finenn
-
Posts
162 -
Joined
-
Last visited
Content Type
Profiles
Forums
Calendar
Gallery
Posts posted by finenn
-
-
I have had the luxury of being able to compare my wife, Leiqin, to many Chinese women friends.
When they come to our home, they ALL comment on how clean our home is. And, Leiqin is always cleaning. Of course, being a stay-at-home wife, gives her plenty of time to clean. It's in her blood. This is how she was raised. And, not all Chinese women are clean freaks, believe me. There are many who just hate to clean. Now, as far as the FREAK thing goes, she never follows behind cleaning up after me. There is a scourging pad in our bathtub for me to use, if I should step in and leave mark. But, overall, she never complains. I suppose that's because I am fairly tidy myself.
Hot tempered? Leiqin is far from hot tempered. She is very even keeled and calm, mostly. Unless, I deserve her silent treatment. We have Chinese lady friends who are or can be hot tempered, however. Leiqin is the calmest and most patient woman I have been with. Where ex's were all very impatient, Leiqin will sit patiently without comment if she is ready to go and I need to finish playing my video game etc. Believe me, this is a welcome relief from the nagging, complaining.....nevermind....
Passive..."I follow you. You like, I like." She knows what she wants and has no fear of going after it, if need be. Again, she was raised to believe that a wife is to stay at home and care for the home. Period. She tells me that it is improper for her to leave to go visit girlfriends during the day, as that would take her away from her duties at home. I am changing this behavior and encourage her to get out and she does about once a week now.
Undieing loyalty. She would follow me to hell, if I wanted to go. I could do almost ANYTHING and she'd still be there by my side. I truly believe this. I will never test this, but it is the feeling and faith that I have in her that is important. Chinese women are not flirtatious and are very loyal, sometimes to a fault. Well, except for those who still have husbands in China and are keeping that a secret while they seek an American husband.
Very pratical. Most Chinese woman are.
I still believe that southern girls make the best wives and have the type of traditional values that are still taught. Things and times are changing quickly though. This is why I wanted a Guanxi woman in her 40's. I wasn't wrong.
Obviously, I got lucky.
Well la de freakin da.
-
-
I still believe *some* of it has to do with the GZ office becoming under scrutiny by either their own government or other governments, or any organization. You just can't churn out 100% first time pass thru visas without someone doubting the process is good enough to stop fraud and other things, like the office staff not doing their job. You must have some failure rates to report else you will have the higher-ups on your back.
It's just like the local cops in this town who set up speed traps and other sweeps at certain times of the month or quarters, just to make a quota or to meet other internal processes.
-
Maybe it's because since GZ is the only place in all of mainland China to get a K1 or K3 visa (least that's what I heard), it would put that little office in Guangzhou under a huge microscope if every single K1 and K3 passed with no problems.
-
As long as there's no information that others shouldn't see. Just display a status date? I thought by inquiry that meant more than a status report.
BTW Don some of those word to html exports don't render in all browsers readability wise. Also you may not want to overwrite the file each time since you may need to keep versions of previous postings for audit reasons of what you have posted to the public.
Database access risk is minimized thru many techniques like using read only views of the data and allowing only database level admins all other access.
-
-
Physically accessing the data could be a problem, but also it could be easily solved.
It's probably more along the lines of allowing access of potential sensitive data. Depending on what data you would like them to show you if it were available on the web, then you would have to have some security in place. If it's just a generic status message like the one on the BCIS site (I don't exactly remember the acronym), where you enter the GUZ number and you get back a status, that's different. Anyone can use that site and sit there and guess GUZ numbers and get back results, even though they are meaningless unless you know who belongs to that GUZ number.
But if you are displaying more than that, then first the transmission needs to be encrypted (SSL, they'd have to buy and maintain an SSL certificate, not to mention a web server with some web pages for this), and then you'd have to create user accounts and passwords to gain access to this data. I wouldn't leave it wide open for someone to enter a GUZ number and be able to look at someone's data, so you'd have to have password accounts. That means someone would have to create those each time they get a case, (or automate it, which takes code writing too), then allow the access from the site to the database. That part is easy once you get past the account creation, authentication and encryption hurdles.
All this costs money and would need some ongoing administration/maintenance as well.
I'd be interested in doing it.
-
Hmm. Now why didn't I think of that? I may just do that
-
I don't know guys I just called Dynasky, (after busy signals the past 2 days), and finally got hold of someone, you know she was real nice and everything but she was talking so quiet and was obviously NOT very good english speaker.
(You know that blows me the most when you call western union to send money and the guy speaks broken english, and you're trying to spell the receivers name cause if it's wrong it's so very hard to correct after they've sent the request thru. I make them spell it all back to me, but shouldn't have to man they should have understandable speakers!!!)
