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Thanks to everyone!

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I hate when i read things and there's not ending. So I wanted to close the book on this.

 

Since writing this I went on the visit a total of 4 times during our wait. It seemed like it took forever since we waited through the CSC slow down, and some other paperwork complications including waiting for the consulate to move.

 

I have learned that on any of these forums there are people that are knowledgeable and helpful, people with their own opinions, and people that just cause you to worry.

 

I almost broke up with my fiance' because of the advice of others. Basically telling me there wasn't much hope...

 

So much has changed since i wrote this question, forms have changed, scheduling has changed, and the China consulate has moved to an entirely different location, the point is you won't know where this journey leads until you follow it until the end.

 

Our interview was on August 12, 2013 at 8:30am, Lili was approved within 5 minutes.

 

I would say that the best advice I received is to visit as often as possible. They are very likely to ask that question at the interview and could possibly ask for the evidence to support it. My own advice would be to prepare the paperwork as carefully as possible.

 

Good luck to anyone who may read this in the future...

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Thanks to everyone. We maintain a positive attitude and look forward to the challenges ahead. I'll post any updates as they occur.

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Another thing to consider with a young wife is children. Almost a given she WILL want to make babies, do you? This needs to factor in. A BIG thing in Chinese culture is children however in the states we have the companion mentality and in many cases want just a companion without children, this may be an issue.

 

Study the problems forum.

Here is a recent topic http://candleforlove...to-have-a-baby/

 

Ah yes, this issue is certainly not a simple one. We have discussed it, are in agreement right now, and will continue to discuss it as the relationship grows and the visa issues develop.

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Question: If the barriers appeared insurmountable, would you be willing to throw in the towel and withdraw and say good-bye? If yes, then do so now.

 

As this is the type of relationship which causes all of our problems we relate; The VOs know this based on age differences, marriageability, and dumb luck to meet the wrong person.

 

You have one great problem in the future: She can never understand your life and cultural experience; she can be all smiles and support but never, ever get it... if that is all you want in a life partner than maybe don't let go.

 

Personally, I don't quite get marrying a person who would be the same age as my daughter. But as you have no children you lack life experience too. I had a Shanghai girl of 22 ask me to get in a relationship... and I laughed... and she was quite serious and didn't understand me. I stated fairly simply (and she understood english very good): I am not sure how my daughter would accept me marrying someone her age.

 

It was not that I would be embarrassed it was that I knew that she could not consider such an idea... and she was silent since she saw no problem with being the same age as my daughter... She only asked me again for a relationship. The inability to grasp the reality of what I said is Chinese to the core. At least I got the last laugh by being able to step backwards and see the future together.

 

 

Actually this whole exchange as solidified my resolve to move forward. And Lili is right there by my side, giving me hope, and making me see the possibilities of what we could have.There are many people that have met their spouse in China and other places in the world and not even been able to speak the same language and with an age difference, even many people on this site, and have been successful.

 

I was hung up on the age difference for quite a while, what other people might think, what would happen in the future, if it was right, those kinds of things. Then it occurred to me, this is a person that I’ve been relating to for months why would I let the math hurt us both when we enjoy being together so much? What I realized was that’s it much more important to look at how we communicate, what we give each other, how we solve problems, how we are together, if there is a problem with maturity or difference of culture then it will appear there. We’ve actually spoken many times about how we would handle our different philosophies and differences. But in reality we see things eye to eye more than in different directions.

 

Sure cultural differences can cause a problem, but at the same time they can make life so interesting. I have travelled through China since 2008 and really love the culture and am willing to embrace part of that into my life. At the same time she’s been exposed to a lot of western culture and she’s willing to embrace it as well.

 

Part of the problem is that the focus is on the number too much. My philosophies on life are even different than my own sister. And many people who are the exact same age don’t see life the same way, so why not focus on the reality of the relationship and not what it looks like on paper? Also everyone has different life experiences and all 22 year olds aren’t at the same maturity level, and I don’t have a daughter to worry about her opinion.

 

What I’ve come to realize is that some of the advice given here is tainted by personal opinions, so I don’t know how much I can’t trust some of it. But I really do appreciate those that have been supportive.

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Thank you for your words of encouragement. Yes, I do feel like a badminton birdie! I had this long emotional post all ready to go, but I will save it for now.

