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I feel like we should introduce ourselves here, so we will know each other better, not just a name and picture :drunk:

 

See if you can cover below items in your introduction :

  • Your profession in China
  • Your relation with US: came as K1, spouse, others? When did you arrive in the US? Are you a citizen?
  • Any culture shocks in the first year ?
  • Your current profession or your plan.
  • Any children?
  • Anything you like about US?
  • Anything you miss from China?
  • Anything else you'd like CFL know

 

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I will start with myself.

 

"Hello everyone :bye1: , I'm Joecy". I like the 2nd sister "Jo" in the novel little women, so I picked my English name as Joe, but people say it's a boy's name so, I added "cy". I was born in Chengdu, grew up in Shanghai, worked as Marketing Communication for many years, met my husband through work, got married in Shanghai.

 

In 2012, I arrived in the US in Philadelphia, first half years were full of culture shocks: I didn't know when to say "excuse me" when walking into American's personal bubble, this happened many times in grocery stores; I chased geese and squirrels, which was later defined as "stressing animals" by my husband; Language is hard. On every weekend, I would stop talking, nor English or Chinese, my brain was fried! I was also disconnected from China town and Chinese church, my friendship were all virtual with my friends/family in China.

 

I was frustrated with finding jobs. Through a friend's personal journey, I was inspired to volunteer at a none profit organization for women, while working in a cookie store for part time. The volunteer experience led to my current none profit dream: create a platform to help Chinese immigrant women strive in the US. I produce a bilingual magazine with my own saving. Now the first issue is printed, hope people would like to subscribe, and let me what do you think.The first issue is free.

 

I have 3 girls, two (by marriage) in high school and 1 in elementary, and a male cat to balance the family dynamics.

In the US, I found myself cherish Chinese traditions, family and friends, way more than in China; I like to find the differences between US and China, this has becomes the drive for me to learn and grow.

 

CFL is a very special platform. I hope more Chinese women with similar experiences will join us, and feel safe to share here.

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I will try this for many know my english no good.

me now together here with cfl 5 year now.

 

I am Chongqing girl.

I meet my husband (nuworld) on internet in 2005.

we chat on email only for one year.

 

my husband decide to come to chongqing and visit me in 2006 for two week.

we marry each other for it feel right. (my family very no happy)

 

husband go home to america and take care of visa papers.

he send k3 and cr1 together.

 

one year and one day after marriage book we go for interview for k3 visa.

during interview no questions asked only man in window say you visa changed to cr1

and give my blue paper.

 

blue paper say need medicine shots.

i get question taken care of same day of interview and try to get visa again.

man in window say wait 90 days and then we give you visa.

 

90 days now all gone and i have visa.

my husband can not be with me for travel to america for his work to busy.

i must travel alone to new country.

 

for me this no problem for me smart girl.

husband buy me airplane ticket and i arrive in american on 08/27/2008

 

at first i find america very difficult to understand but i learn fast.

 

for first few week i stay at home and fix it for more liking for both of us.

then my husband get me job at his company.

 

that was 6 years ago and me still work at same company and make good money.

 

we now have 8 years marriage book together.

new house, new car with no payment and a new house in chongqing.

 

visa very difficult to get but every people get visa.

maybe take longer for some to get but feel good latter when get visa.

 

america is good to me but me still miss china.

though my life in china small no good as younger girl me still miss my land.

 

our marriage book together is very good and me feel will last forever.

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I've made a statement about myself in my profile. I got married in China and lived in China so I had my permanent GC automatically in 2012 when going through the customs. I skipped lots of paper jobs. After I landed in the freeland, I took some online courses given by The Oklahoma Department of Mental Health And Substance Abuse Service majoring in counselling. I passed the tests and granted two qualifications. One is "The Oklahoma Institute for Mental Health and Substance Abuse Education and Training Award” for BHRS training completion of continuing education. Another is an award on Client Assessment Record completion. This program provides one CEU for psychologist, social workers, licensed professional counselors, licensed marital and family therapists, licensed alcohol and drug counselors. I know my English vocabulary is not large enough to counsel adults. But I love being with students. Therefore, I hope I can be a counselor to school kids. However, I don't know what good the two qualifications will bring me and I don't know what else I should do in order to be a professional children counselor. Different states have different qualification requests.

So far I was in the United States less than half a year!

I wonder who is a counselor by profession on our forum?

I have three desires for my American life.

