, that I can promise you.
Maybe you can find some ESL Chinese picture books cheap online. They are nice in that they show you everyday useful words and sentences, along with the pictures. Example: the food store, going to the bank or doctor, driving, etc. The important part is it is in English, Chinese, and Pinion, and they keep it easy. Also pick up a pocket English/Chinese dictionary, it's invaluable for the times when 1 word is hanging up what either of you are trying to say or understand.
Hang in there, it's worth it. Think how tough it would be for you if you were in her shoes, having up and moved to her city and living there. As hard as your trying and as frustrated and dejected you are feeling it's nothing compared to how she is feeling.
Best wishes,
Zai jian.
After coming back from a three day trip with her it is better. Really difficult at times. You are correct about a lot of stuff. She wants me to live in China for a while to see what it is like, and then laughs when she is talking about it. I think her having a job would help except she already quit two jobs she had. When she started yelling at me that I was supposed to help with this problem, that is when I posted here. I took her to New York and got the form. We took a long uncomfortable (but very cheap) bus ride there and back. I thought at 65 maybe I might be flying first class instead of on a bus (98% Chinese). After all of that and getting the correct paperwork standing outside in the cold wind and inside for over 3 hours, she informs me it is no big deal and she does not need the paperwork and will go to China next year to check in. Her latest is she found another turtle (forth one, I talked her into giving one away and the other two back to the park). She talks to it and brings it in the house at night in a box and covers it up and is constantly worried about it. I don't think the turtle is eating or drinking water but not much I can do or say to her. All I can say is I do try but it does not seem like anything changes.
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Dan, you don't need no stinkin' therapy. You need to meditate and chant.
In Australasia they call the wife SWMBO (she who must be obeyed).
I often sit crossed legged with the thumb and index finger of each hand together in a circle. I close my eyes amidst wisps of smoke from sage, saffron, and Mary Jane wafting throughout the room as I chant over and over again....She who must be obeyed...OMMM....She who must be obeyed...OMMM...She who must be obeyed...OMMM
When I get those awful uppity thoughts that I may actually be in control of my life...I just stop, find a place to meditate and chant. I am almost completely free of thoughts that I am in charge, and I've pretty much forgotten what it was like to own my own companies and be in charge of employees I find it is much easier to let SWMBO do the thinkin' for me.I also find I make much fewer mistakes when I do as I'm told, too. It is a win win once ya get used to it.
You can have a very happy life, man. Stop fighting the inevitable just let go and do as yer told, you'll be amazed at the newfound tranquility.
That was funny. I'll try it!
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At least I know now. Now I am thinking I need therapy to learn how to live with her. It seems to get worse each year instead of better. I am getting tired of her putting me down all day and telling me she is angry because I don't do what she says all day.
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Is there a way to insert a document here? The one she got is different. Since my Chinese is a big zero I don't know what it says.
Thank you everyone! We went to New York from Tennessee and got the paperwork at the Chinese consulate. When she starts yelling at me and tells me I need to do something and I have no idea what she is talking about you guys always help. If any one is going to do this, expect a block long line and every single person trying to go first not wanting to wait in line. After more than an hour outside it is more than an hour in another line then waiting for your number called then waiting for it to be notorized. I met four other couples doing the same thing. They did not ask for ID to get in, just go through a scanner. It took 3 hours or so. A lady told my wife she had 30 days to get the paper to China or she has to go though the process again. First time to New York and I will spare you guys detail of my trip so far and marital bliss.
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My wife is in Chongqing right now. She will be filing papers for retirement while she is there. She is not eligible to collect yet but she wanted to file so that she doesn't have to worry about new changes that might go into effect. She has said that she will need to report to a consulate every year here in the U.S. to show that she is still alive. That will mean in LA for us since it is closest.
I have explained several times about SS that she will be able to get along with her eligibility for half my pension when I die. Tried to convince her that should be more than adequate. But god bless her she just can't stand to leave any money on the table.
I think she probably will get enough each year for plane tickets to somewhere, so hey, it is all good.
Thanks for that! Wife kept putting off me buying airfare so now the price is too high. She says ticket prices go down the closer the date. I think she only flew once or twice before she met me. She wants to take a Chinese bus her friends told her about except they said they don't stop in my town when I called. Very typical trying to make a trip. She wants to make the call for any money spent. So what a hassle!
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A lot longer than 10 years. I have been married for 10 years. This website helped me a lot in the beginning. I stayed married because I got tired of the divorces. Big fight again. Over stuff I inherited before we got married.