 

I was going to call to schedule a consultation, but email is a much better idea. I can put it down in writing and make sure I get all the details straight. I would think he would have a clear answer, at least I hope.

 

Thanks again!

 

A clear answer? Hmmmmm....not saying Marc won't have one, it's just tough to give a single definitive answer when there are so many variables, what if's, and such.

 

We all hope the best for you and your girlfriend. With any luck at all, she may well go to her interview and walk away with an approval. I've seen much closer (to the interview date of all things) divorce finalization dates of the American than what you report here. Yes, you have some age difference....I've seen almost that many years in age difference with a guy and his girlfriend, plus he met her before his divorce was final....bingo, she still got the visa.

 

Then, you see them deny people for half of what others had, yet were successful with.

 

Another thing we've seen many times, usually I've found this out when folks in trouble PM'ed me....what we all speculated on Candle had absolutely nothing to do with the reasons Guangzhou denied the lady....there just are hardly any "clear answers" buddy.

 

I personally hate and despise speculation and conjecture as it was used against us in our case and it was totally DEAD WRONG, so I try my best never to speculate or conjecture on what a VO, or fella like Marc Ellis might would say to you.

 

Just e-mail Marc with a simple explanation of your case as it stands at this point. He could it on something none of us even thought about just as easily as he could agree with any of the thinking here. It's not that anyone is smarter than the other, it's just the nature of the beast in Guangzhou. I'm not joking when I say "luck" is what rules the day with an interview. The Americans in the State Department in Guangzhou play the rules any way they feel like on any given day. You...We....have to stay flexible, keep our wits about us, and have tons of patience. They can do anything they want to, damn the rules, damn what you've seen happen to others whose red flags were much redder than yours....it's all about how lucky you are, not how smart you are.

 

Again, one of the best (lets hope you and your girl never need this) and strongest things I see about you and your woman is your willingness to use time to succeed. Many folks are impatient and that can be a deal breaker should they encounter problems along the way.

 

If you guys encounter problems, keep your focus as to your goal. Keep your patience, and never lose sight of the fact of how time is your strongest tool. She Will get her visa. The people in the State Department can delay you but they can never tear a bona fide relationship apart....unless you let them.

 

My guess is the USCIS will approve your case in America, and the paperwork will be forwarded to the State Department in Guangzhou. There are many parts to an immigration petition. It would have been nice to have met you guys before you filed but while we don't have that luxury you will have a lot of support here should you need it. You may well have strengths (like a strong financial history) that will over shadow many types of "red flags"

 

You guys stay strong and think positive

 

tsap seui

 

I really appreciate the support and encouragement.

 

We do have some have some positives going for us despite some of the challenges. And I hope some things like communication, attitude, and confidence are considered when the case may be marginal. She's willing to prepare, and already has a positive attitude, so maybe that will get us over the hump.

 

I've sent an email to Marc, if/when I receive a reply, I will post his suggestion.

 

Thanks!

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I hate being the poster child for red flag issues, and every time I think there's a reasonable solution someone throws a wrench in the plan. I know everyone is trying to help, but it is quite discouraging.

 

She is from a divorced family, her mother remarried but her step father died last year. Her father doesn't have much communication with her and lives in another province, as well as her brother. So some of the normal family expectations aren't as strong. At 45 and 22 or 46,47 and 23,24 we could still have a family, waiting for five years is really not reasonable. Even though I was married before I don't have children.

 

I don't think that 45, and 22 are commonplace here. It seems the age gap happens more with 50+. has anyone seen this exact situation before?

 

I think the red flag issues with my K-1 are obvious so I don't know that its worth the time and expense to follow through with it. Or do I have to go through with it now to save face?

 

I don't mind putting the time in to grow the relationship and apply for the CR-1 next year. I just want to know that its even possible.

 

If I sound frustrated I am, please forgive me. I will try to consult with someone

 

Whew....buddy, your emotions have got to be feeling like a badminton birdie about now, knocked every which way but loose, desperately wanting to be with your girl (like yesterday), and in a few months facing an interview in a place that at on a good day is a highly arbitrary crap shoot.

 

Ya got some good advice from some knowledgeable people who all hope the best for a favorable outcome for you guys.