(1) to counsel school kids

(2) to teach Chinese to university students

(3) to be a certified nursing assistant

 

Everyone's life is in God's hands. But I like to know if there are professional counselors on this forum who can give me some nudges. I'll appreciate a lot!

 

Best wishes to everyone!

Catherine

 

 

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I'm living in China to take care of my retirement. I'll move to the United States for good in 2015.

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Good luck Catherine. From our talks I don't see anything standing in your way to be anything that you want to be. You certainly have the intelligence that's for sure. Keep learning as much as you can about the english language that is the key. You already have a handle on that. As you can see from being in the US for 6 months and being on this forum we Americans like to talk with a lot of slang so although it is not proper english it is still important because almost everyone uses it.

 

Good luck

Larry

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Welcome Zhenghong! Thank you for sharing your journey!

I was in Chengdu, very close to Chongqing.

Do you cook spicy food at home(你在家做辣菜吗?)

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Catherine,

 

You are such a good role model for all Chinese ladies. You know what you are passionate about, and you took action! - finishing 2 online courses and got qualified is not easy!

 

Like Larry said, I believe you will succeed once you set your direction!

The whole universe will work it's magic to help you achieve your goal!

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Hi Everyone, I am Ruby, I am from Liaoning Province, I came to the US in January, 2010 through K-1 Visa, and got married in MS. Before I came to the US, I was a student in College, I have never worked in China. I started working for an office under SSA since November, 2010, I really enjoy helping people who are in need, especially the ones who are grateful. I always take my time listening to their concerns when they call, and try to answer their questions with my best ability, sometimes I feel like I would make a good therapist, I can understand how stressful it must be for people who go through medical illness and financial problems.

On weekends, My husband and I volunteer at a local animal shelter, I mostly help with their event, we transport several dogs and cats to local PetSmart/PetCo for adoption, and a lot of them get adopted faster than being at the shelter. When I first started volunteering in 2011, I always want to bring all of them home at the end of day if they are not adopted...but over the years, my husband said it seems I am not as emotional as before...the truth is that I know I can't take them all home...and I will continue do my part to help them find a good home.

I rescued my dog from the shelter three years ago, she was found walking on the street by a police officer, he took her to the shelter, after they examined her, they found out she was pregnant, however, none of her puppies survived due to her poor health. When I first saw her, she was in her kennel trying to hide her food under the newspaper, I felt so sad. I got her out of kennel to spend some time with her, she couldn't stop trembling, I felt so sorry for her, especially after hearing she recently lost her babies. My husband and I took her home that day. She didn't have a name when we adopted her because she was a stray, my mother-in-law named her "Sugar" because she is snowwhite and sweet. Now Sugar is very spoiled by both my husband and I, she always jump in bed when I get in bed even though she has her own comfortable bed, it seems she just wants to get close to us.

My husband and I are expecting our first baby in January, 2015. I hope Sugar will not feel left out, and love the baby as much as we love her. :victory:

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Thank you for your wonderful story Ruby. I have always owned a dog but when the last one passed away I could not get another one it's just painful. My wife still has her little bed in out bedroom. She just can't bring herself to take it out

 

We will be waiting for some pictures of you and your husbands new arrival. :cheering: So don't forget.

 

Larry

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Love your story, Ruby! My eyes became watery reading how you adopted Sugar. You have such a kind heart, not easy to always be patient to listen... You will be a great mom!!

 

And thank you for moderating this forum.

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Thank you for your wonderful story Ruby. I have always owned a dog but when the last one passed away I could not get another one it's just painful. My wife still has her little bed in out bedroom. She just can't bring herself to take it out

 

We will be waiting for some pictures of you and your husbands new arrival. :cheering: So don't forget.

 

Larry

I can't imagine how painful it must be for you and your wife....sometimes I think to myself what if one day Sugar is gone, how desperate I would be...

I told my husband that we would not get another dog... but I will continue volunteering at the shelter to help other dogs..

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Love your story, Ruby! My eyes became watery reading how you adopted Sugar. You have such a kind heart, not easy to always be patient to listen... You will be a great mom!!

 

And thank you for moderating this forum.

Thanks, Joecy! I always enjoy telling people about Sugar, she is a sweetheart, and I am very glad to have her... she is very protective too, when I walk with her outside, if a stranger approaches to me, she would walk right in front of me, and bark at the stranger, it is really cute to see such a little dog barking like a big guard dog.....

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