Dang it, and then yes firefox does not work but damn, it's not so freakin hard to at least throw up a message stating that we only support MSIE users and no one else. Jeez even I can do that, this here site was tested with IE (5+ and up), mozilla, firefox, and yes even Opera (which is still a bit buggy), and I would've tried mac IE but I don't have a mac to test with. Just a bit incompentent if you ask me after all, they are selling something so the expectation of a functional site is a lot higher than candle.
Just blowing steam feel better now. Is there no call service with service?? Is that so much to ask?
-
A business plan, capital, website, dedicated servers, advertising, however they use the physical lines, and most important,
CUSTOMER SERVICE!
did i say that loud enough?
-
That does it, if Don goes I go too!
-
Still down 9:25 AM 08/19/05 Pacific time
dang you onesuite!
-
Over the past several weeks I have received some good natured and not so good kidding around by friends and associates about being engaged to a Chinese Woman. Of course some of the questions are why????
I just ask why did you marry an american woman?
-
Can't believe they're still down, looks like I'll have to switch too, but I'm with zingaro, I use firefox and the site does work if you know where to go cause some links don't work, just buggy and not written for the masses.
-
Dang their still down @ 2:20 PM Pacific time
-
Hey I was in Zhanjiang--no one told me anything about this. You mean I could've been fined a bunch of money? For what? What if I don't have money? Frank are you saying you have to prove you're married? So there's a fine for being with a chinese girl in Zhanjiang if you're not married?
why no one asks why??Jingwen told me it's a throwback to the prostitution laws. A woman together with a man (not married) is assumed to be a prostitute.
Oh you mean blackmailed not fined.
I was told that in any city in china, an obvious foreigner with a chinese girl is a target for a scam. The hotel counter person is in on it. You check in, they wait until 3 am, then call police. They see you together, and if you do not have the "red book", to show you are married, you will pay. The police have the amount figured out already, and some goes to the counter person for the lead, and either you pay or she may get a ticket, which would not look good at visa time at the consulate, and they are betting on that.
So the register game may only help you if those cops aren't corrupt as well.
-
Hey I was in Zhanjiang--no one told me anything about this. You mean I could've been fined a bunch of money? For what? What if I don't have money? Frank are you saying you have to prove you're married? So there's a fine for being with a chinese girl in Zhanjiang if you're not married?
why no one asks why?? -
Trigg, I meant your avatar, signature, thingy, etc., just might be a lil scary.
well, for someone who dont know you, well I guess even for those who do 
-
-
-
Sure we could do times, well I'm going to get her on tonight (99% sure) and get her to post in the chinese forum, her candle name is wenxi, we'll see how it goes,
-
Ok well good time to get my wife on here on the chinese forum, and type english as well as chinese. Good idea Trigg, I'll try and make it happen. BTW, are you starting to use a spell checker or somethin?
Jeff
-
It wouldn't be that difficult to build a form for people to input this data to track timelines.
One problem is of course the data is entered wrong either by mistake or intentionally.
The milestones would first have to be agreed on for each type of visa, like "Received notice of Approval from BCIS in Nebraska", or "P4 received". All would have date values associated with it.
Then you'd have to get the members to fill it all in, as the timeline signatures are of little value and would be next to impossible to parse the meanings.
But after that, the reports or raw data dumps into say an excel sheet would be easy.
Anybody want to define the milestones and rally people to enter the info, I could build it with moderator approval.
Jeff
-
I've searched the board and found some topics, and I know I've read discussions on this before, but I need some help/clarification.
We would like to bring her Mother and possibly her Father too, to visit for 2 weeks. They live in China, we live in USA. She came here on a K1, and now has 2 year Conditional Status.
Well, around April of next year, we will be parents ourselves. We would like to bring at least her mother here for 2 weeks, even if it's after April, (likely at the rate things go). However, the reason for wanting her to come is a good one I think, for a visa.
But, if I remember correctly, some people had difficulty doing this. On the other hand, I've also heard stories and have met other couples' parents who came here with no problem, it seems. That may directly be due to these parents having enough assets--I wouldn't know, didn't ask.
Unfortunately, her parents are not wealthy. They barely get by on the farm they live on/own.
1) So does anyone know what our chances are of succeeding at this?
2) What kind of visa is this?
3) I suppose Guangzhou is the only city that issues whatever type visa this is?
4) Timeline--is it K1/K3 excruciating hell all over again?
On another note, what is the deal with Chinese tradition of mothers after the child is born? I've heard things from not bathing to staying in bed for 2 months. I know of no doctor that would recommend that, and I cannot seem to find proof or evidence of any facts that state this rectifies anything. Other than the stories of old chinese women who have constant head pain that was caused by not following this tradition...
Any help on the visa info is much appreciated, thanks in advance.
The Truth about Chinese Women.
in Culture & Language Discussion
Posted
And I still dont care.