 

I highly admire you both for being mentally prepared and willing to pull the K-1 case from the USCIS, wait some time, get married, wait some time and then file a CR-1. That right there is the sort of winning attitude that it takes a couple should the shit hit the fan. Never forget the power of time, especially if you run into trouble down the road with the State Department.

 

You guys WILL get the visa...it could either come at the end of a K-1 interview in a few months, or it may be at a later date, but you will get her visa.

 

I do not think you should pull your case right now.

 

Yes, it is a shame you didn't land on Candle before you filed the K-1, get all this sage advice and file a couple of years later but honestly, I wouldn't pull the plug on the K-1. Hell, we've got and seen characters who got their divorces finalized in America only weeks or months before their girlfriend had her interview in Guangzhou...and their girls got their visas. It is all a crap shoot, one where luck rules the day. You can literally think of the interview as a pick the "lucky ducky" contest at a small town carnival.

 

My gut feeling is don't pull the K-1, see where it leads. Look at the dynamics here....you would be pulling the K-1 to buy more time together with your girl....and you're looking to add on what? Another year, year and a half of time together as stronger proof.

 

My thinking is you are going to get more "time" together, should you even need it, if they deny her at the K-1. Thing is, no one here can state for a fact that she will be denied at that K-1. We've seen worse time of divorce cases than yours and those women got their K-1 visas. It's all arbitrary, man.

 

One way or the other, should you need it, you are going to get a year, year and a half of "time"rather you pull the plug yourself, or the DOS denies her.

 

Why not drop Marc Ellis an e-mail and ask that specific question..."Should I pull the case at this point?"

 

I like Marc, and talked to him a few times. I did not use his service as he himself even admitted we probably didn't even need him, but he talked very candidly with me about Guangzhou, and he would most likely tell you to pull, or not to pull the K-1 at this point....for free.

 

You could always use Marc should your girl get denied.

 

Don't count your girl out just yet. I like David's words to his woman, it's a process of 3 to five years (or however he put it)....yes, it can be a five year journey....the jackals in Guangzhou hold all the cards and with a total lack of oversight they can do as they damn well please... including giving a woman a K-1 visa even though she had a short relationship with her American man after his divorce date.

 

I also like you and your girl's attitude to do whatever it takes to be together. Don't lose that attitude, no matter what.

 

Good luck to you guys. My hope is your success at the K-1 interview. Should things fail there, you will prevail at the next, CR-1 or IR-1, interview.

 

The time you guys are willing to invest now is testament of your commitment to each other. It will carry you through should Guangzhou deny her. T I M E is your friend, and the most powerful tool in your toolbox.

 

tsap seui

 

Thank you for your words of encouragement. Yes, I do feel like a badminton birdie! I had this long emotional post all ready to go, but I will save it for now.

 

I was going to call to schedule a consultation, but email is a much better idea. I can put it down in writing and make sure I get all the details straight. I would think he would have a clear answer, at least I hope.

 

Thanks again!

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I hate being the poster child for red flag issues, and every time I think there's a reasonable solution someone throws a wrench in the plan. I know everyone is trying to help, but it is quite discouraging.

 

She is from a divorced family, her mother remarried but her step father died last year. Her father doesn't have much communication with her and lives in another province, as well as her brother. So some of the normal family expectations aren't as strong. At 45 and 22 or 46,47 and 23,24 we could still have a family, waiting for five years is really not reasonable. Even though I was married before I don't have children.

 

I don't think that 45, and 22 are commonplace here. It seems the age gap happens more with 50+. has anyone seen this exact situation before?

 

I think the red flag issues with my K-1 are obvious so I don't know that its worth the time and expense to follow through with it. Or do I have to go through with it now to save face?

 

I don't mind putting the time in to grow the relationship and apply for the CR-1 next year. I just want to know that its even possible.

 

If I sound frustrated I am, please forgive me. I will try to consult with someone

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So since we met in June of this year. Would it make sense to get married in China in say July 2013, and then submit the paper work for the CR-1? I would have had 4 trips or so before the marriage and a 2-3 more during the waiting process.

Ultimately it is your decision.

 

But that sounds like a reasonable course of action.

1. Withdrawing the I-129F explaining that it was hasty, and you and fiancee wanted to develop relationship longer probably would look good and logical to USCIS.
   
