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Merry Christmas to everyone!

How is Catherine doing? She was fighting a whole day last Thursday.

In the morning I called my leasing office to tell them that my kitchen sink was stuffed. I needed a plameI was using my brandnew cup drawing some circles for three 11-year-old girls on a table where we four sat. My cup was a gift from my principal months ago. I tagged my name on it. When I was helping, right to my face, two girls said, "This cup is from China, very dirty, China is dirty, yuck-----, this cup smells bad, yuck----"

Hey, Guys, what would you feel if you were me at present? How do you respond at this silly saying? I should have controlled myself from losing temper but at the time with my emotional impulse, I yelled at them loudly. Later I felt very much shamed. They are children. I should not have taken the remark personally. Other teachers must judge me bad now.

 

Then after I came back to my apartment, my kitchen was flooded. The leasing office ignored me completely. Again, I yelled. What do you do if it were you? None of the things will happen to you, I keep my fingers cross for you. Again I was ashamed of myself not being able to "pretend" to be a graceful lady.

 

I heard, in America, if you offend someone, the person may take off your car wheels to revenge on you. Is that so? Xiexie for listening to me with your eyes.

Catherine

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I don't have a long, insightful answer for you. Sure, you wished you had made the moment a teaching moment rather than react "normally".

 

In the end, if you were a full time teacher, the sadness of experiencing young children whose parents have filled their character with lame, insecure beliefs would wear you down.

 

You had one of those days. Maybe you won't receive any pushback from the parents (the kids will be fine, might even pause to reconsider the values they are learning!).

 

Around here, people hold a high opinion of you and that means something!

 

I've always kind of wondered what are you doing in OK anyway ....

 

By the way, you know why they call it "OK", don't you?

 

It's too hard for them to spell "mediocre"!

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My gosh woman, YOU DID NOTHING WRONG.

1) Those girls needed yelling at. It was a learning moment for them, and they may remember it now.

2) You told the office of the problem and they were lazy. They needed yelling to do their job.

 

Now the only thing one can do is apologize later, but a good yell in the heat of the moment is perfectly appropriate, and normal. The apology later is what is unusual, but you can make a good friend this way.

 

2 boys fighting many times become best friends after. It's a shame we have wussed out our boys to where there are few fights at school anymore. Parents don't seem to teach discipline to their kids as much, so your yelling at those girls was needed. If you still feel bad, do something kind for them. Make a friend...

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Catherine, I am kind of like Doug. We have pampered our children so much in the last 25 years until it makes me wonder who is in charge us or them. I have had many friends that had preschool children that ruled the house. There could have been many ways to have handled that situation I suppose, as usual, but when I was that age it would have been handled with a paddle on the behind with yelling. I would not take it to seriously no matter what anyone says they deserved it and some yelling at their parents, from which they learned it from need some yelling at too for not teaching their children at least a little bit of manners. It's just the way it is now a days in America.

 

I am with Doug on the sink thing too. The problem should have been taken care in short order. Americans wonder why we have lost so many jobs to China. This is a prime example. I am still trying to get my mothers house in order to rent it out but can't get anyone to work. I go out to the local lumber/hardware company, which my first cousin's husband is the manager, and tell him about it and he says that he hears ALL the time how they can't get any work. Well the reason is that they don't really want to work and when they do they want to pick and choose their jobs. I got out of bed just last night at 5 o'clock worrying how in the heck I was going to get things done with her house. I know how but am unable to physically anymore. I just had the hot water heater replaced and when I went in to check the job out the installer had dropped it and busted it all to heck and tried his best to hammer it back into shape. Now he won't answer his phone or his messages that I leave him and he lives 200 miles away.

 

Don't fret over it everyone has those days. Every one of us. Just pick yourself up dust yourself off and keep on smiling and keep on going.

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Anger is the calling of care and conscience.

 

It is our nature to have anger. Otherwise, a lot of things would never have gotten done. Jonas Salk was an extremely angry man, very hard to get along with. He discovered the vaccine for polio.

 

Understand that you got angry because you care about what people say not only about China but other things that cut to your heart. There was no real harm done. Children are resilient and now they know they have a teacher who they should respect for her heritage. And certainly we know, and you should realize, you are not an angry person all the time.

 

An example:

 

 

How do you become one of the world’s greatest living inventors? By being “always angry,” says Shuji Nakamura, and “asking why, why, why?” His boss told him there could be no such thing blue light-emitting diodes, and “I became so angry at my boss I told him to let me do it.” He found a way, and thereby made possible every flat-screen display and LED light bulb in existence. He won a Nobel Prize for that late last year, and last night he was inducted into the National Hall of Fame, which recognizes the greatest inventors who hold U.S. patents.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/frederickallen/2015/05/13/anger-is-the-mother-of-invention-the-amazing-accomplishments-of-this-years-inductees-into-the-national-inventors-hall-of-fame/#7472657f2cf6

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Hi Friends, I didn't make it clear. They are "special" children in the special education. They are typically slow and reacting abnormal. that is why I was feeling shameful because I became "special" too. I pulled the girls to their normal teacher and blurted out my anger in front of their teacher's face.

