I understand more now. Thank you. I hope that you don't have to much trouble.
This is an experience that I had:
My next door neighbor had diabetes and was not able to take care of himself so my wife cooked his meals and I took care of his house and the yard. We did this for 5 years free of charge. He was a good neighbor and friend and always share whatever he had with us and we did the same with him. We were that close. His brothers had him put in a VA hospital some 2 1/2 hours away so we did not get to see him much over the last 5 years of his life but we still took care of his yard and when I cut my grass and did my weed eating I did his too. If if had not been for me it would have grown up so much that you could not have even been able to see it from the road which it had done before he bought it. His house was something like 80 years old. He had remodeled it and it looked good but had fallen into disrepair over the years that he lived there and the 5 remaining years that he spent in the VA nursing home. He was a great ole guy and a good friend and did a lot for my mother after my father passed away.
He had his brothers bring him home so that he could say goodby to all of his friends one weekend. My wife was at the end stage of her cancer but was able to get over to see him twice. Then his brothers took him back to the nursing home and he passed away about 2 months later. Unknown to the wife and I while he was home he hand wrote his will in front of a notary public that worked for his two brothers and the two brothers witnessed it, he signed it and the notary public put her seal on it and also signed it. But they never had it recorded in the courthouse as he ask them to do. One other thing is that ole Bill had a son that he did not want to get anything. So he left him one dollar. In his will he left the house to my wife and I. It sat on only 1/3 of a acre so it was not worth much but he wanted us to have it.
After he died and before he was even buried his 20 year estranged wife came down from Virginia and put everything he had in the yard and had a yard sale. The two brothers gave her the will and she saw where he had left the house to us and nothing for HER favorite son. There were 3 son's. She immediately tore the will into at least 100 pieces. Well it was not recorded in the court house and there was only one copy. His two brothers took the pieces and put them back together and taped them up and took it to the clerk of superior court and she told them no good, sorry about that. So Bill's wife disposed of the property as she pleased and we were never given a chance to even make an offer to purchase the house.
The point that I am trying to make, because of what happened to me is: If you are terminally ill and you want something done the way that you want it done is you have to do it yourself. You can not depend on anyone not even your brothers to take care of it for you. When it comes my time if I have the time, baring a stroke or heart attack etc etc, I will do the best that I can to get everything in order before I kick the bucket.
I also had a aunt that married a man that who's father had a lot of farm and forest land. He died of cancer and left no will. The 9 children fought tooth and nail over this property for 35 years. Some of them even passed away before the estate was ever settled. I think that all the lawyers got the lion's share.