2. Would give you more time to truly decide about relationship, and looks the same to the interviewing officer.
   
3. Gives more time to develop evidence of a bonafide relationship.
   

I would study the Post Interview forum paying attention to the denials.

 

http://candleforlove...erview-results/

Here is one relevant, Started as K-1, then switched to CR-1... http://candleforlove...nce-what-to-do/ ( This one was odd, petitioner did not elaborate about denial reason, however he did hint at over spending, sounded like a well off guy going for a trophy wife, something to avoid. )

 

 

Yes I'll let it settle for a couple of days but I'm thinking this is the best plan of action. We can test out the relationship with our travels, make sure to take lots of photos, save our travel tickets, hotel receipts, etc, and make sure to document everything up the wazoo. Meanwhile I can study up on the denial reasons and do everything to avoid them. From what I understand age difference is not enough to deny a visa as long as everything else is in place. So I'll manage all the details, make sure she's prepared and involved, and front load the petition with as much information as possible, including the EOR letter.

 

I spoke with her today and she doesn't have a problem with waiting and marrying in China, actually she said as long as I come up with an "awesome" proposal.

 

 

I really appreciate the help!

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I have seen one board member do just that. They decided too many red flags and withdrew the I-129F and took time to build relationship and eventually married over there and then filed an I-130 for spouse visa, they are now happily living in the USA

 

Is it possible to withdraw the I-129F now, wait for a few months and then send in a new I-129F, with more trips and time under our belt?

 

Or does cancelling mean we have to take a different route?

You can always file another I-129F no different route.

 

It is up to you what you want to do.

 

If were me I would develop the relationship over a year or so, and if were me, probably get hitched over there, and do the spouse visa route.

 

As Carl said the K-1 affords the option in a denial to further develop relationship and marry then do a CR-1 visa. In this case, it is advisable to pay attention to what USCIS does with the denied K-1 case, they tend to do one of three things.

1. They believe the consulate was in error and reaffirms the petition and sends it back to consulate for another interview.
   
2. They consider case to have expired since in most cases the consulate interviews beyond the 4 months after USCIS approved the I-129F.
   
3. They accepts the decision of the consulate and sends petitioner an notice of intent to revoke, if petitioner fails to respond, they mark the case as such with a mark of misrepresentation, which can affect future petitions such as a spouse visa.
   

The positive aspects of CR-1.

• Costs less Petition to Green-card, less than $1000
  
• Gets a green-card upon entry to the USA, no waiting 4 to 10 months after marriage.
  
• Can take a job, or even travel immedately after arriving in the USA (Allowed by green-card status)
  
• Can apply for a learners permit and work tward getting a driver's license shortly after arriving in the USA
  
• Petition processing is not much longer than I-129F
  

As for K-1

• Fees exceed $1800 Petition to Green-Card (I-129F, then after marriage I-485)
  
• Cannot seek work till after getting EAD or Green-card from filing to adjust status.
  
• Cannot travel out of country till having advance parole or green-card from adjustment of status.
  
• Most states will not issue ID or learners permit till having SSN and Evidence of legal status (EAD or Green-card)
  
• The PLUS, If denied, can make an attempt the CR-1 route
  
• K-1 use to be desirable because it was the quicker visa, but with improvements at USCIS, NVC and Consulate make the CR-1 nearly as quick as the K-1 by about 1 month or so.
  
• One other point, K-1 is a visa type for cases where getting married overseas is difficult to impossible, in cases where there are Religious, Social, or local government blocks preventing a marriage, that do not exist in the USA.
  

 

So since we met in June of this year. Would it make sense to get married in China in say July 2013, and then submit the paper work for the CR-1? I would have had 4 trips or so before the marriage and a 2-3 more during the waiting process.

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I have seen one board member do just that. They decided too many red flags and withdrew the I-129F and took time to build relationship and eventually married over there and then filed an I-130 for spouse visa, they are now happily living in the USA

 

Is it possible to withdraw the I-129F now, wait for a few months and then send in a new I-129F, with more trips and time under our belt?

 

Or does cancelling mean we have to take a different route?

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I did not intend to disparage your fiancee, I don't know her. I was merely pointing out how a VO might view your petition. Many men here have married much younger women than themselves and had successful outcomes. The difference is most of these women were in their 30s not 20s. It is an issue you should take seriously.