I yelled, "I'm grateful, because of you, I'm employed and because of you, I know what American children are like," I continued, "You should be grateful too. America borrowed millions of money from China, that's why you have food to eat today. That's why you are not starving." I guess their teachers were not comfortable with my remark. In the end, I gave my cup to the girl who offended me most. I said it was my Christmas gift to her in order to remind her of how to behave polite.

The next day, the girl asked me math questions in the classroom as if nothing happened. I helped her with a smile. Like you guys said, "fighting builds friendship too". So I'm ashamed of myself. Other teachers may judge me.

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Generally I'm very good at school. Most of the teachers like me. They invite me to their church, their home for Christmas and their classroom. They are curious with Chinese food. So I teach them how to cook potatoes in Chinese way. I also teach them to fry tomatoes with eggs. Last Christmas I got many gifts from the coworkers. My boss gave me 100 dollars. So I've never left the school. I'm doing the second contract.

oh, in the beginning of my job, a man teacher was rude to me once. I yelled at him loudly. but soon we became good. At least he knows that I'm not to bully.

best wishes

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Catherine, Hi. Sounds like you had a very rough day. Most of us have them. I hope you have a better one tomorrow. Is everything going smoothly now? It sounds like the kids have forgotten the incident already. That is good. Patience must be hard thing to have sometimes in a teaching environment. Hopefully the teacher(s) have some of the patience we are talking about. Patience realizing that you were having a bad day. I would be cautious in the future. There are some who take criticism poorly. Talk poorly about the US and some people can be very unforgiving and able able to understand a different point of view. So how many days till Christmas. Hope they are great for you. Danb

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Hi Friends, I didn't make it clear. They are "special" children in the special education. They are typically slow and reacting abnormal. that is why I was feeling shameful because I became "special" too. I pulled the girls to their normal teacher and blurted out my anger in front of their teacher's face.

I yelled, "I'm grateful, because of you, I'm employed and because of you, I know what American children are like," I continued, "You should be grateful too. America borrowed millions of money from China, that's why you have food to eat today. That's why you are not starving." I guess their teachers were not comfortable with my remark. In the end, I gave my cup to the girl who offended me most. I said it was my Christmas gift to her in order to remind her of how to behave polite.

The next day, the girl asked me math questions in the classroom as if nothing happened. I helped her with a smile. Like you guys said, "fighting builds friendship too". So I'm ashamed of myself. Other teachers may judge me.

 

I am familiar with special ed kids too and they take some extra time and patience and really someone special to teach them. But I have found them to be even more resilient than so-called "normal" kids. Some of the autistic kids need some very special care. And let's not talk about gifted.

 

As to China's loan of $3.9 trillion dollars loaned by China....be careful. It is now $1.6 trillion and China was actually privileged to provide that loan. It keeps the yuan down so their exports are cheaper. The dollar keeps rising in world markets, making it a better place to invest, but China reaps the benefit of more jobs for its people. All in all, the US has food but not because China loaned us the money. The total debt at the time was much more than the $3.9 trillion and China has held a large debt for some time, even before the recent crisis.

 

What would be very dangerous for China is to have the US pay back all its debt. That would put China's 1.4 billion people in jeopardy of a job, which hits very close to the dinner table.

 

https://www.thebalance.com/u-s-debt-to-china-how-much-does-it-own-3306355

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HI Friends, good to come here again.

Greg, Ok is Oklahoma. Why do you say it is "Mediocre"? I'm curious and want to learn.

 

Allon, The loan topic between China and America is the very thing that I feel bad. I should not have brought it up.

 

Our kids are never easy. One boy often kicks his desk suddenly and violently to the floor when the teacher is teaching. One girl steals whatever she sees from the teacher's table. Her own grandma was caught while shoplifting right in front of her face. There're problems with other children too.

 

It's hard to teach them math and English. I'm not a certified teacher but I teach a lot. I tell myself from time to time that I should be grateful. As soon as I landed in OK America, I was employed. The payment is enough to support myself. I have every reason to be grateful though the job is a stepping stone for me. I'll move up to a better job.

Have a good one

Catherine

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Re: the OK/mediocre joke

 

I was at a rodeo in Colorado and the announcer - who is usually a good chunk of the entertainment - introduced the next rider who was from Oklahoma.

 

That's when the announcer told the OK joke to the packed arena and it got a good laugh.

 

The joke works because of the homonyms (remember phonics?) "OK" and "okay".

 

The joke being that the Colorado announcer is insinuating that Oklahoma is mediocre. Since the mediocre Okie's can't spell "mediocre" they say their state is "just okay" (also not a compliment). okay <-> OK <-> mediocre

 

P.s. Don't try that joke at work

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