 

I didn't take it that way. I know that you were just trying to paint a realistic picture. I just want to know that there's a light at the end of the tunnel, even if it requires some time and frustration. My worst fear is that we get denied and I waste time fighting through it for a couple of years with nothing to show at the end. And both of us end up heartbroken and disappointed.

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Put yourself in the VO's shoes and wonder, what does a 22 year old woman see in a man twice her age? A 23 year age difference between a 55 year old and 32 year old is different that a 45/22. It is also my opinion that the maturity level of an American 22 year old and Chinese 22 year old is much different. Americans encourage individualism and self reliance. Most 22 year old Chinese I have met are at about the same level as a 16-18 year old American.

 

I understand the perception. But the reality is that she is more mature than her age. I have fought with that issue myself since we met, and the more sure I become about her, the more the visa issue seems to be the problem.

 

Is there away through this? Is it an impossible situation?

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Age here with the other considerations could be a problem.

 

My opinion, (from here-say mostly) is that a recent divorce, coupled with a much younger Chinese woman is inherently suspect --- the theory being that you are on the rebound, and thus, vulnerable to a visa scam. Coupled with that, is your limited contact with her in China.

 

Personally, if I were in your position, I'd put it off until you can spend more time with her in China, and build a better case for a committed relationship. ----Her good English is very much on the plus side. Still, if I were you, I'd spend more time in China to build a better case --- and yes, my wife is substantially younger than I am...

 

Remember, its the long experience here at the Candle, that some Consulate rejections, are never overcome.

 

By putting it off do you mean I should cancel the petition? or just delay the interview?

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Age here with the other considerations could be a problem.

 

My opinion, (from here-say mostly) is that a recent divorce, coupled with a much younger Chinese woman is inherently suspect --- the theory being that you are on the rebound, and thus, vulnerable to a visa scam. Coupled with that, is your limited contact with her in China.

 

Personally, if I were in your position, I'd put it off until you can spend more time with her in China, and build a better case for a committed relationship. ----Her good English is very much on the plus side. Still, if I were you, I'd spend more time in China to build a better case --- and yes, my wife is substantially younger than I am...

 

Remember, its the long experience here at the Candle, that some Consulate rejections, are never overcome.

I think this is spot-on advice but difficult at this point to withdraw the file and explain it... but there is cause for concern more than other cases.

 

The VOs know better than anyone that a US man is a ticket out of china and a young girl with very good english would know this too. At times, there are perceptions formed, whether true or not. It is hard to overcome this but all one can do is be assured of their life decisions and file and do the best they can.

 

Yes I am confident in the relationship. I have no worries about her intentions, but it doesn't mean others will see it that way.

 

If there is a denial, what can we expect to happen? Is there possibility she can never come here?

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This is one of those questions where "Yes-No" cannot apply... it "depends" on so many factors based on trends; in other words, what is the pulse of the consulate and the actual VO she will get 8 months from now and what day of the week is it and did they get their morning coffee hot enough, etc. We see the completely explainable and explainable in regards to such issues.

 

As Dan suggests, the best practice is to show knowledge of some issues with the initial filing of the I-129F. The reason this is missed by most is actually not a surprise since we do not recommend it for USCIS (who only cares if you qualify) but for GUZ, who will get the case file and thus an explanation of the issues. But at this point, it is not really necessary to talk about 'what should of been done' but rather what can be done now.

 

In general, previous marriages and timing to that divorce, fast courtships, fast filings, age difference, her city, her lack of english, her age, your income, may be 'unwritten' considerations but interview trends over the years show they can matter in some cases... and emphasis is on a moving target called, some cases.

 

Also in general, time together is more important than any amount of log files or emails you want to claim... 10,000 emails don't compare to a month together. So don't get any high hopes that the VOs care to see you produce 100 lbs of evidence since they don't care about evidence one wants to impress by volume; Time together is the one thing that seems to be the best indicator among the various factors at work. Since you have 2 trips already you are showing yourself to be different and that is a plus. If you can go one more time before the interview then you have set yourself apart even more.

 

My personal opinion having tracked interviews for many, many years now is that this is the best evidence to give them, absent a long relationship; time together. We have seen them deny people in suggesting they need to spend more time together first... and file again later. It is never quote spoken that way but that is their point. They don't always trust the fast relationship given the relationships they see come through each day/month/year claiming 'new found love'. They are realists and not optimists. I advise people to play their cards the same way.

 

What you can do:

1. Continue as you are... talk, chat and learn more about each other. Ultimately she is the one who faces the VO and answers the questions. She needs to know your life more intimately than you might think.

2. For the interview, you can prepare the kind of letter we said should go in the I-129F which is called an EOR "Evolution of Relationship". I would post it here for review (or in PM if you want to keep it private) and get some feedback... but you don't need to do this till closer to the interview as you'll have more time together at that point.

3. You should have your prior wife's complete information including contact info and SSN ready to hand over at the interview.

4. Pictures, pictures, pictures... varying settings of informal pictures are the best. She should have about 20 of the best for the interview...

5. Visit again if you can.

6. Prepare your fiancee mentally and psychologically that the interview is simply a review of the process and they will decide if it is ok to go to US now or you need to do something more... Most everyone thinks way too much like this is an entitlement; make sure you do let her simply rest on some belief that she should get this without any issue. This is not meant to be a worry to her. It is very simple: You applied and they decide something. Don't let it get emotional nor personal. Your life goal is to be together in the US and this is but one step you need to do... and the interview will let you know what is next. It is that simple. If they give the visa, she can come. If they deny or ask for info or whatever.... don't sweat it as unexpected... you do what they say to do... She needs to think of this as an important step (be prepared for the interview) and acceptance of the outcome (be prepared to pursuit the direction they say you need to go).

 

 

Thanks for the detailed response.This sounds like the most reasonable and logical way to handle this, I will follow the steps that you suggest. I'll visit as many times as possible, and hopefully there will be as much as 6-8 weeks of quality time together with lots of pictures before the interview date. Also I will make sure everything is organized and that she has the EOR letter in hand when she goes to the interview (i read somewhere it's a good idea to hand it off right in the beginning).

 

I don't wand to focus on the negative, but being prepared as much as possible is just the smart thing to do. On the upside we have some positive things going for us, so hopefully being prepared will help tilt the scales in our favor.

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I going to post again as to the idea of 'red flags' but I won't go into my usual grilling to you... but simply:

1. what is the age difference (each age)

2. what city is she from

3. does she have previous marriage/children

4. why is her english so good

5. has she traveled outside of china to other countries

 

1. I am 45, she is 22.

2. Foshan, but attending University in another city.

3. No

4. She has studied English throughout her schooling and is a member of the English society in her University.

5. She went with me to Thailand for a week.

 

I appreciate the help!

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Only issue at this point is you are asking this question after filing the I-129F, a recommendation is to attached to the petition filing a letter documenting relationship and exposing the possible issues to USCIS.

 

A good read from Marc Ellis: http://www.ilw.com/a...0323-ellis.shtm

 

So is this a major concern, minor concern, is there a possibility it won't even be mentioned?

 

And the documentation mention is something I should have attached to the I-129F?

 

Would it help to have a letter of explanation at the interview?

 

I could even get a letter from my ex-spouse stating the she was out of the country which delayed the process, we are on good terms.

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I started the K-1 process in September. Since then I have learned that being recently divorced is a red flag.

 

I met my fiancee online in June of this year while being separated, and my divorce was final in mid-August. My ex-wife (also an American) had a job that required travel (it's how I became interested in China) and she spent most of her time in the U.K. over the last year making it difficult to fit in the court dates to finalize everything. Also I have no children from the marriage.

 

So my question is, is this a reason for concern? Or is it more significant when the beneficiary is recently divorced?

 

Also there is an age gap with my fiancee, but on the positive side, she speaks excellent English and should be able to explain the situation if needed.

 

So my concern is the divorce and also the speed of the relationship with my new found love. Even though we have only known each other since June we have either texted, or video chatted on Skype twice a day for hours since meeting. We have gotten to know each other so well that we are now watching videos, reading stories to each other, and asking trivia questions just to keep the conversation going. I have hundreds of pages of chat logs if needed. I think we have ask and answered just about every personal and relationship question possible. Also, we spent two weeks together in late August, and we will meet again in late November for another two weeks.

 

This is my first attempt at sponsoring anyone for a visa.

 

Any input is greatly appreciated.